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Old 10-14-2017, 08:36 AM
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Still in this. Sober friday was nice. I dont know why I bothered ever drinking on fridays. Its not even enough time after work to be doing that. Kids just woke up time to make a pancake breakfast and watch cartoons

Folks often comment on how much longer the weekend seems to last when one is not drunk or using or hungover. It's great to be able to to both the responsible adult things snd the fun stuff.
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Old 10-14-2017, 09:59 AM
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Hi JuliaClaire. I can relate completely to you concerns about your relationship. I have been married for 14 years and have 4 children with my beautiful French wife. The problem is that we (I) have rarely been sober in that time - apart from when she was pregnant with our kids. I'm really worried that she is getting bored with the whole sobriety thing. She has been really supportive and has barely drank at all since I have been sober - but sometimes I get the feeling that she is willing me to have a glass of wine with her. It really did play a big part in our relationship and we have had lots of fun times whilst drinking. There hasn't really been a downside either. I am quite a happy drunk, so it rarely came between us. She doesn't really understand that it is a compulsion for me and that my relationship with alcohol has changed dramatically in recent years, because it isn't a problem for her at all.
If it was undermining our relationship, I'm pretty sure I would drink again and just try to control it. Time will tell.

Vman, I love the firewood thing. We are planning to retire in France. The father in law has cut wood as long as I have known him. It is such a wholesome way to heat the house. I intend to do it when we eventually live there full time.

Thanks for the warm welcome, all.
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Old 10-14-2017, 10:01 AM
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I absolutely love my new long weekends Saoutchick. They are possibly my favourite thing about sobriety.
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Old 10-14-2017, 10:48 AM
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Originally Posted by Downthepath View Post
Hi JuliaClaire. I can relate completely to you concerns about your relationship. I have been married for 14 years and have 4 children with my beautiful French wife. The problem is that we (I) have rarely been sober in that time - apart from when she was pregnant with our kids. I'm really worried that she is getting bored with the whole sobriety thing. She has been really supportive and has barely drank at all since I have been sober - but sometimes I get the feeling that she is willing me to have a glass of wine with her. It really did play a big part in our relationship and we have had lots of fun times whilst drinking. There hasn't really been a downside either. I am quite a happy drunk, so it rarely came between us. She doesn't really understand that it is a compulsion for me and that my relationship with alcohol has changed dramatically in recent years, because it isn't a problem for her at all.
If it was undermining our relationship, I'm pretty sure I would drink again and just try to control it. Time will tell.

Vman, I love the firewood thing. We are planning to retire in France. The father in law has cut wood as long as I have known him. It is such a wholesome way to heat the house. I intend to do it when we eventually live there full time.

Thanks for the warm welcome, all.

Thanks everyone for welcoming me too and for being here. This thread is awesome. It's really made this easier for me, coming on here and seeing all of the bright, clear-headed sober people at all stages. It helps enormously to read from those doing well who are happy and enjoying life (proves to me there's a good life after booze, and more to look forward to). And it's also great to see all of the posts from those who are struggling- I'm not alone.

Congratulations on five years! And happy fall! I really love this time of year.

Downthepath, thanks for your response! It feels good to know I'm not alone. Yes, we never fought, just enjoyed each other enormously while drinking. Also concerned we'll have a hard time finding the fun things to do sober. He's pretty supportive so far though. We are actually getting "civil union-ed" next week. It's not that big of a deal, I just want him to have health insurance. I think he'll have to cut back on his drinking if it's going to work, which I would hate to be the reason for- I don't think it would be sustainable and he might resent me for it. If he cut back or quit, he should do it for him.

Anyway, hope everyone is enjoying their weekend! I'm glad you guys are here. I'm going to have a cup of coffee, go for a walk on this crisp October day, then to a yoga class.
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Old 10-14-2017, 11:01 AM
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Originally Posted by MidnightBlue View Post
Welcome to the Weekenders, Juliaclare!

Congrats on your second weekend sober.

