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Old 10-21-2017, 05:40 PM
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Salvation Army has help too. They may be able to guide you. Try calling them in the morning. There is a number here in Houston just for that, a quick search on internet found it. there may be help there in West Virginia too.
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Old 10-21-2017, 05:56 PM
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Oh my goodness ... I never thought of that! They would absolutely know about my local area and what to expect when asking for help!

I can see it now ... No honey, I'm not having an affair ... I've just been sneaking out to go to AA ... I'm joking ... I'm going to tell my husband lol.

Totally googling that number ... 100% making that call.




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You can always call AA, they have a local phone number. Sometimes if it's outside of business hours someone will have to call you back, but people in AA locally will know how to find help for you and will probably know the ins and outs of local detox etc. or even a doctor to call who will help you. You'd be surprised at the number of medical professionals in AA, and they truly want to help.

Doesn't cost anything to call them...or even hit up a meeting and get some phone numbers.
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Old 10-21-2017, 06:03 PM
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If you do, a woman will contact you, most likely. That should be a request from you if they don't mention it...unless they have a doctor who does service work for AA who happens to be a man...

Anyway, just tell them as much or as little as you want. They are all volunteers and you should get good advice. It's a service organization.
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Old 10-21-2017, 06:03 PM
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This is a list of a variety of recovery programs and what we did in the early days:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...at-we-did.html
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Old 10-21-2017, 06:05 PM
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Iamme31 - I love your sense of humor in these dark hours. Lol - your poor dog. It will get you far.

Firstly, you’re not alone. I too drank in “silence” for a long time. Always vodka because you can’t “smell it” right? That was until my body became saturated with it as I needed more and more. Then there was no hiding it just from the alcohol smell. Initially it made me happy, more outgoing, more fun to be around, care free yada, yada, yada.

You’re smart to ask for help. If you feel you can’t detox safely on your own go to the ER. They can’t force you to do anything, but they can ease the side effects. Good luck and stay close to SR, it’s a lifesaver.
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Old 10-21-2017, 06:27 PM
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Welcome to SR, iamme😀
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Old 10-21-2017, 07:24 PM
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Welcome to the family. Please do get help from your doctor. They can prescribe short term meds to get you thru the withdrawals safely and comfortably.

I hope our support can help you get sober for good.
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Old 10-21-2017, 07:41 PM
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Hello again iamme. I've gone a few hours dry now. How about you?

Sending hugs your way.
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Old 10-21-2017, 08:24 PM
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Iamme31- I am also a mom who spent most of my day drinking. I also felt I had nobody that seemed to notice or care except for the dog(s). So I understand, I really do. Do you have a single person in your life who you trust and who you can talk to? Mom, sister, husband, friend?

My last drink was more than 9 years ago. I did have people I could have turned to but my pride wouldn't let me ask them for help. I quit on my own. By myself. It wasn't until I started sobering up and healing that I realized I had a lot of people who I could have turned to had I just trusted them enough to ask for help. Don't let pride win. Ask someone to help you.
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Old 10-21-2017, 08:59 PM
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Great thread I am me.
As bimini say's you have passed the line.
You have to ask for and accept help fast.

You have a lot going for you....young mum, 3 kids, a life. ...
I am glad I found SR too. Just reading through the thread you know why.

I never tried tapering. Who am I trying to fool. Ah my wife. Ya but she is the one who will be wheel barrowing me into the ER in a couple of weeks.
My scenario.

Go get help love. A doctor.
Probably some meds for withdrawal.
Loads of water and exercise.
Keep posting your story.
You have all the answers inside you.
You will be ok.
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Old 10-21-2017, 11:37 PM
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Well, you lot have been busy while I'm been snoring away here in the UK. Lol.

Iamme, welcome. This place has gone a long way to helping me stay completely sober and (mostly) sane these past 3.5 years. This place and the folks at AA.

My other half didn't understand the need for me to get completely sober either (he still drinks pretty heavily, and didn't want to lose his drinking buddy - besides, I didn't really explain a lot of things to him. )

There is no judgement here. Or at AA. Please do stick around and keep reading and posting, and reach out for help locally at your doctors surgery and AA. I remember being amazed at what a massive recovery community there was, and how welcoming they were. It's like Harry Potter pushing through at platform 9 & 3/4 isn't it. At my first few meetings this was overwhelmingly apparent to me - so much so that it made me sob like a child. I had felt to isolated for so long, and actually had never really believed that anyone felt like me, or would understand me. Then suddenly all these other people were there who DID!! And who wanted ME to keep coming back. I still find it amazing that in most towns and cities across the world there are groups of alcoholics qietyly meeting up each week (or daily in some places) to share their experience, strength and hope with others, including strangers who want to get sober. Getting sober and working on my recovery here and in AA really has restored my faith in human nature. I have met so many kind people, and experienced so much love along the way.

