Too late for me i have tried, but for you young ones you can do this
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: UK
Posts: 2,937
Originally Posted by Mummyto2 
The worst thing for me, is letting down all those people that thought hey here is someone whose positive, do u know what, ive screwed up but I am not beaten YET, thanks for u know, ive just got to keep at it, I am so so tired x
Staying up drinking will not turn round being tired.
I have 5 years and I will have 6 years in Feb 2018. I have a young daughter.
If stopping drinking was easy, places like here and AA would not exist.
Many of us, me included, decided enough was enough and no more, then stopped for a bottle of wine on the way home from work.
Or caved in to pressure when out with friends.
Or had a bad day and decided to have 1 glass which would then turn into 2 bottles of wine.
For me now, not drinking is not hard.
It is a way of life.
I won't lie and say the first days, weeks and months were easy, but they were not really hard, they were just different.
I was not laying on the floor screaming for a drink or pacing the house.
But...it did take some effort.
I had to plan - just like Dee always talks about.
My plan was not sophisticated.
I did not meditate or levitate!!
I did not read scripture in a candle lit room for hours!!
I did not pray for hours on end.
Why not? - because I had work and my daughter to care for.
I was stopping drinking as life continued.
My plan was keeping busy.
When my daughter was asleep, I got busy. I tackled all the things I had put off. I did things I never normally did on a night time as my pattern was after the bedtime routine slump on the sofa in the front of the TV with booze and not move.
So the TV was turned off, the sofa was out of bounds and I never had alcohol in the house.
I never had much faith in myself, but 1 day, turned into a week. A week into a month, the 6 months, then a year.
I never got too far ahead of myself.
If someone asked 'so will you not drink at christmas...my birthday....on the all inclusive holiday we have booked...?' my answer was always I am not sure, I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
I never did drink though.
I also stopped reaching for a drink whenever the slightest thing went wrong.
In the past a slight upset would come along and that was it. I blew it up into a massive, painful crisis thatI could only cope with by having a drinking.
This might be a puncture in my tyre. Frosty words with a family member. A missed promotion at work.
I also did not know how to celebrate anything without drinking.
I know all too well, that this applies to 90% of the population in the UK which does not help.
However they may toast a celebration with 1 drink.
I would end up having 4 bottles.
I had no off switch!
I had to remember and remind myself that for me drink was not a reward. It never brought me happiness or fun. It brought me self loathing and anxiety.
If you want something, you can have it.
Persevere. Trust yourself. Have some faith in yourself.
If stopping drinking is a mistake for you, you can always start drinking again.
However I think that you won't when you experience the peace of mind that I have been rewarded with.
I wish you the best.
Friendly Folk
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
Posts: 21,717
Originally Posted by Sasha4
If you are tired, you need to sleep and take care of yourself.
Staying up drinking will not turn round being tired.
I have 5 years and I will have 6 years in Feb 2018. I have a young daughter.
If stopping drinking was easy, places like here and AA would not exist.
Many of us, me included, decided enough was enough and no more, then stopped for a bottle of wine on the way home from work.
Or caved in to pressure when out with friends.
Or had a bad day and decided to have 1 glass which would then turn into 2 bottles of wine.
For me now, not drinking is not hard.
It is a way of life.
I won't lie and say the first days, weeks and months were easy, but they were not really hard, they were just different.
I was not laying on the floor screaming for a drink or pacing the house.
But...it did take some effort.
I had to plan - just like Dee always talks about.
My plan was not sophisticated.
I did not meditate or levitate!!
I did not read scripture in a candle lit room for hours!!
I did not pray for hours on end.
Why not? - because I had work and my daughter to care for.
I was stopping drinking as life continued.
My plan was keeping busy.
When my daughter was asleep, I got busy. I tackled all the things I had put off. I did things I never normally did on a night time as my pattern was after the bedtime routine slump on the sofa in the front of the TV with booze and not move.
So the TV was turned off, the sofa was out of bounds and I never had alcohol in the house.
I never had much faith in myself, but 1 day, turned into a week. A week into a month, the 6 months, then a year.
I never got too far ahead of myself.
