DontRemember

....the actively drinking 'YOU'? Just a thought I had while one of my clients complained to me about his wife's drinking. He knows I'm "not drinking right now." But, nothing about my history with booze. I always 'thought' they were a great couple and now that I took off the booze goggles everything is NOT how I used to see it. Everyone have a great night! I'll be checking in throughout the night to keep myself sane from drunk people at my house. I'm just setting back,playing host and enjoying the circus!

axeman5971

Nope. If I kept going, my marriage would have fallen apart, and it's a newer one. First one.

Don't know how long it would've taken, but I am never going to find out

duane1

I'm sure my wife would have left me eventually. I don't see how she stood me for the first year after I quit either. It took at least 2 years for my moods to even back out.

Snufkin

Never. I was verbally abusive when drunk, also unpredictable, aggressive and just plain stupid. My partner of 7 years met me when I was a full blown alcoholic already; I remember I had whisky in a plastic coke bottle on our first date. He's seen the worst of me but somehow stayed with me for all these years. Sometimes I feel so guilty I wish he hasn't

Jules714

Nope. I was a nasty girl in my blackouts. Finally got me dumped...huge catalyst for getting sober!
In addition, I wish I had left the drunk ex husband when I was sober. Him leaving me after all the years I stood by him was a huge proponent as to why I turned to the bottle. All complete insanity.
Very thankful to be getting on with my life finally.
Proud to say I don't miss either of them. Finally content on my own.
Jules

Forward12

Would I stay with a drunk? Not a chance.

Gottalife

Nope. No one with an ounce of self respect would have anything to do with me in the last two years of my drinking. Nor would I date alcoholic women, sober or otherwise - one nutter in a relationship is enough, and there are plenty of nice normal women out in the world.

Thumbelina

No way. The drunk me is irrational, impulsive, anxious, depressed - in other words - a complete mess. My mood swings are hideous when I'm hungover/drinking. I cannot see how anyone would ever be able to keep up with that. Although I'm never nasty, angry or abusive when I drink, I'm not consistent and nobody deserves to be walking on eggshells.
I've been a single parent for a while now. I met someone not long ago and... completely ruined it. I was too anxious and impulsive again. I invested too deeply too early. My mood was all over the place. Needless to say, I never told him how much of a part alcohol plays in my life. He must have thought I'm the queen of crazyness. Anyway, what's done is done. It was a huge lesson and I'm currently working on staying sober and looking after myself.

SoberBlondie

I am way less patient than my husband is, so I'm not sure if I would be able to put up with a drunkie wife for the long-term if I were in his shoes.
However, he's always been supportive of me and historically down-played the severity of my drinking problem to make me feel less "out of control".

I know his intentions were pure and good, but we've recently had a discussion where I had to explain to him that this IS a big issue for me, and I need him to support my sobriety 100% (which he does) for me to recover.

tomsteve

Would you date/stay married to....

....the actively drinking 'YOU'?

sure!!I could fix me when no one else could!!!
and end up in a straight jacket like no one else did because they were wise and tossed me to the curb- they put their well being first.

heavencanwait

I spoke my mind when I got drunk. They say you speak the truth when drunk, I let things out that I would not otherwise have said sober. My TRUE feelings. I was always challenged with defending myself, as some of my so called family use to love and prod me when I was drinking. I was a happy person when drinking until they just kept edging me on and pushed me over the edge. Some very mean things were said on both sides. I felt like until your life is perfect and you have no faults, leave me alone. Now I am over 60 days sober and doing this for me...just me.

Mountainmanbob

Lost a few (good) Ladies in my life due to my drinking. Do I blame them -- no, I would have also left the crazy drunk ( and other sins included) one. Was sober when I met my current wife. Everything was fine until I relapsed. After totalling our motor home and also getting into trouble with a neighbor she told me that, " she was long gone if I didn't straighten out." I understood for if I was her I would also go to better grounds.

I went back to AA and my wife got us into Christian couseling. Coming up in a couple of months on my 10 year sober date.

No one should have to put up with a drunk or addict in their life.

M-Bob

LunaBlue

Hell no. And I'll never go out with another one either.

DontRemember

I didn't even answer my own question. haha.

I would not have stayed with me either. I guess that's why looking back, I always dated people who drank...drinking'buddies"/enablers? How insane is that? I was thinking the other day that most of my relationships since my drinking escalated have been so shallow/fake. hmmm...

He took her home shortly after I made this thread and sent me a text apologizing for his wife's behavior. I told him not to worry about it and that as he knows, I've been there before. I'm sure she's going to have that sick feeling of "what did I do? what did I say?" today. Everyone else was pretty chill and I think her behavior had a lot to do with that. They didn't want to be 'that guy'.