Toughroad1209

Been arguing with my wife over the money I spent during my last binge that ended 4 days ago...I'm not mad at her because she's right...but my stress level is high...but then I know she's stressed from these years of dealing with me.....I'm trying to be strong minded and deal with what I created...but it's hard...our kids...her and myself deserve better than this...not looking like a good holiday...

914born

I feel for you I know exactly what your going through. I'm exactly where you are . I finally stopped sniffing cocaine 6:30 this morning and spending 370 dollars in the last 2 days on nothing but coke Weed and alcohol. I was expecting the attitude from my man. But he cursed me out this morning took the kids out and left me here feeling like the failing mother and fiancee that I have been recently only thinking about myself. I have to get my **** together it's ridiculous I've been dealing with this since I was 19 I'm 32 now. 😓😓

Anna

The early days are really hard, and like you, I had to face a lot of anger and disappointment from my family. The only thing you can do is to stay strong and be patient with your wife.

Done4today

As long as you are alive you have hope. First, you have to stop drinking and drugging. Then you have to get to a detox, rehab, or meetings. Don't worry about apologies to your significant others, kids, parents, friends, etc they have heard it many times before. Your only concern should be you for the next 7-10 days as you detox and get the poison out of you. Good luck, happy holidays and a new year is right around the corner. Lets make change now for the new year.

least

It takes time to win back trust. Show her with your actions that you're serious this time. And yes, be patient with her.

PurpleKnight

Draw a final line under your old drinking life, and begin to build a new Sober life.

Nothing better than changing up our actions to rebuild that trust, in being the spouse and father that they deserve.

You can do this!!

Nonsensical

Shortly after I stopped drinking I also stopped having arguments with Mrs. Nons about the problems my drinking was causing.

Dee74

I had to take my lumps.

I figured I'd done wrong and I couldn't really ask people not to be mad at me cos I was fragile.

If nothing else I was glad I finally was taking responsibility for my actions.

In time, I got trust back - but I earned it back with actions, not words.

I hope things settle a little and you and your spouse have a great Christmas

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