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Old 11-09-2017, 07:06 PM
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Hi, weekenders.

I am up early.

Welcome to the Unstuck Zone, Sunshine!

Purple - I think I will take on setting new goals and deadlines as an anti-stuck measure. And will try something new.
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Thank you Dee, for thinking i still have some brain cells

Thank you BixBees505 for getting me! ha ha it means a lot i feel like a broken record talking about work all the time. sorry guys i just don't have a life i used to drink at home a lot and when i would go out all hell would break lose and people would just not want to repeat the experience LOL

Hawkeyes i think it was so noble of you to take care of your mom like you did, it must be so sad to be old and frail living with this drinking situation still out of control

Tetra, I'm happy work its better and those cookies just send me looking for chocolate all over the house

Goodnight MB,

Goodnight everyone!
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Old 11-09-2017, 11:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Purplrks3647 View Post
Maybe this could be a good place to start

Great list... I should probably look at trying to do some.
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Old 11-10-2017, 01:20 AM
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Still stuck on this guy :

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Hey Weekenders I'm in. Great topic MB. I'm going to have to have a good think about this one.
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Old 11-10-2017, 03:44 AM
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Hi, Petals and Mish)

It's gloomy today. And it's raining. But I have a gym session to look forward.

Honestly I don't remember when workouts shifted from something useful but "I have to force myself to do it" into "Yay! It's a workout time!"

See you)
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Old 11-10-2017, 05:36 AM
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Morning all;

Had a nice hike yesterday and am a bit sore today.
Leaves are peaking here now--mostly gold and some red
the orange of the Sweet Gums very nice but rare
Where I live is mostly Hickory, Maple, and Oaks.
I live basically "in" a National Forest--how wonderful is that?

Looking forward to a lovely and productive sober weekend
and wishing each of you the same
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That is awesome, Hawkeye!

Good morning everyone... my sleep is a bit better again, I am glad to report. I dont know what put it off, and i dont know what is setting it right, but am grateful.

A long day ahead at work, but it is Friday...and these days, that word no longer amps up my drinking anxiety and obsession. Fact is I drank every day. Weekends were harder for me to get what I wanted, what with family and SO about. That was a sad state of affairs. NO MORE!
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Vman, I had never run across Sean Rowe. Thanks for the introduction, very good.
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Old 11-10-2017, 06:33 AM
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Good morning! Hoping everyone has a glorious Friday. Im gonna keep working of being unstuck. Making some changes in my offiice environment that i hope will make it more enjoyable. Also doing the spring cleaning that i never did last spring. Lol. One of my present projects is to get into all my closets and drawers and really get my house clean and tidy. Ok...see y'all later!
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Old 11-10-2017, 06:43 AM
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Me too HaF...closets, drawers, garage. I have a lot of storage space and it is all crammed. Ridiculous!
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Morning everyone.

Thanks for that list petals, saved it for future reference.

Have a great day.
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Old 11-10-2017, 09:51 AM
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tis the witching hour in old London town ...

so I'm getting the train home for a nice cup of tea
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What a great post MidnightBlue. Thank you.

I didnít even realise I was stuck til I read it, and I was out to coffee earlier with someone and thatís exactly what I was talking about altho I didnít know it.
Six months sober and I am slowly drifting towards a financial cliff but I act like Iím powerless to change it. I guess I always was surrounded by movers and shakers, and that I am not. I just went along with their plans for an easy life. Now theyíre gone, I really am like that bird sitting in the cage long after the door got opened.

What, am I waiting for permission?
Maybe my power was taken away long ago.
Maybe I fear that whatever I do next will cause the sky to fall down and I will be destroyed for sure.
Maybe I think I canít achieve much now in the materialistic eyes of the world so why bother.

Anyway, great thread and nice to meet you all. Hope you get that nice cup of tea andyh. I know Iíve come lightyears spiritually in these months because two days in a row Iíve run into people actively engaged in very spiritual lives who have joined me walking the dog. Itís amazing to me they would want to spend time in my company. I like it.

The whole world has turned sunshine yellow with the fall leaves and I look forward to pulling the curtains each morning because it has quite an impact. There is a Persian Ironwood near my front door, the Parrot Tree. It has managed to produce leaves of every autumn colour at the same time. Gaudy and loud and magnificent! It wonít last for long now because the winter storms will be barreling across the atlantic to strip it bare soon. The weather I get here is born on the great plains of america mostly. Interconnected.

Anyway enough wiffle!
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I have this book called Rising Strong by Brene Brown.....I haven't read much of it yet, but maybe it could apply to this. She mentions the stages of change: how the first stage is new and we're fueled with encouragement, the last stage is where we want to end up, where we actually see the results, and then there's the "messy middle" or "the rumble" as she calls it.....the dark part of the tunnel where we can't see what the hell we're doing. Maybe being "stuck" means we're in the middle stage and we need to just keep going.....
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Beautiful posts, Weev1l and Purp.

I’m trying to focus on my job, “stuck” in a conference call. Kinda failing.
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I had a long difficult day in work. Middle management classic you do all the work and your boss gets all the credit. Then one or two things go belly up and its like " how the feck can he come in here and ask why that went belly up" cheek of him. I think it's just my ego on a power trip. But today was just an accumulation of things going wrong. The cherry or icing on the cake, this new person who started in june sends me a mail " I have nothing to do and im getting bored" yep deffo the cherry bun to finish a lovely day.
Well I suppose it will wait till monday now.
Happy weekend to all
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Oh i hate that. Its like, “look around and figure out how to help, will you?”
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Hi, Weev! Welcome to the weekenders!

I can relate to all those fears of leaving the cage. And what I've learned so far it that the only way to conquer them is to step over the threshold. And then act on new reality.

And thank you for that beautiful picture of the Parrot Tree! I just can see it turning with beautiful fall colors.

Purple - Different authors give different names to this stage. Steven Pressfield calls it "Belly of the Beast" - dark and seemingly hopeless. Yes, keep moving and don't look back. All the way to the light. I know for me it's the hardest part to keep my cool at this stage and have faith in my journey.

Bix - I hope you will navigate out of your conference call soon)


I've come across an interesting passage today:

Caesar famously wept at the feet of a statue of Alexander the Great. “Do you not think it is matter for sorrow that while Alexander, at my age, was already king of so many peoples, I have as yet achieved no brilliant success?” he said.

I bet the guy was as stuck in unhealthy comparison as it gets)

Bedtime for me.

Have a good one, all!

See you)
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Good night MB. What a great thread !
I think I just might do the same. (bed)
Goodnight folks.
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