Ghoster18
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Join Date: Dec 2017
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Ghoster18
Just joined its 4.35 Am
Been in my alcohol, porn smoking addiction for 3 days.
I don't know What to say.
But apprehensive having a sexual addiction
Probably get judged.
Anyway don't really care I'm here to find a resource if you have a problem with S addict then go elsewhere. If you can connect with me cool! Been in SAA for quite a few years but I struggle to sober up.
2018 I'm going to give it everything!
I would like to receive emails as well, think I missed the confirmation button on my registration. Will give it some time see how I get on with this first. G bless.
Been in my alcohol, porn smoking addiction for 3 days.
I don't know What to say.
But apprehensive having a sexual addiction
Probably get judged.
Anyway don't really care I'm here to find a resource if you have a problem with S addict then go elsewhere. If you can connect with me cool! Been in SAA for quite a few years but I struggle to sober up.
2018 I'm going to give it everything!
I would like to receive emails as well, think I missed the confirmation button on my registration. Will give it some time see how I get on with this first. G bless.
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Join Date: Apr 2016
Location: UK
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Ghoster welcome to SR!
I suspect it's not uncommon to have multiple addictions. I know when I was actively drinking I did other things that, looking back, I'm not proud of at all. That's just me of course and I don't mean to make life of the sex addiction part at all.
Addiction for me is something I see/saw I many areas of my life. Alcohol, cigarettes, work, food, social media, spending money....... giving up alcohol has allowed me to make a start addressing everything else. Of course it was much more than that but what I'm trying to say is that I can now look objectively at my life and have the ability to make other changes in a sensible controlled way. I gave up smoking too this year (well - I now vape but I'm okay with that for now).
For what it's worth I'd commit to giving up alcohol first and straight away. One of the beautiful things about sobriety is that other compulsive behaviours just don't seem quite so appealing with a clear head.
Again welcome to SR!
I suspect it's not uncommon to have multiple addictions. I know when I was actively drinking I did other things that, looking back, I'm not proud of at all. That's just me of course and I don't mean to make life of the sex addiction part at all.
Addiction for me is something I see/saw I many areas of my life. Alcohol, cigarettes, work, food, social media, spending money....... giving up alcohol has allowed me to make a start addressing everything else. Of course it was much more than that but what I'm trying to say is that I can now look objectively at my life and have the ability to make other changes in a sensible controlled way. I gave up smoking too this year (well - I now vape but I'm okay with that for now).
For what it's worth I'd commit to giving up alcohol first and straight away. One of the beautiful things about sobriety is that other compulsive behaviours just don't seem quite so appealing with a clear head.
Again welcome to SR!
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It's just too much at the moment!
Thanks everyone
I need friends
I am a chronic isolator
I'm still in the ring with it
Cannot stop it.
My body is obviously charged up
Chemical alley
I'm so sensitive when I read the thread that said- Do we really need another guy here with multiple addictions. My hackles instantly went up... rejection etc but then the absolutely comment afterwards wekcoming me literally made me sob! Lol I
mean what am I like. I know there are others here who will get that level of neediness. It's not The real me. I'm stronger than that but there's no healing and power while I'm still acting out with alcohol and cigs.
For once in my life I need to stay here
Network and give it my all to sober up.
My mum and sister are sending me inspiring links. I told my mum I wanted her to due the other day if she didnt give me money. That's horrendous! I love her with all my heart.
Keep posting pls.
Ghoster
I need friends
I am a chronic isolator
I'm still in the ring with it
Cannot stop it.
My body is obviously charged up
Chemical alley
I'm so sensitive when I read the thread that said- Do we really need another guy here with multiple addictions. My hackles instantly went up... rejection etc but then the absolutely comment afterwards wekcoming me literally made me sob! Lol I
mean what am I like. I know there are others here who will get that level of neediness. It's not The real me. I'm stronger than that but there's no healing and power while I'm still acting out with alcohol and cigs.
For once in my life I need to stay here
Network and give it my all to sober up.
My mum and sister are sending me inspiring links. I told my mum I wanted her to due the other day if she didnt give me money. That's horrendous! I love her with all my heart.
Keep posting pls.
Ghoster
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Join Date: Dec 2017
Posts: 342
A plan
Get back to work next Tuesday
Get a routine going
Make amends to my sponsor
Because well it's complicated.
