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Old 11-21-2017, 10:24 AM
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Hey Dusk. Are you doing OK? I'm surviving. Still feeling rough from drinking the other night but determined to learn and move forward. I've joined the 24 hour thread too. Let me kmow how you are getting on
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Old 11-21-2017, 04:00 PM
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Old 11-21-2017, 07:52 PM
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Hey, Dusk--hope you're hanging in there. It took me many tries before something clicked; that is just the nature of the beast of alcoholism. Don't give up. SR is a great place to come for support and advice. Wishing you all the best in your sober journey; please believe me-you can do this. I was pretty much at rock-bottom and now have 23 months. Things aren't perfect, but they are good. That's plenty enough.
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Old 11-22-2017, 02:14 PM
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Hey Dusk. Hope you are OK. Check back in anytime you feel you want a bit of support. Take care of yourself
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Old 11-23-2017, 04:16 PM
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Dusk
I can so relate to your post. Thank you for posting it. I like you have tried to quit so many times that I honestly have lost track on how many day ones I have had.
I am on day 21 today and it is better but it is a hard road to walk.
I have finally figured out that if I pick up a drink again it could be the one that kills me. If I drink I might never make it back to this site.
You can do this but you have to want it more than you want that damn drink.
Best of luck to you. Keep posting and reading. There is a lot of help and support here.

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I'm so glad for u.u must be v proud of urself.u so deserve to congratulate urself.as for me ..I'm so ashamed to tell u ..I'm on day 1again.i faltered n the drink got the better of me.looks like it master's me n I'm the poor self pitying boring slave.however I'm going to be strong this time.took my shower..prayed n m heading to wrk.all the best to me.
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Old 11-23-2017, 04:21 PM
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[QUOTE=Gabe1980;6682443]Hey Dusk. Hope you are OK. Check back in anytime you feel you want a bit of support. Take care of yourself[/QUOTE
Hi Gabe...I'm so ashamed to be back on day 1again.what bout u?the booz got the better of me.i dint even want to post coz I felt like a degraded stupid soul.but then im so overwhelmed by the support here.so yessss today it is...I showered like as if I hadn't showered for a long time..I'm heading to wrk wit the booz outa my mind.do let me Kno bout u too.god bless us all
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Old 11-23-2017, 04:23 PM
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Try not to be too hard on yourself Dusk. Definitely try to keep posting here. Itís really helped me. You might also want to look into some face to face support - a doctor, counselor, AA. They will all help you with ways to stay sober.
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Old 11-23-2017, 04:25 PM
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Hi dee.thanx for ur support n concern.m on day one again.but this time it's a different feeling hopefully.i think I'm gonna do it this time.god bless us
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Old 11-23-2017, 04:29 PM
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Try not to be too hard on yourself Dusk. Definitely try to keep posting here. Itís really helped me. You might also want to look into some face to face support - a doctor, counselor, AA. They will all help you with ways to stay sober.
Lol I'm a counselor who doesn't practice what I preach.n ur rite I need to keep posting.thank u for ur support.its day one again...phew!!!
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Old 11-23-2017, 05:29 PM
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Never be ashamed - most of us have been there, so we are the last ones to judge you. The main thing is you came back - with more determination. Keep talking to us - we all understand.
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Old 11-23-2017, 08:38 PM
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Glad you are back Dusk, looking forward to seeing you tomorrow on Day 2!
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Old 11-23-2017, 10:43 PM
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you can make it different this time Dusk
any ideas on an action plan?

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Old 11-23-2017, 11:09 PM
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you can make it different this time Dusk
any ideas on an action plan?

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I'm trying to focus on my wrk.christmas round the corner..so have taken the task of organising a fantastic Christmas program for the children at school.btw I'm a teacher.keeping myself busy with the carols practice n all.iv enrolled myself for Zumba classes.started with multi vitamins n checking my diet at well.iv gained a lot of weight.started writing a journal too and plan on posting regularly here at SR.my mind is on the target and God to help me thru.
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Old 11-24-2017, 12:09 AM
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Keeping busy is a great part of any action plan - but no one can stay busy 24/7.