I wasn't in relationships when I quit, so I can't totally relate. Probably, it's worth exploring to find a way to have good time when you don't drink. There are lots of activities which don't require alcohol.
Thanks midnight. I guess we'll see what happens here. He doesn't seem to need the daily dose as much as I do, but he certainly drinks quite a bit. He came home pretty drunk, and had to work this morning. It was a little annoying to tell the truth. So lovey dovey. He couldn't have felt great getting up for work. Made me feel grateful. I love him and hope this all work out, especially considering we decided to get married.

Well, I wish you an excellent day. Glad you we're able to fix your chair. Thanks for being here.
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Old 10-14-2017, 11:23 AM
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Thank you, Juliaclare.

I hope you both find a way to work it out. But in any case, focus on what you can control - your own sobriety. As far as you keep clear head it gives an opportunity to handle other life issues.
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Old 10-14-2017, 12:06 PM
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Feeling sleepy, so going to call it a night.

Have a great Saturday, weekenders)
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Old 10-14-2017, 06:11 PM
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They still have Saturday morning cartoons eh? The ones I use to watch have either had all the violent scenes edited out or have been banned.

I was just thinking the other day how it seems this whole year has slowed down. I think mostly because I remember or have been present for a lot more. It's not a big blur like the many years prior.
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Old 10-14-2017, 07:36 PM
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Hi, weekenders.

I woke up super-early without an alarm - looking forward to a productive day.

Enjoying my coffee.

Dragon - I agree, weekends are no more cut out of life and memory.

So, what is everyone up to on Saturday night?
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Old 10-14-2017, 10:02 PM
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It's already Sunday lunch time for me, MB.
My AV is nibbling away at me. I have just been to the pool with my wife and kids. I have two weeks off work stretching out in front of me. The sun is shining. It is absolutely prime drinking time.
Today marks 8 weeks for me.
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Old 10-14-2017, 10:06 PM
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Congrats on 8 weeks, Downthepath!

AV will keep nibbling, just don't engage in conversation.

Enjoy your sunny day and time off work.
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Just what I needed to hear. Thanks, MB.
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Good morning all.
Been up early too watching cartoons
Good work Downthepath ..
Enjoy your coffee MB.
I see Sao is up early too....
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Old 10-14-2017, 10:47 PM
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Good morning, Vman)

It's been ages since I watched cartoons. Maybe, I should give it a try again.
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I took my eye off the ball for a second.
I was outside in the tropics (Singapore is one degree North of the equator) for about two hours without anything to drink. Of course I was dehydrated and of course I wanted to drink something. Anything. My AV saw its chance and made its pitch. A litre and a half of water, a bite to eat and a long shower later and the old AV is back in his box. Plotting.
Your response just gave me the time that I needed, MB. Thanks.
Happy sober Sunday, all.
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I’m so glad you resisted the temptation, Downthepath! Excellent work!
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I think it was Dee who said to think of the AV as a spoiled, bratty toddler who keeps whining....the more you give in, the worse it gets..... (something like that)

1st cuppa coffee & getting ready for work.....gonna be a long day, but there's no ball-and-chain hangover involved so it's better already
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Old 10-15-2017, 02:50 AM
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Great job, Downthepath!

Hi, Gilmer)

Have a good day, Purple.

I've just had a long nap and don't feel well - feel like I am about to develop a cold. Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!! Not now.
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Hope you're wrong and that you're ok, MB.
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Hey All;
Just checking in

I finished my first trail half-marathon yesterday
Challenging but also amazing. Think I'm hooked.
Us boozers and our addictive personalities. . .

I ran through hardwood forests, waded a creek, climbed through pine woods
to a fire tower (1 mile climb to get there), past cliffs that held an old
Native American settlement, saw lovely forest pools with yellow autumn leaves with waterfalls spilling into them at a trickle.

All amazing in more or less in my backyard. I live in a beautiful place.
When drinking I spent weekends in my house, missing all of this.

Was I fast? No, nearly last.
Am I tired today? You bet.

But I'm not hungover, regretful, or sad.
Just inspired by nature and the strength I keep finding in myself.
I'm so glad to be sober
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