I'm crying, it must be bad....
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Hi JJ - It's hard of you have anxiety too. His anxiety causes your anxiety - arghh nightmare.
I'm not qualified to even begin to think of other ideas that might help.
I hope your husbands doctor visit alleviates some of the pressure?
Regards,
JT
I'm not qualified to even begin to think of other ideas that might help.
I hope your husbands doctor visit alleviates some of the pressure?
Regards,
JT
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It's so hard when husband still drinks
Mine does too--but I've learned to compartmentalize his booze, his life.
I also put up with a lot of obnoxious behavior from him when he was drinking much heavier.
Now, he actually doesn't drink all that much and doesn't rub my nose in it,
and we're getting on much much better.
So there is hope, but be sure to protect yourself and realize your anxiety
will get better with more sober time and self-care.
Just don't give up sobriety, or let his actions cause you to relapse
Mine does too--but I've learned to compartmentalize his booze, his life.
I also put up with a lot of obnoxious behavior from him when he was drinking much heavier.
Now, he actually doesn't drink all that much and doesn't rub my nose in it,
and we're getting on much much better.
So there is hope, but be sure to protect yourself and realize your anxiety
will get better with more sober time and self-care.
Just don't give up sobriety, or let his actions cause you to relapse
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Just chanced upon an article that might be interesting... The Marriage Courses
The full article about it is very positive. Depends if you're lucky and there's one near you I suppose x
The full article about it is very positive. Depends if you're lucky and there's one near you I suppose x
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Thanks JT & Hawkeye. He doesn't drink as much now, probably as I don't at all. He still overdoes it at times but I'm ok with it most of the time!
BB, there is a course in our city, thanks for the link....I'd need to pick my moment to broach that! I notice there are parenting courses....our oldest (only 7) is still awake...she drives us nuts at bedtime, can be a lot of our stresses. I think tonight is probably different though as she got so upset when I lost it earlier
I feel terrible, poor thing.
I'm back at work tomorrow but just not tired despite it being nearly midnight. I've been doing a jigsaw & found myself thinking about wine & what would happen if I drank. Not a great idea but my mind goes there at times like this.
BB, there is a course in our city, thanks for the link....I'd need to pick my moment to broach that! I notice there are parenting courses....our oldest (only 7) is still awake...she drives us nuts at bedtime, can be a lot of our stresses. I think tonight is probably different though as she got so upset when I lost it earlier
I feel terrible, poor thing. I'm back at work tomorrow but just not tired despite it being nearly midnight. I've been doing a jigsaw & found myself thinking about wine & what would happen if I drank. Not a great idea but my mind goes there at times like this.
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No way!! Awww, I'm a bit envious that you have a course near you.
I think it's easy to get in catch-22 with kids and stress and arguments. Oh well, they'll be back at school soon, in their routine and things will no doubt seem a bit calmer. Not that I'm looking forward to back-to-school, but my pupils always seem chuffed to be back, and it'll be good to feel the love and get more outward-looking.
Was it you that was thinking of starting a new course/career? If so, you have all that to look forward to as well.
BB
I think it's easy to get in catch-22 with kids and stress and arguments. Oh well, they'll be back at school soon, in their routine and things will no doubt seem a bit calmer. Not that I'm looking forward to back-to-school, but my pupils always seem chuffed to be back, and it'll be good to feel the love and get more outward-looking.
Was it you that was thinking of starting a new course/career? If so, you have all that to look forward to as well.
BB
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