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Old 10-08-2017, 02:26 AM
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Good Morning, Class. I had a good night's sleep and am ready for the new day. The weather has been warm. It rained yeaterday but not that cold yucky kind. It was more like a summer rain. I was fabulous! Today it is going to be sunny. Time for a bike ride to see the color of the leaves in the trees! Have a golden day, everyone!
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Old 10-08-2017, 04:29 AM
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afternoon all x day 8 for me

Havent been doing much did go see some comedians on fri evening and really just have been having lazy days. Next week cant come around quick enough for me as i am away on the sunday to visit my daughter. I have some bz days through the week but again tomo and tues i am just going to relax and keep anxiety at bay.

hope u all have a great sunday will check in later xx
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Old 10-08-2017, 07:04 AM
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Morning, class. Sorry to say that I had five days and slipped. An Ex came by the other night with wine, and....you can guess where this goes. So, back to my day one today. Putting myself in that situation was a recipe for drinkong. I will be sticking close to SR and reading about all of the great progress on here. Also, reading the toolkit links Dee has posted. I obviously need a (better) plan.

Thanks for being here everyone. Opening up is extremely difficult for me. Even on the "anonymous" internet.
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Old 10-08-2017, 07:40 AM
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stubbs- I feel same way.

I'm going to try again, though. I have today and tomorrow off work to focus on a better plan.

Thankful to have SR to come to.
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Old 10-08-2017, 11:06 AM
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Thanks izzy. Yes, I know I will keep at it, till the miracle happens!

Its a rainy Sunday here, so didnt get my dog walks in, or my exercise either. I do have a treadmill, but prefer walking outside in nature. Im feeling blue today, so its nice to be able to come here and read for awhile. I didnt get to see my grandson like planned this wkend tho. Our wires got crossed, and we missed each other. I have to admit, he is such a joy to me. I love him with all my heart. Another good reason to get and stay sober. I certainly want to be around for many more years, and see him grow up!

Make it a great day friends.
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Old 10-08-2017, 11:19 AM
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Boracraze, so glad you came right back! Start again.
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Old 10-08-2017, 11:20 AM
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Hi everyone!
Beautiful Sunday here. Went to drop off a gift basket and meals to a friend going through stage 4 cancer treatment. 34 year old mom with 2 kids in diapers 😢 Really puts things in perspective on how selfish it is to willingly poison my body to “escape” life when others are fighting tooth and nail to hold on.

Please say a prayer for this beautiful mama and her family. Keep on keepin’ on sober friends!
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Old 10-08-2017, 11:44 AM
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Hi back too day 1 and feeling terrible
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Old 10-08-2017, 12:22 PM
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Glad to see in in Class. Hope you are feeling better soon. Stay close to us. We are an awesome class to be a part of!
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Old 10-08-2017, 02:46 PM
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Boracraze, Mummyto2 and Stubbs I came very very close to drinking yesterday so I get it. Just start again and realize that relapse can happen but you're still with us and that's what matters most
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Old 10-08-2017, 04:15 PM
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Welcome and welcome back Boracraze, Mummyto2 Izzy and Stubbs

Changing our life is hard - but no one need do this alone

if you make a solid commitment to reach out every time for help before you take that first drink I really believe you'll find the whole staying sober thing a lot easier?

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Old 10-08-2017, 06:08 PM
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I had a lovely morning and afternoon with my daughter today... bagels, the park, church, Indian food (our favorite!), and some clothes shopping that didn’t end with a tween girl in tears over jeans. Her dad got her around 4pm and I immediately had a huge craving to drink.

This is a pattern... I am a good mom when she’s there, but then she leaves and I desperately want to check out and drink. She’s such a great kid... it’s just that the act of motherhood in general is overwhelming.

So I decided not to perpetuate the cycle. I ate, drank water, and read a book until 7:30 when I went to an A.A. meeting. I haven’t been in years but it wasn’t unfamiliar and now, at least, I don’t feel “New” anymore. I’m doing this... I’m not just debating doing it anymore. And that’s a relief.

Constantly thinking “I have to do something about my drinking” is actually way more exhausting than just being brave, making a commitment, and doing something.
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Old 10-08-2017, 08:12 PM
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Originally Posted by TiredPrayer View Post
I had a lovely morning and afternoon with my daughter today... bagels, the park, church, Indian food (our favorite!), and some clothes shopping that didn’t end with a tween girl in tears over jeans. Her dad got her around 4pm and I immediately had a huge craving to drink.

