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Old 09-20-2017, 03:28 AM
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Sudden awful news - reminders of the short ride we're on

My stepmother has extensive stage small cell lung cancer.

That's essentially a death sentence.

We're all issued a death sentence the day we're born, nobody gets out alive. Still, we like to imagine we have 'lots of time'.

When the end comes looming, it comes as a shock and hits hard.

I find myself worrying for my father. I feel his likely grief - his best friend of nearly 40 years will be leaving him soon.

I find myself feeling for her.... staring down her mortality with a prognosis of suffering for the remainder of her days.

I find myself looking back on my years of smoking, drinking, drugging, bad choices..... humbled..... grateful those days are behind me and slightly concerned; do those choices catch back up with me again??

I find myself deeply grateful for sobriety. The ride is so short. There is so much to cherish and experience and there is Love to give and to receive.

To waste even a moment of it drunk, high, hungover, in jail, suffering...... is to throw away a gift.

The ride is so short.......

Cherish it.
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Old 09-20-2017, 03:33 AM
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So sorry about your parents.
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Old 09-20-2017, 03:50 AM
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Sorry to hear this FreeOwl - be strong for them, but look after yourself too x
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Amen..!!!
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Old 09-20-2017, 03:59 AM
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Sorry to hear this. Be strong for all of you. Hope she gets good pain relief. My mom went to hospice. It was the best thing ever.
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Old 09-20-2017, 04:33 AM
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so sad Im very sorry for her and your family . Thank you or posting this.
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Old 09-20-2017, 04:50 AM
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very sorry for your news. Live is indeed a gift!
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Old 09-20-2017, 04:51 AM
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I'm sorry for your stepmother your dad and family FreeOwl.

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Old 09-20-2017, 05:59 AM
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Sorry to hear ..
But thank you for posting your thoughts.
Especially the part about ..
Life is short.. why go through any of it drunk or stoned out.

Best to you and your family.
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Old 09-20-2017, 01:56 PM
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Sorry to read that FreeOwl, I hope your stepmother does not suffer too much. You are right about not wasting the gift of life.
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Old 09-21-2017, 12:22 AM
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I'm sorry, FreeOwl, for what you're family must face. It's very true- especially when we're young we think we'll live forever, that there will always be time. But our time is never so much as we want.
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Old 09-21-2017, 04:25 AM
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Sorry to hear about your news.
How true your reflection post is. Good advice for all of us.
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Old 09-21-2017, 01:06 PM
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I am so very sorry to hear this news, FreeOwl.
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Old 09-21-2017, 08:35 PM
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Sorry to hear about your stepmom FreeOwl. Thank you for posting your thoughts. Always helpful.
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