Talk about crapping on the ones who care for me.
Go through withdrawal or withdrool!
3 to 5 days with my addiction.
Then try to stop being proud of how goddam destructive I am.
I saw a therapist recently we had 12 sessions he was gradually getting me to feel my wound or wounds
I couldn't deal with it
Seriously I wanted to attack him.
I didn't go back.
I don't attack people I'm not that type of guy
But I've got emotional investment somewhere deep in me to protect My supply my bubble of addiction
When thAt gets tapped I struggle to process it.
This was the first time s therapist has ever knocked on that inner door.
My friends who I know in SAA with good recovery tell me I have to give my whole system time time time to 're balance body mind soul.
Gotta start walking the talk guys.
Get back to work next Tuesday
Get a routine going
Make amends to my sponsor
Because well it's complicated.
Talk about crapping on the ones who care for me.
Go through withdrawal or withdrool!
3 to 5 days with my addiction.
Then try to stop being proud of how goddam destructive I am.
I saw a therapist recently we had 12 sessions he was gradually getting me to feel my wound or wounds
I couldn't deal with it
Seriously I wanted to attack him.
I didn't go back.
I don't attack people I'm not that type of guy
But I've got emotional investment somewhere deep in me to protect My supply my bubble of addiction
When thAt gets tapped I struggle to process it.
This was the first time s therapist has ever knocked on that inner door.
My friends who I know in SAA with good recovery tell me I have to give my whole system time time time to 're balance body mind soul.
Gotta start walking the talk guys.
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Welcome Ghoster18,
I think you will see before long, that we are a family here. We have all struggled, suffered, and committed ourselves to recovery. We do understand how hard this is.
I was terrified to face my demands when I stopped drinking. It kept me stuck in my addiction longer than it should have. I remember having to decide to take that 'leap of faith'. I was so miserable, I finally knew that nothing could be worse than remaining stuck in the cycle of addiction.
I think you will see before long, that we are a family here. We have all struggled, suffered, and committed ourselves to recovery. We do understand how hard this is.
I was terrified to face my demands when I stopped drinking. It kept me stuck in my addiction longer than it should have. I remember having to decide to take that 'leap of faith'. I was so miserable, I finally knew that nothing could be worse than remaining stuck in the cycle of addiction.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 25,373
I agree that the first thing to tackle has to be the substance. Full sobriety from alcohol is the most important thing - and for many months, continuously.
That's the only way to break the other obsessions. Truly. I know where you're coming from and there is a way out.
Welcome.
That's the only way to break the other obsessions. Truly. I know where you're coming from and there is a way out.
Welcome.
to SR!
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Originally Posted by Ghoster18 
I am a chronic isolator
Until it doesn't anymore.
And the side effects are murder.
Come out of that cage, my friend! People aren't so bad. Not even you.
All of us against the addiction.
Welcome to the fight of your life.
You can do this.
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Finding navigating site bit challenging
Hi everyone
Thanks for your comments
I'm finding it a bit confusing to navigate around here
Its just took me half hour to find this post.
Anyone else have similar issues early on?
I want to use this site and sober up
Be a contributor to recovery.
It says there is no one online in the mobile chat area seems a bit odd.
I know it's me being a bit slow with it all.
Any suggestions on how to stay current.
I don't want multiple threads running and then lose contact
Ghoster
Thanks for your comments
I'm finding it a bit confusing to navigate around here
Its just took me half hour to find this post.
Anyone else have similar issues early on?
I want to use this site and sober up
Be a contributor to recovery.
It says there is no one online in the mobile chat area seems a bit odd.
I know it's me being a bit slow with it all.
Any suggestions on how to stay current.
I don't want multiple threads running and then lose contact
Ghoster
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 25,373
Just keep posting here if you want. Whatever you want to do is cool.
I don't use the chat...I'm no help there. Hopefully someone can help you. There is a Chat Forum...but I don't know how easy it is for navigating on a phone.
If you click your username, it will pull up your past posts, that may make it easier for you. I'm on a PC, it's pretty seamless.
I don't use the chat...I'm no help there. Hopefully someone can help you. There is a Chat Forum...but I don't know how easy it is for navigating on a phone.
If you click your username, it will pull up your past posts, that may make it easier for you. I'm on a PC, it's pretty seamless.
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