Sober is blah/drinking sucks
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Did someone tell you it'd all be fun and pink clouds Press?
If so, sorry. Sue 'em. It won't be. But you're a grown up so you could always just choose to live with that and push past the discomfort and get well regardless. Life on LIFE'S terms and all that.
But it WILL be worth it if you do the work.
BB
If so, sorry. Sue 'em. It won't be. But you're a grown up so you could always just choose to live with that and push past the discomfort and get well regardless. Life on LIFE'S terms and all that.
But it WILL be worth it if you do the work.
BB
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Location: UK
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PS Probably worth doing the following...
1. Ask yourself, do you honestly want to feel better, or do you feel like wallowing? If the answer is yes, fine. If its wallowing, I'd suggest laugh at yourself and tell your AV to sling its hook.
2. Check your HALT. Hungry. Angry. Lonely. Tired.
3. Take ACTION to put right any HALT things that are rattling you (ask on here if there are any you don't know what to do about)
4. Write a gratitude list.
5. Re-read your step 1 if you've done it / Get a sponsor and do your step 1 if you haven't.
6. Find someone who you could help. And help them.
This is all an inside job press.
1. Ask yourself, do you honestly want to feel better, or do you feel like wallowing? If the answer is yes, fine. If its wallowing, I'd suggest laugh at yourself and tell your AV to sling its hook.
2. Check your HALT. Hungry. Angry. Lonely. Tired.
3. Take ACTION to put right any HALT things that are rattling you (ask on here if there are any you don't know what to do about)
4. Write a gratitude list.
5. Re-read your step 1 if you've done it / Get a sponsor and do your step 1 if you haven't.
6. Find someone who you could help. And help them.
This is all an inside job press.
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Join Date: Mar 2017
Location: UK
Posts: 1,543
Drinking certainly sucks - but sober isn't "blah" in my opinion.
Sometimes sober seems boring, dull, meh, blah (whatever your choice of words are) - but only when your AV is around and telling you so. For most part my sobriety (when I choose to fight for it) is pretty good. I do all the things I neglect when I'm drinking:
Exercise
Be even tempered
Watch a movie
Read a book
Be kinder to my wife
Walk the dog
Learn things (different language)
Sleep well
Look around (wow there is a lot going on that is beautiful too you know?)
See friends
Work harder, better, happier
Feel less embarrassed of myself
The list seems endless.
Don't let your AV win - he's telling you it is all pointless and it isn't.
Sometimes sober seems boring, dull, meh, blah (whatever your choice of words are) - but only when your AV is around and telling you so. For most part my sobriety (when I choose to fight for it) is pretty good. I do all the things I neglect when I'm drinking:
Exercise
Be even tempered
Watch a movie
Read a book
Be kinder to my wife
Walk the dog
Learn things (different language)
Sleep well
Look around (wow there is a lot going on that is beautiful too you know?)
See friends
Work harder, better, happier
Feel less embarrassed of myself
The list seems endless.
Don't let your AV win - he's telling you it is all pointless and it isn't.
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Join Date: Jul 2017
Location: SoCal
Posts: 2,562
Drinking/using seems like living life in a body condom, wearing dirty glasses you can barely see through, with muffled earplugs eating nothing but rice cakes.
Everything about sober life is far brighter and more interesting.
The idea of being drunk just sounds like a fuzzy nothing to me now.
Everything about sober life is far brighter and more interesting.
The idea of being drunk just sounds like a fuzzy nothing to me now.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,231
Sending a little compassion your way Press.
To know that you are not alone in how you
are feeling can be comforting because all of
us go thru it many times in recovery.
Continue to lean on us in SR, reading,
learning, asking questions and following
helpful suggestions.
As always, whatever we are going thru,
will pass. Of course action is needed. If
we just sit and expect our life to change
emmediately, it wont. We have to get up,
suit up and get into action.
Showing responsibility.
Pick up the phone and call someone for
help or come here and post, which you
did, take care of your H.A.L.T. , hunger,
anger, lonely and tired as well as your
R.I.D. , restlessness, irritability and discontent.