Not trying to jinx you at all, but downtime gets to a lot of people who simply 'stay busy' as a plan.

I think a really good action plan needs to have a little about the nuts and bolts about actively not drinking and actively staying sober too.

There's some really good ideas here:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...very-plan.html (What exactly is a recovery plan?)

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Old 11-24-2017, 01:12 AM
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Hey Dusk! Glad to have you back and best of luck with day 1. Sounds like you have some good ideas for what will help support you. Im on day 5 (again!) working from the perspective I've just got to keep trying. In it together Dusk!
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Old 11-24-2017, 12:54 PM
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Hey Dusk
Just wanted to send you some support--it takes many of us a multiple tries to get the sober to stick, but it will if you persist.

Dee is right--if you can get a plan in place for when you are tempted--usually
the worst in the early evening for me, for example, as that was my usual time
as I also am getting home from my teaching job, and ready to unwind, you
will be able to hold strong when needed.

You mentioned gaining some weight. I did too drinking, so my first act was to
join a gym and then to get some weeks of paleo eating down which cut my
carb cravings (like booze) and got me jumpstarted on weight loss.

This helped self-esteem, sleep, and overall attitude.
Zumba is a great idea--how about adding in some hiking over the holiday break?
Nature is healing and grounding to body and soul.

I also take the good vitamins and make sure to relax and sleep a little extra
as well as great hydration--herbal teas and chai in bulk from Amazon made this affordable and fun

You will get this Dusk--just don't quit quitting and you will change your life
so much for the better.
Living sober and in recovery is wonderful--I didn't think I would like it I had drunk so long,
but in fact I love it, and you will too--
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Old 11-24-2017, 04:44 PM
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Hey Dusk! I'm really impressed. "Let's do it together!" That's just what a guy said to me in a rehab years and years ago! And we did! We did it together and I've been sober now for over 29 years. You've got to want sobriety real bad and do it for yourself, but folks being social animals are hard wired to do things collectively. Isn't that the way you became an alcoholic? Doing it collectively in bars, parties, etc. And you sure can get sober that same way! Get a lot of people on the rope up the mountain. After all that's what this website, Soberrecovery, is all about. One day at a time and as time goes on it gets easier and easier. Keep posting. We're here 24/7!

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Old 11-27-2017, 02:02 AM
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Hey Dusk. How are you doing? Zumba sounds like a great idea. I've got a yoga studio along the road I need to try. I hope you made it through your day one. I'm doing OK, finding it hard to get back to where I want to be after drinking this week. Looking at AA and, tbh, I'm starting to accept that I can't do this on my own. After a couple of relapses I'm ready to put my hands up!
Please don't feel ashamed about struggling and keep coming back here. I get how you feel. I'm all certain and posting that I'll never drink again and then mortified that I have. It's easy to feel like a fool and not wanna come back but you just have to have faith that everyone is kind, not judging you and understands. In it together Dusk! Gabe x
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Hey Dusk. How are you doing? Zumba sounds like a great idea. I've got a yoga studio along the road I need to try. I hope you made it through your day one. I'm doing OK, finding it hard to get back to where I want to be after drinking this week. Looking at AA and, tbh, I'm starting to accept that I can't do this on my own. After a couple of relapses I'm ready to put my hands up!
Please don't feel ashamed about struggling and keep coming back here. I get how you feel. I'm all certain and posting that I'll never drink again and then mortified that I have. It's easy to feel like a fool and not wanna come back but you just have to have faith that everyone is kind, not judging you and understands. In it together Dusk! Gabe x
Hi Gabe,
Great to hear from u.i feel exhausted and tired but on day 4.havnt given into the evil.do check out the yoga thing.iv started on light yoga at the moment.i literally coax myself to do it.il join Zumba after a few days.checking my diet.im angry all the time....and keep talking to myself aloud.so far so good.take care n let me Kno how ur doin.
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Sooooo proud of you two keep it up!!!!
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