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This is really hard guys. I've got family here and I'm feeling overwhelmed and really want to drink. They are all drinking. It didnt seem like a bad idea, I dont like drinking in front of them as Ive ruined a few Christmases. It would be worse if I was alone but Im really struggling. Went for a walk and had a good cry. I dont want to ruin everyones time by being miserable and I feel really angry at them all. I've done loads of family occassion sober but something has just gone wrong here. Gabe x
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It's one day. You can make it through 24 hours, right?
Of course you can.
Do you have any friends you can call? Family can be tough at Christmas time, but you don't have to drink at them. Did someone say something that upset you?
Of course you can.
Do you have any friends you can call? Family can be tough at Christmas time, but you don't have to drink at them. Did someone say something that upset you?
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Originally Posted by biminiblue 
It's one day. You can make it through 24 hours, right?
Of course you can.
Do you have any friends you can call? Family can be tough at Christmas time, but you don't have to drink at them. Did someone say something that upset you?
Of course you can.
Do you have any friends you can call? Family can be tough at Christmas time, but you don't have to drink at them. Did someone say something that upset you?
Nobody said anything. I think I just underestimated how hard it was going to be. And I think they all just assume it easy! I'm to eat something and then have a bath.
I've just started on some anti depressants too and they are making me feel a bit all over the place. I can do 24 hours. Gabe x
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Oh, ugh. New prescriptions are weird sometimes! Hang on, early days emotions are all over the place and it's the high-emotions of that and Christmas. It will be okay. 
You're doing great! Yes, eat cookies!! Pie!! Take deep breaths.
Try this:
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You're doing great! Yes, eat cookies!! Pie!! Take deep breaths.
Try this:
Box Breathing
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That's great progress! One day at a time, one minute at a time. Early sobriety is fragile so maybe you could try and do whatever it is you need to do to help yourself feel better. Going for a walk and a cry and sharing it with others are all great coping tools.
I remember sometimes that's all I could do--curl up in a ball and have a good cry out of sheer frustration--like a mini tantrum. But I felt better afterwards.
It gets easier and won't always be like this. You can do it!
I remember sometimes that's all I could do--curl up in a ball and have a good cry out of sheer frustration--like a mini tantrum. But I felt better afterwards.
It gets easier and won't always be like this. You can do it!
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Originally Posted by Mizzuno
Thats amazing work to reach out!
New antidepressants can really do a number on a person in the beginning. Food and a bath will help. Food especially. You are doing something amazing. Keep going!
New antidepressants can really do a number on a person in the beginning. Food and a bath will help. Food especially. You are doing something amazing. Keep going!
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Good on you for coming to SR before drinking Gabe!
It may feel like you're only just coping, but you're actually building those sober muscles. Really.
I hope you are a bit more sorted now, but sometimes a good cry is the release we need before dusting ourself off and moving on.
It may feel like you're only just coping, but you're actually building those sober muscles. Really.
I hope you are a bit more sorted now, but sometimes a good cry is the release we need before dusting ourself off and moving on.
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Originally Posted by biminiblue
Oh, ugh. New prescriptions are weird sometimes! Hang on, early days emotions are all over the place and it's the high-emotions of that and Christmas. It will be okay.
You're doing great! Yes, eat cookies!! Pie!! Take deep breaths.
Try this:
Box Breathing
You're doing great! Yes, eat cookies!! Pie!! Take deep breaths.
Try this:
Box Breathing
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Originally Posted by Madbird
That's great progress! One day at a time, one minute at a time. Early sobriety is fragile so maybe you could try and do whatever it is you need to do to help yourself feel better. Going for a walk and a cry and sharing it with others are all great coping tools.
I remember sometimes that's all I could do--curl up in a ball and have a good cry out of sheer frustration--like a mini tantrum. But I felt better afterwards.
It gets easier and won't always be like this. You can do it!
I remember sometimes that's all I could do--curl up in a ball and have a good cry out of sheer frustration--like a mini tantrum. But I felt better afterwards.
It gets easier and won't always be like this. You can do it!
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Originally Posted by Mark1014
Good on you for coming to SR before drinking Gabe!
It may feel like you're only just coping, but you're actually building those sober muscles. Really.
I hope you are a bit more sorted now, but sometimes a good cry is the release we need before dusting ourself off and moving on.
It may feel like you're only just coping, but you're actually building those sober muscles. Really.
I hope you are a bit more sorted now, but sometimes a good cry is the release we need before dusting ourself off and moving on.
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Hi Gabe,
I'm so glad you came here and posted before drinking, that shows how much you want sobriety. I'm sharing Dee's link about surviving the holidays, it may be helpful during the next week.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ers-2-0-a.html (Thanksgiving and Xmas Survival Guide vers 2.0)
You can do this!!
I'm so glad you came here and posted before drinking, that shows how much you want sobriety. I'm sharing Dee's link about surviving the holidays, it may be helpful during the next week.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ers-2-0-a.html (Thanksgiving and Xmas Survival Guide vers 2.0)
You can do this!!
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AA meetings carry on I've Christmas - they're how a lot of folk manage to not kill their family over the holiday period. Getting out for a walk is a good idea regardless of alcohol - with all the food and so many folk under one roof it's easy to kind of stagnate.
You can do this. Even if it has to be ten minutes at a time.
Stick with it.
BB
You can do this. Even if it has to be ten minutes at a time.
Stick with it.
BB
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Originally Posted by Delilah1
Hi Gabe,
I'm so glad you came here and posted before drinking, that shows how much you want sobriety. I'm sharing Dee's link about surviving the holidays, it may be helpful during the next week.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ers-2-0-a.html (Thanksgiving and Xmas Survival Guide vers 2.0)
You can do this!!
I'm so glad you came here and posted before drinking, that shows how much you want sobriety. I'm sharing Dee's link about surviving the holidays, it may be helpful during the next week.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ers-2-0-a.html (Thanksgiving and Xmas Survival Guide vers 2.0)
You can do this!!
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On some days the best remedy for me is a hot cup of tea, my blankets, Netflix and SR.
This Holiday will pass and you will come out on the other end.
I am glad that you are feeling better and taking care of yourself. A little pampering goes a long way. Rest easy and stay close. You got this!
This Holiday will pass and you will come out on the other end.
I am glad that you are feeling better and taking care of yourself. A little pampering goes a long way. Rest easy and stay close. You got this!
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Originally Posted by Berrybean
AA meetings carry on I've Christmas - they're how a lot of folk manage to not kill their family over the holiday period. Getting out for a walk is a good idea regardless of alcohol - with all the food and so many folk under one roof it's easy to kind of stagnate.
You can do this. Even if it has to be ten minutes at a time.
Stick with it.
BB
You can do this. Even if it has to be ten minutes at a time.
Stick with it.
BB
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[QUOTE=Mizzuno;6720208]On some days the best remedy for me is a hot cup of tea, my blankets, Netflix and SR.
This Holiday will pass and you will come out on the other end.
I am glad that you are feeling better and taking care of yourself. A little pampering goes a long way. Rest easy and stay close. You got this