If you don't understand something, we
are always here to explain and guide you
out of those uncomfortable feelings because
all of us have been there, done that before.
There are so many healthy solutions to
life's challenges and are far better than
killing ourselves with addiction to alcohol
or drugs.
We are here for you to help achieve
a healthy, happy honest way of recovery
life moving forward with action.
To know that you are not alone in how you
are feeling can be comforting because all of
us go thru it many times in recovery.
Continue to lean on us in SR, reading,
learning, asking questions and following
helpful suggestions.
As always, whatever we are going thru,
will pass. Of course action is needed. If
we just sit and expect our life to change
emmediately, it wont. We have to get up,
suit up and get into action.
Showing responsibility.
Pick up the phone and call someone for
help or come here and post, which you
did, take care of your H.A.L.T. , hunger,
anger, lonely and tired as well as your
R.I.D. , restlessness, irritability and discontent.
If you don't understand something, we
are always here to explain and guide you
out of those uncomfortable feelings because
all of us have been there, done that before.
There are so many healthy solutions to
life's challenges and are far better than
killing ourselves with addiction to alcohol
or drugs.
We are here for you to help achieve
a healthy, happy honest way of recovery
life moving forward with action.
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: northern michigan. not the U.P.
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Originally Posted by Pressmetilihurt 
Not feeling the rah rah rah
God this, god that. Who cares
Was high on life and feeling generous but got tired
Don’t care about anything
God this, god that. Who cares
Was high on life and feeling generous but got tired
Don’t care about anything
i wasnt able to get on the pink cloud it reads like you were experiencing, but when i did it felt good.
but then the pink cloud burst and id go to meetings and all that would be in my head was ,"blahblahblah. bite me."
i kept trudging- putting faith in the program I would get weller.
early recovery was a serious mental roller coaster- some high highs and low lows. through working the program, then peaks and valeys got closer together.
keep on trudging,press. you will get weller,too!
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Join Date: Jul 2017
Posts: 132
Hello,
I can relate to a feeling of boredom (I'm around the two month mark). A lot of my hobbies either involved drinking, or I drank while I did them while relaxing and enjoying myself. If I want to continue some of those hobbies, I'm going to have to train myself to do them without drinking. At the moment they seem like possible triggers, so I'm staying away for now.
So yeah, boredom. On the other hand, that tired feeling that I always had to push through to get things done is starting to go away.
I'm basically waiting until 90 days has passed. From what I've read on this site, my brain is probably going to be doing some housework during that time. So I'm just enjoying the good feelings when they come, and waiting out the bad feelings.
Good luck!
I can relate to a feeling of boredom (I'm around the two month mark). A lot of my hobbies either involved drinking, or I drank while I did them while relaxing and enjoying myself. If I want to continue some of those hobbies, I'm going to have to train myself to do them without drinking. At the moment they seem like possible triggers, so I'm staying away for now.
So yeah, boredom. On the other hand, that tired feeling that I always had to push through to get things done is starting to go away.
I'm basically waiting until 90 days has passed. From what I've read on this site, my brain is probably going to be doing some housework during that time. So I'm just enjoying the good feelings when they come, and waiting out the bad feelings.
Good luck!
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Join Date: Nov 2017
Location: UK
Posts: 634
Sorry you feel so down Press.
My mood changes from day to day, I think that is perfectly normal for anyone really! I don't think this time of year helps.
I can't remember how many days you are on. I'm on day 75 and still experience the good old "blah" days - get through the day, be glad to get to bed sober & hope the next day is better! Plan some fun things, plan some chocolate eating!!
Take care.
My mood changes from day to day, I think that is perfectly normal for anyone really! I don't think this time of year helps.
I can't remember how many days you are on. I'm on day 75 and still experience the good old "blah" days - get through the day, be glad to get to bed sober & hope the next day is better! Plan some fun things, plan some chocolate eating!!
Take care.
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