Here's my story..
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Here's my story..
I live in a very small hamlet in the middle of nowhere so there's no groups and if there was if one person saw me everyone would know I have a drinking problem. I guess I'm more of a binge Drinker I can go days without a drink but when I do drink I can't seem to stop I've been married a year and I've been able to hide it very well till lately and I'll be damned if I'm going to let drinking screw up my marriage I've never been happier in my life and I'm so scared of losing that. that's why I have to stop I just don't know how .. my husband isn't much of a drinker and if he knew I had a problem he would never drink around me but I'm scared to tell him cuz I know how he talks about people who drink too much and it's very negative and I don't want him to think of me like that. so I have to do this on my own the biggest obstacle I find when I'm trying not to drink is my mother is an alcoholic and she's always trying to get me to have a drink with her even when I tell her I don't want to drink anymore she 75 she lives next door to me so I can take care of her cuz she has COPD so I'm around her a lot so I was hoping I could find ideas on here and just talking about it I think will help me feel less alone in this process. physically I can go days so I don't think I have to worry about withdrawal it's just the habit and cravings I have to figure out how to control
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Welcome to SR,
I fairly new to this as well, 33 days sober. I was a binge drinker too, but I binge drank every day.
What helped me in the first few weeks for breaking the habit and cravings.
I joined a support group (AA) but there are other's out there. I got a sponsor and talked to him everyday. I went to meetings everyday, and still do. Then I joined SR, and made a commitment everyday on the 24hr thread to take another sober day. I read and read loads of posts from others on here and it built up my motivation and let me know that I'm not alone in this struggle. I found out what my triggers were (driving home after work and passing the liquor store). I changed my routine and took a different route home.
Most importantly, I remembered how I felt on my last drunk, I was beaten into a state of complete guilt, shame and remorse. I was emotionally and mentally broken. I had to fully accept the fact that I can't drink alcohol like normal drinkers can and that I needed help.
There's lots of great people on here with loads of experience, strength and hope. I hope you find something on here that keeps you coming back.
I fairly new to this as well, 33 days sober. I was a binge drinker too, but I binge drank every day.
What helped me in the first few weeks for breaking the habit and cravings.
I joined a support group (AA) but there are other's out there. I got a sponsor and talked to him everyday. I went to meetings everyday, and still do. Then I joined SR, and made a commitment everyday on the 24hr thread to take another sober day. I read and read loads of posts from others on here and it built up my motivation and let me know that I'm not alone in this struggle. I found out what my triggers were (driving home after work and passing the liquor store). I changed my routine and took a different route home.
Most importantly, I remembered how I felt on my last drunk, I was beaten into a state of complete guilt, shame and remorse. I was emotionally and mentally broken. I had to fully accept the fact that I can't drink alcohol like normal drinkers can and that I needed help.
There's lots of great people on here with loads of experience, strength and hope. I hope you find something on here that keeps you coming back.
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Welcome and you will find lots of support here and I'm glad you found us and posted.
I was a closet drinker as well and tried very hard to hide it from my husband and everyone else. What I can tell you for sure is that alcoholism is progressive, and unless you stop drinking, it will get worse.
In the very early days, it helped me to change my routine. Early evening, after cleaning up from supper, was the worst time for me. So, I started going out for long walks. This helped me physically, mentally and spiritually. With the cravings, you need to do whatever it takes to ride it out. There is no way around it, but to go through it, and each time will get a bit easier.
It's important to know that stopping drinking is the first step, but I needed to make lifestyle changes to support my recovery. I could not be around alcohol or people drinking. It just didn't work for me. And, that included my mother, who was an alcoholic. I had to distance myself and am glad I did because I wouldn't have succeeded otherwise.
I was a closet drinker as well and tried very hard to hide it from my husband and everyone else. What I can tell you for sure is that alcoholism is progressive, and unless you stop drinking, it will get worse.
In the very early days, it helped me to change my routine. Early evening, after cleaning up from supper, was the worst time for me. So, I started going out for long walks. This helped me physically, mentally and spiritually. With the cravings, you need to do whatever it takes to ride it out. There is no way around it, but to go through it, and each time will get a bit easier.
It's important to know that stopping drinking is the first step, but I needed to make lifestyle changes to support my recovery. I could not be around alcohol or people drinking. It just didn't work for me. And, that included my mother, who was an alcoholic. I had to distance myself and am glad I did because I wouldn't have succeeded otherwise.
