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You’ve got a healthy and inspiring worm, Vman!
The “extraordinary worm” is a phrase I heard somewhere in the mental health/recovery scene about the addict and his ego. We can’t just be normal. We have to be either the life of the party, etc., or the most miserable and pathetic creature who ever lived. We can’t just be simply good or bad—we have to go to the extreme. Thus the term “extraordinary worm.”
It doesn’t apply to everyone, but when it applies, it really applies!
The “extraordinary worm” is a phrase I heard somewhere in the mental health/recovery scene about the addict and his ego. We can’t just be normal. We have to be either the life of the party, etc., or the most miserable and pathetic creature who ever lived. We can’t just be simply good or bad—we have to go to the extreme. Thus the term “extraordinary worm.”
It doesn’t apply to everyone, but when it applies, it really applies!
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great opener Dee. I like the Pirsig quote, I've read the book more times than I can remember.
for me, at six-and-some months, it's been a year of huge change, overwhelmingly for the better. something I've found very useful is Mindfulness & I'm going to start an eight-week online course doing that in the new year. if anyone is interested, I might start a thread for motivation/accountability, to discuss, etc.
I've been doing some conservation volunteering the last few months, which I've found rewarding, as well as, hopefully, doing a little good. I'm going to start helping out at a local homeless shelter too - I've just booked onto the orientation/training session for next week.
oh, & I need to start looking for a job
for me, at six-and-some months, it's been a year of huge change, overwhelmingly for the better. something I've found very useful is Mindfulness & I'm going to start an eight-week online course doing that in the new year. if anyone is interested, I might start a thread for motivation/accountability, to discuss, etc.
I've been doing some conservation volunteering the last few months, which I've found rewarding, as well as, hopefully, doing a little good. I'm going to start helping out at a local homeless shelter too - I've just booked onto the orientation/training session for next week.
oh, & I need to start looking for a job
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Hi, MB!
I was reading about UFC-219.
Cris Cyborg looks tough, but I hope Holly Holm wins.
All I’ve seen is her takedown of Ronda Rousey. That reminded me of my favorite scene in the movies: the ferocious guy was going crazy waving the scimitar around, and Indiana Jones sighed, pulled his gun, and shot him in one second!
I was reading about UFC-219.
Cris Cyborg looks tough, but I hope Holly Holm wins.
All I’ve seen is her takedown of Ronda Rousey. That reminded me of my favorite scene in the movies: the ferocious guy was going crazy waving the scimitar around, and Indiana Jones sighed, pulled his gun, and shot him in one second!
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I hope you are following, H&S. Don’t stay away because you feel sheepish or unworthy—you are just as worthy as anyone else!
Keep reading here! You may read and read and read—then suddenly something may hook you!
You know life was better when you were off the drink. Even though the circumstances weren’t always better, and you didn’t always feel better, you were better, and there were moments that you really knew it.
You have proved that you can stop.
Stop again!
Meanwhile, stick around and keep reading! We’re all pulling for you!
Keep reading here! You may read and read and read—then suddenly something may hook you!
You know life was better when you were off the drink. Even though the circumstances weren’t always better, and you didn’t always feel better, you were better, and there were moments that you really knew it.
You have proved that you can stop.
Stop again!
Meanwhile, stick around and keep reading! We’re all pulling for you!
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I am relieved to make it to the end of day 3. No typical withdrawal symptoms (I am truly grateful for that), but feel wretched physically and mentally- just plain depressed. Only to be expected.
I am hoping to do more tomorrow to lift my mood and refocus on the day rather than being too obsessed with failing to stay sober. In my moments of clarity I know I can learn from this.
Just now though what is on my mind is that my life as I am right now isn't working. It doesn't work that well sober yet and its pure hell when I am drinking. I don't think it has all that much to do with external factors (I did during the last 6 months). Now I think that the problem is mostly on the inside. Its how I am built. My expectations of being sober are more realistic......It won't make everything magically better for me. I am going to have to find a way of changing how I am in the world.
I have absolutely no idea how I will do this......I have had years and years of therapy but am starting only now to see how hard I find it to live in the world. And it isn't the world. Its me.
I am hoping to do more tomorrow to lift my mood and refocus on the day rather than being too obsessed with failing to stay sober. In my moments of clarity I know I can learn from this.
Just now though what is on my mind is that my life as I am right now isn't working. It doesn't work that well sober yet and its pure hell when I am drinking. I don't think it has all that much to do with external factors (I did during the last 6 months). Now I think that the problem is mostly on the inside. Its how I am built. My expectations of being sober are more realistic......It won't make everything magically better for me. I am going to have to find a way of changing how I am in the world.
I have absolutely no idea how I will do this......I have had years and years of therapy but am starting only now to see how hard I find it to live in the world. And it isn't the world. Its me.
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You know love ~ I felt so many of the things that you have just expressed....I was so sure there was something intrinsically wrong with me that getting sober could never fix....but I had to try....and you know what I found out? It was the alcohol....it was all the goddamn alcohol.
I said in a post to someone else the other day that:
Your brain is being fuelled by something that is not supposed to be running it.
Our thought processes are compromised....it takes time....and then it is just like wow, my brain works and I feel differently about so many things....including myself....and hey, I am not that messed up after all...
I said in a post to someone else the other day that:
Your brain is being fuelled by something that is not supposed to be running it.
Our thought processes are compromised....it takes time....and then it is just like wow, my brain works and I feel differently about so many things....including myself....and hey, I am not that messed up after all...
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Originally Posted by JustTony 
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Originally Posted by venuscat
You know love ~ I felt so many of the things that you have just expressed....I was so sure there was something intrinsically wrong with me that getting sober could never fix....but I had to try....and you know what I found out? It was the alcohol....it was all the goddamn alcohol.
I said in a post to someone else the other day that:
Your brain is being fuelled by something that is not supposed to be running it.
Our thought processes are compromised....it takes time....and then it is just like wow, my brain works and I feel differently about so many things....including myself....and hey, I am not that messed up after all...
I said in a post to someone else the other day that:
Your brain is being fuelled by something that is not supposed to be running it.
Our thought processes are compromised....it takes time....and then it is just like wow, my brain works and I feel differently about so many things....including myself....and hey, I am not that messed up after all...
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am doing good got m first coffee of the day got my nieces coming over for a few days i love snow but i find it hard to walk in it as i have poor balance so my husband has to go and do the shopping today am sitting in the house for the day
i hope you are also doing ok
i hope you are also doing ok
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Hello! I am going to have a sober weekend to prepare for Dry January. I had a dry spell in November (had stomach cramps etc.) but I didn't learn, went back to the juice. End of Dec and I am back, probably with more stomach cramps later on as my body tries to heal. 
Have a good weekend everyone and nice to see some familiar names here!
Have a good weekend everyone and nice to see some familiar names here!
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