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Old 11-16-2022, 05:53 PM
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Timeless advice. Thank you again, Dee.
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Old 11-19-2022, 04:25 PM
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Refuse a alcoholic drink number 217

No thank you, I have an allergy to alcohol. Every time I drink I break out in handcuffs.
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Old 11-19-2022, 04:35 PM
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I just say that I've already drank enough for one lifetime and don't want any more.
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Old 11-20-2022, 05:50 PM
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Thank you Dee!
This helped me SO much during my first year of sobriety!
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Old 11-20-2022, 05:59 PM
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Old 12-21-2022, 08:54 PM
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Old 12-22-2022, 01:27 AM
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Thanks Dee!
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Old 12-22-2022, 01:41 AM
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Sober at Christmas: How to enjoy being alcohol free this festive season
”The alcohol messaging is EVERYWHERE: It can feel as though every event, and every party invitation is accompanied by a promise of ‘champagne on arrival’ or mulled wine on tap. Staying mindful of this, and tuning out when you can will help you enjoy being sober at Christmas”
By LAURIEMCALLISTER
https://girlandtonic.co.uk/sober-at-christmas/

How to conquer FOMA (fear of missing alcohol) if you're trying to have a sober Christmas
“I realised the strength I needed to socialise sober was a muscle that required training.”
BY CATHERINE RENTON
https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/ar...ober-christmas
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Old 12-23-2022, 10:12 AM
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The Glamour article is very interesting about how 37% will be having a sober Christmas! I like that statistic! Some good advice in there!
First sober Christmas here! In my 20's and even very early 30's I would no doubt have been feeling a bit sick with shame from some stupid thing said or done at a works Christmas party! The rest of the 30's there would already have been a few nights where the off button failed on either a quiter night out or a few drinks at home and I'd already exhausted myself and felt rubbish before Christmas!
So it's Christmas eve eve today and I'm feeling organised and relatively relaxed and looking forward to a nice dinner at home, a big glass of diet coke, some self care and an early night ready for work in the morning and then spending some quality time with the kids before the big day.
Hope everyone has a Merry Christmas 🎅 and let's all lean on each other as it can be tough, but we can most certainly do this!
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Old 12-23-2022, 12:45 PM
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Old 11-18-2023, 05:19 PM
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With Thanksgiving coming this week seemed like a good time for a bump
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Old 11-18-2023, 05:34 PM
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Great idea, Dee.
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Old 11-18-2023, 06:02 PM
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We're never going to not need this, Dee.
Thank you once again.
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Old 11-18-2023, 06:14 PM
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4 years ago it was a typical Thanksgiving.
Too much food and too much booze.
So miserable.

I decided I would not drink from that Friday until Christmas Day.
Then nothing. Then New Years. Then nothing until the next holiday or birthday or whatever.
You know, moderate my alcohol consumption cause if I could make it over 3 weeks I would reset my habit and prove I could go without it if I wanted to.
Then I would be a "normal" drinker.

Ah Paradise!! Have my cake and eat it too!!

I made it until Christmas Eve. Pretty good I thought since the last time I had been anywhere near a week sober in the last 30 plus years was when I spent a week in lockup after a dui.

Well by the 15th of January I had drank probably a case of beer a day everyday since Christmas Eve. You know, the usual.

I was miserable, defeated. I failed.
I had 2 choices, keep doing what I was doing and die a miserable death like my grandfather or look for help and try again.

I pretty much had zero faith anyone could help me. I couldn't help myself so how could anyone else?

I sat down and googled and googled and eventually found a link to a sight that had nothing to do with recovery but someone had posted a few years earlier looking for help and someone had sent him a link to this site.

I joined and posted. Got a response fairly quickly and spent the next few hours drinking and posting.
I was made to feel right at home immediately.
It was like these folks were reading my mind. They knew things about me that noone else knew and they had never even met me.
And they had something I wanted and were kind enough to point me in the right direction so I could get one of my own.
A peaceful, sober life.
The next day was my Day1.

This will be my 4th sober Thanksgiving.

I wouldn't have it any other way.

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Old 11-18-2023, 06:18 PM
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I'm so thankful this will be your 4th sober Thanksgiving, Fishkiller.

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Old 11-18-2023, 07:04 PM
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congrats FK

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Old 11-18-2023, 07:08 PM
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Congratulations, Fishkiller. Thanks for the great post.
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Old 11-18-2023, 07:17 PM
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I went from January of 2016 all the way to Thanksgiving of 2016 and made a fateful decision to drink wine at Thanksgiving. It would take until 2020 for me to quit again. No way, ever again. Thanks for sharing, Fish.
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Old 11-19-2023, 01:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Hevyn View Post
I'm so thankful this will be your 4th sober Thanksgiving, Fishkiller.
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Congratulations, Fishkiller. Thanks for the great post.
I'm Thankful for all of you
With y'alls help I am living a life I had only dreamed of.
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Old 11-19-2023, 01:41 AM
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Holidays are not that bad for me. Most of the family I spend holidays with are non drinkers and driving family to places is most often one of my responsibilities so even if I wanted to drink I couldn't because I have to drive. Even in my worst days of drinking the thought of drinking and driving was a big deterrrent. Not to say I never drank and drove but I am so adamantly against that it happened very rarely.
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