This is a pattern... I am a good mom when she’s there, but then she leaves and I desperately want to check out and drink. She’s such a great kid... it’s just that the act of motherhood in general is overwhelming.

So I decided not to perpetuate the cycle. I ate, drank water, and read a book until 7:30 when I went to an A.A. meeting. I haven’t been in years but it wasn’t unfamiliar and now, at least, I don’t feel “New” anymore. I’m doing this... I’m not just debating doing it anymore. And that’s a relief.

Constantly thinking “I have to do something about my drinking” is actually way more exhausting than just being brave, making a commitment, and doing something.
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Old 10-08-2017, 08:15 PM
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Still trying to figure out how to be more successful with triggers. This time was stress, anger, resentment over work. It does me no good to get suckered in by emotions. Will check in again in the morning with a fresh start.

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Old 10-08-2017, 11:33 PM
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Hi - it's good to see those who slipped back.

I've got to say that I'm being tested this time sooner than I thought I would. My OH is working away again tonight. I'm not going to drink though but I have to make sure I've got stuff to do. I guess I'm lucky in that I will only drink when I'm alone and that doesn't happen that often.

Monday is here and facing the music at work.

Have a happy sober day everyone.
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Old 10-09-2017, 12:51 AM
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I think there's an appropriate response to every trigger - thinking about what they could be for you ahead of time could really help CH?

good going beating those thoughts charliesworld - you too TiredPrayer

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Old 10-09-2017, 02:21 AM
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Good Morning! It 's a brand new day and I will make it a great one! I will be positive, productive and find peace. But, most importantly...I will not drink.
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Old 10-09-2017, 04:37 AM
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Awoke this morning suddenly out of a drunk dream. I had that few seconds of panic thinking that it had been real and it was extra scary because in my dream I (of course) did something stupid and my husband was leaving me.

It was such a humungous relief to realize I was clear headed, snuggled in bed with him, and it was all just a premonition of the horror of the future if I continued drinking.

Feeling positive. I definitely won’t be drinking today!
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Old 10-09-2017, 04:45 AM
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Morning, class. Stubbs, Zen, Dee, Chloerose, et al....thanks for the welcome back.

It is very inspiring to see all of the progress on this thread. For everyone like me, who slipped and is back, thanks for posting. My alcoholic brain needs to see that I am not alone in this madnesss and crazy cycle of thinking.

Slept well last night. Good to wake up without the anxiety and baggage of a night of drinking. The first few days of not drinking are easy for me....the simple pain of the lasting emotional and physical hangover keep me honest. After that is when my triggers are magnified, and one drink sounds good. And, of course, one drink may as well be 100. Ughhh . So, shoring up my plan today is my priority.

Off to work and then to the gym afterwards. Have a good day class. BC.
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Old 10-09-2017, 05:04 AM
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I'd just like to say something to those who have slipped recently. Something that I have come to realise after the many relapses I've had.

Do not listen to your thoughts those first few days after drinking. It is not you it is the depressant effects of the alcohol speaking. You will find without a doubt after 2/3/4 days your thoughts are much more positive. Horrible as it is getting through those first few days as easily as you can is the most important thing. Rest, read, walk whatever it takes just to pass the time. Don't make any decisions, don't take any actions that you might regret later. When you are thinking more clearly then it will be much easier.

Unfortunately after that the reasons/thoughts you had which made you drink in the first place start to come back to you. It is then you need to start your recovery plan - put into practise the actions/plans you have made.

Is it something you are worried about? If so, can you do anything about it? If so do it, if not, can you think about/do nicer things to distract yourself? Trust me sitting in self pity/blame/worry is so bad for you and it serves no purpose. You are not a bad person you have just used something to feel better that happens to have had bad consequences and you are learning new ways to manage that unhappiness.

Are you bored? Plan things in that you enjoy whatever that is. If you can't think of anything look into volunteering. It's social and where we have been is a great place to be able to help others. Much more so than someone who has sailed through life with no real problems. Loads of places are crying out for people.

Are you overwhelmed with too much to do, delegate, drop things, whatever it takes to get back some time.

You get the jist?
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