I'll be praying for you to lean into that fear and get the help that can help you turn things around. The help you deserve.

All the best for your sobriety and recovery.
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Old 10-22-2017, 12:17 AM
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Originally Posted by Rubaduck View Post
Hello again iamme. I've gone a few hours dry now. How about you?

Sending hugs your way.
Well ... I have not learned how to drink while sleeping yet ... So I suppose that I managed to make it precisely 3 hours while sleeping before I woke up shaking and sweating. I sat there for .5 hours wondering if I really needed a drink or not.

4.5 ounces of vodka later ... I finally feel normal again and like I may be able to rest.

I tried very hard ... But I'm failing. I did manage to drink a bit less today ... But that is not enough.

I decided to wait until morning to call anyone from AA ... I just really didn't feel good about calling anyone so late at night ... So I came here.

I am going to make that call tomorrow. Get the ball rolling and find real help.

My husband will likely think I am being dramatic and could just drink less. In his defense, until now, I would have likely thought anyone could just drink less too ... But now that I am walking this path myself ... I can see much more clearly. This is not a simple path ..

My mother and siblings ... I just don't have it in me to break their hearts. I've never known anyone with my drinking problem ... But my father was an alcoholic and committed suicide when I was a baby. I don't want to scare them.

I've never wanted to harm myself but they may not understand.

So ... I really think that AA and you guys will be my new support network.

Thank you to everyone who has responded!
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I hope today will be a better day for you

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With regards to telling people, you know, there really is no need to make any decisions about that stuff today, or tomorrow. There may come a time when it seems right, but for now perhaps just reserve your energy for seek out and reaching for help, and getting sober. One step at a time.

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Welcome to the forum. Glad you have joined.

My husband didn't want me to quit either. If I stopped my unpleasant drinking behaviours, it then shined a light on his. He was uncomfortable with this.
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Old 10-22-2017, 12:39 AM
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I have resisted the word alcoholic and tried to convince myself that my problems were not so bad.

I've only been drinking for 6 months .. So who am I to complain? But a liter of vodka a day (for 6 months solid) is no joke. Only sleeping for 3 hours before waking up with the shakes and night sweats is no joke ..

I am an alcoholic.

I've never said that before ... Just wanted to bring my honesty to a new level. I don't want to leave any room for doubt as I prepare to make those phone calls tomorrow. No room for personal denial.
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" I am walking this path myself "
And talking writing and stopping at the docs is on that path. But you are correct. We have to find and travel that path ourselves. We are indeed complicated equations.

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(an alcoholic too)
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Originally Posted by iamme31 View Post
I have resisted the word alcoholic and tried to convince myself that my problems were not so bad.

I've only been drinking for 6 months .. So who am I to complain? But a liter of vodka a day (for 6 months solid) is no joke. Only sleeping for 3 hours before waking up with the shakes and night sweats is no joke ..

I am an alcoholic.

I've never said that before ... Just wanted to bring my honesty to a new level. I don't want to leave any room for doubt as I prepare to make those phone calls tomorrow. No room for personal denial.
Hi and welcome to you, fellow alcoholic mother of two here. I also was drinking morning to night, over three bottles of wine a day.
I of course don't know you and am definitely not a doctor or a psychologist, but just reading what you posted it sure sounds like you really have a strong chemical dependency that has to do more with the chemical makeup of your liver and brain. Like an allergy. Plain science. For things to take hold so quickly and in such a dramatic way, that is what comes to mind. Again, i am no doctor or psychologist though, and those should be two people you definitely meet with. Exploring your untreated depression would be a good idea for sure.
I say this to maybe ease some of that fear and tension over the word alcoholic. I am really of the school of thought that this disease is a medical, physiological nature. Even for others who have had different experiences I feel that there is this "allergy" component to it, therefore, it is no different than cancer, heart disease or what have you. We just biologically got bad luck. It is not some huge moral failure on your (or my) part) it is simply that your body does not know how to process alcohol like normal drinkers. For me, my moral failure came into play when I realised that I could not safely drink and still did not do anything serious about stopping. But just having this problem does not make me a bad person.
You may get something important out of reading the book "Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism" by James Mila and Katherine Ketchum.

Here is a SR post in which a fellow member posted some excerpts. I came across this post years ago and immediately bought the book, I found it to be an incredibly informative and helpful book.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...influence.html (Excerpts from "Under The Influence")
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