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Old 12-20-2017, 09:30 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Heya folks,

Well, how do I make this concise? Not easily

I'm (quickly) approaching four months of sobriety (alcohol abuse) and through the haze and fog of 'post acute withdrawal' I happened upon this place. Great to meet you guys. My journey has had a number of dubious 'detours' that culminated in a 30-day stay at rehab which I consider the pivotal moment of liberty from imminent self-destruction. I engaged over several years in the lather-rinse-repeat insanity of 'controlled drinking' only to hit the proverbial reset button after each progressively nasty relapse. I believe I've turned 'that corner' but am taking my recovery in bite-sized chunks (insert the 'one day at a time' interjection here) and have a cautiously optimistic perspective as a result.

I credit a number of things to me getting past day 100: a daily workout regime, a (mostly passive) involvement in support groups such as A.A., my music, my spirituality and a resolve that has had enough of the isolation-to-consumption rhythm that practically destroyed everything including my life. I don't really hold any one aspect of that recovery over another; I believe balance has been key in getting me to my next 24 hours.

I look forward to chatting with you guys soon and hope to be able to contribute to what seems like a very vibrant community.

By the way, my name's Todd
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Old 12-20-2017, 09:33 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Welcome to the family! You'll find a lot of support and wisdom here. Glad to have you join us.
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Welcome, Toddman; very glad that you found us and this supportive, understanding and encouraging forum.

Very well done and congratulations on over 100 days of sobriety.
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Old 12-20-2017, 09:56 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Old 12-20-2017, 10:26 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Todd,

I suffered while drinking and I suffered getting this clean.

Time healed me to this state.

I come here and read and post. I work out all the time. I eat healthy alot.

I don't give advice anymore. What do I really know.

I support you. I need this place.

This place saved life.

I am getting better everyday.

I have been obsessing for years.

I remember when I was young I would obsess punishment from my Dad. He would restrict me and just forget. I would be on restriction for nearly the whole summer. I hated my Dad for that.

Anyway...I forgive him.

Talking about my problems here and deciding I am not going to give up is hardening me and calming me.

Thanks.
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Studied "alcohol kindling" and "alcohol PAWS."

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Old 12-20-2017, 10:58 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Welcome,Todd! Congrats on your days!
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Thanks for joining us.

Its a great place.

For me, it was all about real acceptance that I am addicted to alcohol, and that each time really will end like the last.

Once I accepted that, which sadly took some trial and error, I was done.

I feel like the MasterCard ad -- Easy, not always. Worth it, absolutely.

Let us know if we can help.
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This is true as hell!! Post here if you feel like drinking and before buying!!! I didn't for a while..and...
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Old 12-21-2017, 01:01 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Hi Todd and welcome. SR is a great place to hear other's stories and to seek support and help when the going gets tough. Good luck with your recovery.
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Old 12-21-2017, 01:42 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Welcome to SR Todd. Lots of great support here.
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Old 12-21-2017, 06:23 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Hey Todd. Great job.
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Old 12-21-2017, 09:36 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Welcome to SR Todd, you will find a lot of support and new friends here
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