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Old 12-19-2017, 04:21 PM   #1 (permalink)
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HELP!!! Day 3 and AV picthing a MASSIVE fit


The advice I got at my last meeting was know when your next meeting is and don't drink before it gets here. Well I know when my next meeting is 7 my time which is in about 3 hours and 45 minutes. I just got off work I'm running errands and of course the AV has reared its ugly head and is screaming at me just one drink! One glass of wine! I told it SHUT UP! We both know It's never JUST ONE!! And It's begging but it'll be different this time I'll do it right!!! 🙄🙄🙄 I KNOW BETTER!! Not gonna happen!!! But I feel pathetic!! It's unbelievable to me after everything that I just went through on Saturday that this is already happening!
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Old 12-19-2017, 04:22 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Hang in there, KG.
It’s a craving, and cravings pass.
Deep breath. Eat something if you can before your meeting.
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Old 12-19-2017, 04:23 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Don't listen to that damn AV. Go for a walk!
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Old 12-19-2017, 04:35 PM   #4 (permalink)
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pray.
pick up your big book and read.
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one second at a time.
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Old 12-19-2017, 04:47 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I was pulling into the bank when it hit. (Liquor store in the same parking lot) actually no, if im honest its been nagging at me since i left work... just quietly at first and then more belligerent as I was denying it... it was like WTF is THIS BS???!!! She isn't in charge I AM!!! After I posted I did my bank business, got in my car and drove to the gas station instead (also same parking lot) got a Green Machine smoothie and some almonds. Already feel a little better. Im ready ro drive home. The other errands can wait. BB here I come! Thanks guys!!
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Old 12-19-2017, 05:06 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Love the shake idea...that works for me...and Wheatgrass!
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Old 12-19-2017, 05:17 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I like that idea, too!
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I dunno if you're a parent KG - I'm not - but it helps me to think of the AV as a toddler

Tots will shout and scream, and throw tantrums, but they will tire themselves out eventually and go to sleep.

Your AV is the toddler. You're the parent. You can get through this

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I dunno if you're a parent KG - I'm not - but it helps me to think of the AV as a toddler

Tots will shout and scream, and throw tantrums, but they will tire themselves out eventually and go to sleep.

Your AV is the toddler. You're the parent. You can get through this

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I am and that's AWESOME 😁 I actually have a teen and preteen who are ALSO a lot like toddlers when they don't get their way 🙄🙄 so I know exactly what you mean. Thanks for that!!!
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Old 12-19-2017, 06:34 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Just got in the car to drive to the AA meeting. And for the second time today one of "my songs" came on to remind me why I'm doing this, this time "Prayin". Love it!
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Old 12-19-2017, 07:12 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Google urge surfing. It really helps me. Stay strong.
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Old 12-19-2017, 09:11 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Google urge surfing. It really helps me. Stay strong.
I will look into that, thanks!

Back home from AA and made it through day 3... onward to day 4!!!
Thanks for all the support guys 😁😁
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Well done KG Day 3, is famous for being a toughie and you've done really well to get through. You never have to face another one, if you don't want to
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Well done KG Day 3, is famous for being a toughie and you've done really well to get through. You never have to face another one, if you don't want to
I didn't know about day 3s bad rep... makes sense though... there were A LOT of other day 3s that I didn't make it through. I sincerely hope and pray this is the last one. Getting through today feels good. Like i FINALLY accomplished something. Its easy to say no when your AV isn't screaming at you... its a lot harder when it is.
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Old 12-19-2017, 11:59 PM   #15 (permalink)
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As what Dee mentiontioned, your AV is like a toddler throwing a tantrum to get what it wants.
You are always in control. Saying NO! (or if you wish to get more explicit) than do it.
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Urge surfing is also good

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...e-surfing.html (urge surfing)

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Old 12-20-2017, 12:18 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Fantastic resolve. Sorry I was in the wrong time zone to support when you needed it. Seems SR did a great job and you were awesome in your resolve.

Love the toddler analogy from Dee. That's a cool way of thinking about it.

Day 4 for you now. You beat the AV once - you can beat it again and again now. You proved it to YOURSELF!
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Old 12-20-2017, 05:39 AM   #18 (permalink)
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Well Done!

Well done KG! Boy do I identify with the feelings/cravings/rather insane thinking!
As someone else mentioned, often mine were really hunger signals...when I ate many of them went away. Good reason for my sponsor telling me to have snacks with me at all times to get my blood sugar levels up!

Have a greta sober day 4!
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I hope you got control of the AV KG.
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I hope you got control of the AV KG.
Sure did. Green Machine smoothie, almonds, big book and AA. We kicked its butt ☺
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