Need some supportive words
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Sorry I hadn't checked in. It went well. When we were getting ready to sit down and my dad was getting the glasses, I non-nonchalantly said I don't drink anymore. He said "oh ok." I just said I get headaches and have to get up early. No body really bothered to pursue it further.
To be honest, the whole way from the airport, in the supermarket, while cooking dinner, I did think about it. It was more nostalgic than anything else. I never had the overwhelming urge to drink and knew I wouldn't do it, but the thoughts did come. At the end of the night, I never felt better. I feel like I needed this though. I hadn't been through any test in the last 75 odd days and I know the world will test me. As I get more of these experiences or tests under me, I know it will get easier. In the past, my thought processes was always, oh, what does it matter, I'll just drink this week and then back to normal after. Well getting back to normal usually took a few weeks on it's own, setting back all of my goals. This time around, I know what will happen and I don't have any doubts that something will be different this time. I know exactly how it will go. If I want this, and I do, I just have to stay sober.
To be honest, the whole way from the airport, in the supermarket, while cooking dinner, I did think about it. It was more nostalgic than anything else. I never had the overwhelming urge to drink and knew I wouldn't do it, but the thoughts did come. At the end of the night, I never felt better. I feel like I needed this though. I hadn't been through any test in the last 75 odd days and I know the world will test me. As I get more of these experiences or tests under me, I know it will get easier. In the past, my thought processes was always, oh, what does it matter, I'll just drink this week and then back to normal after. Well getting back to normal usually took a few weeks on it's own, setting back all of my goals. This time around, I know what will happen and I don't have any doubts that something will be different this time. I know exactly how it will go. If I want this, and I do, I just have to stay sober.
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[Oops! I should have read through before I posted. Glad it went well! Well, this was my reaction to your OP so maybe I should let it stand in case in helps someone in a similar situation.]
Don't let his/their expectations control you.
No need to poison yourself to please someone else.
No need to make excuses, really, although I can see how it might help smooth over an awkward moment if one should occur.
Your continuing sobriety wouldn't be the questionable behavior in that case -- it would be the rude insistence by the other person.
You might have to be the grownup now.
P.S. -- tension happens -- don't let yourself be limited or imprisoned by fear of possible tension.
Don't let his/their expectations control you.
No need to poison yourself to please someone else.
No need to make excuses, really, although I can see how it might help smooth over an awkward moment if one should occur.
Your continuing sobriety wouldn't be the questionable behavior in that case -- it would be the rude insistence by the other person.
You might have to be the grownup now.
P.S. -- tension happens -- don't let yourself be limited or imprisoned by fear of possible tension.
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