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Hey Beeyatch, good to meet you.
You are not going this alone as now you have all of us at SR. That is a significant point to make as I have been trying to address my alcoholism for many years but I'd never tried with a recovery community behind me. It's a totally different experience which has information, insight and most importantly hope for the future. My advice would be come here every day, read and post. People with years of sobriety will always help you out and point you in the right direction. For me walking (a lot), meditation, making a list of every horrible thing that alcohol has ever done to you and loads of good recovery reading has helped create a new way to live.
You are not going this alone as now you have all of us at SR. That is a significant point to make as I have been trying to address my alcoholism for many years but I'd never tried with a recovery community behind me. It's a totally different experience which has information, insight and most importantly hope for the future. My advice would be come here every day, read and post. People with years of sobriety will always help you out and point you in the right direction. For me walking (a lot), meditation, making a list of every horrible thing that alcohol has ever done to you and loads of good recovery reading has helped create a new way to live.
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Thank you this does help and feels good talking about finally and here at least it's with people like you that understand and don't judge. I wish I would have looked into this site long time ago, but hey better late than never right 
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Yes being around my mother will be I think the hardest part of quitting but not having you in my life is just not an option she does depend on me she 75 years old and I can't turn my back on her I just won't hang around this much and that will help in and out kind of thing and I'm very lucky my husband doesn't drink at home and I think that's my biggest problem is drinking at home when I'm out camping or something I don't over drink I don't have the desire to get that drunk there's something about drinking at home and now the question is is it possible for an alcoholic to quit drinking but yet still have the occasional drink camping or do I have to stay away from it completely?
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Welcome and you will find lots of support here and I'm glad you found us and posted.
I was a closet drinker as well and tried very hard to hide it from my husband and everyone else. What I can tell you for sure is that alcoholism is progressive, and unless you stop drinking, it will get worse.
In the very early days, it helped me to change my routine. Early evening, after cleaning up from supper, was the worst time for me. So, I started going out for long walks. This helped me physically, mentally and spiritually. With the cravings, you need to do whatever it takes to ride it out. There is no way around it, but to go through it, and each time will get a bit easier.
It's important to know that stopping drinking is the first step, but I needed to make lifestyle changes to support my recovery. I could not be around alcohol or people drinking. It just didn't work for me. And, that included my mother, who was an alcoholic. I had to distance myself and am glad I did because I wouldn't have succeeded otherwise.
I was a closet drinker as well and tried very hard to hide it from my husband and everyone else. What I can tell you for sure is that alcoholism is progressive, and unless you stop drinking, it will get worse.
In the very early days, it helped me to change my routine. Early evening, after cleaning up from supper, was the worst time for me. So, I started going out for long walks. This helped me physically, mentally and spiritually. With the cravings, you need to do whatever it takes to ride it out. There is no way around it, but to go through it, and each time will get a bit easier.
It's important to know that stopping drinking is the first step, but I needed to make lifestyle changes to support my recovery. I could not be around alcohol or people drinking. It just didn't work for me. And, that included my mother, who was an alcoholic. I had to distance myself and am glad I did because I wouldn't have succeeded otherwise.
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Originally Posted by Beeyatch
is it possible for an alcoholic to quit drinking but yet still have the occasional drink camping or do I have to stay away from it completely?
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I asked the same question you asked about 'just one'..what's the point in just one?; is where that got me, a few years later. You do not have to drink booze with your mother. not at all! That's just your mind telling you it's 'normal'.. Normal people do not search out recovery forums on the internet. I thought I was ' a different type. nothing was wrong in my life,ect..' That's until it was and I had lost control.. Seek support where ever you can get it. Sooner rather than later(like me).
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Originally Posted by Beeyatch
my own the biggest obstacle I find when I'm trying not to drink is my mother is an alcoholic and she's always trying to get me to have a drink with her even when I tell her I don't want to drink anymore she 75 she lives next door to me so I can take care of her cuz she has COPD
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Beeyatch is my old World of Warcraft username I use it for everything now LOL
=Dee74;6619636]Welcome
Being around a drinker is rough but you'll find a lot of success stories and support here
Might want to change your user name to something more positive tho?
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=Dee74;6619636]Welcome
Being around a drinker is rough but you'll find a lot of success stories and support here
Might want to change your user name to something more positive tho?
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