If someone asked 'so will you not drink at christmas...my birthday....on the all inclusive holiday we have booked...?' my answer was always I am not sure, I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
I never did drink though.
I also stopped reaching for a drink whenever the slightest thing went wrong.
In the past a slight upset would come along and that was it. I blew it up into a massive, painful crisis thatI could only cope with by having a drinking.
This might be a puncture in my tyre. Frosty words with a family member. A missed promotion at work.
I also did not know how to celebrate anything without drinking.
I know all too well, that this applies to 90% of the population in the UK which does not help.
However they may toast a celebration with 1 drink.
I would end up having 4 bottles.
I had no off switch!
I had to remember and remind myself that for me drink was not a reward. It never brought me happiness or fun. It brought me self loathing and anxiety.
If you want something, you can have it.
Persevere. Trust yourself. Have some faith in yourself.
If stopping drinking is a mistake for you, you can always start drinking again.
However I think that you won't when you experience the peace of mind that I have been rewarded with.
I wish you the best.
Staying up drinking will not turn round being tired.
I have 5 years and I will have 6 years in Feb 2018. I have a young daughter.
If stopping drinking was easy, places like here and AA would not exist.
Many of us, me included, decided enough was enough and no more, then stopped for a bottle of wine on the way home from work.
Or caved in to pressure when out with friends.
Or had a bad day and decided to have 1 glass which would then turn into 2 bottles of wine.
For me now, not drinking is not hard.
It is a way of life.
I won't lie and say the first days, weeks and months were easy, but they were not really hard, they were just different.
I was not laying on the floor screaming for a drink or pacing the house.
But...it did take some effort.
I had to plan - just like Dee always talks about.
My plan was not sophisticated.
I did not meditate or levitate!!
I did not read scripture in a candle lit room for hours!!
I did not pray for hours on end.
Why not? - because I had work and my daughter to care for.
I was stopping drinking as life continued.
My plan was keeping busy.
When my daughter was asleep, I got busy. I tackled all the things I had put off. I did things I never normally did on a night time as my pattern was after the bedtime routine slump on the sofa in the front of the TV with booze and not move.
So the TV was turned off, the sofa was out of bounds and I never had alcohol in the house.
I never had much faith in myself, but 1 day, turned into a week. A week into a month, the 6 months, then a year.
I never got too far ahead of myself.
If someone asked 'so will you not drink at christmas...my birthday....on the all inclusive holiday we have booked...?' my answer was always I am not sure, I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
I never did drink though.
I also stopped reaching for a drink whenever the slightest thing went wrong.
In the past a slight upset would come along and that was it. I blew it up into a massive, painful crisis thatI could only cope with by having a drinking.
This might be a puncture in my tyre. Frosty words with a family member. A missed promotion at work.
I also did not know how to celebrate anything without drinking.
I know all too well, that this applies to 90% of the population in the UK which does not help.
However they may toast a celebration with 1 drink.
I would end up having 4 bottles.
I had no off switch!
I had to remember and remind myself that for me drink was not a reward. It never brought me happiness or fun. It brought me self loathing and anxiety.
If you want something, you can have it.
Persevere. Trust yourself. Have some faith in yourself.
If stopping drinking is a mistake for you, you can always start drinking again.
However I think that you won't when you experience the peace of mind that I have been rewarded with.
I wish you the best.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 753
Originally Posted by Sasha4
If you are tired, you need to sleep and take care of yourself.
Staying up drinking will not turn round being tired.
I have 5 years and I will have 6 years in Feb 2018. I have a young daughter.
If stopping drinking was easy, places like here and AA would not exist.
Many of us, me included, decided enough was enough and no more, then stopped for a bottle of wine on the way home from work.
Or caved in to pressure when out with friends.
Or had a bad day and decided to have 1 glass which would then turn into 2 bottles of wine.
For me now, not drinking is not hard.
It is a way of life.
I won't lie and say the first days, weeks and months were easy, but they were not really hard, they were just different.
I was not laying on the floor screaming for a drink or pacing the house.
But...it did take some effort.
I had to plan - just like Dee always talks about.
My plan was not sophisticated.
I did not meditate or levitate!!
I did not read scripture in a candle lit room for hours!!
I did not pray for hours on end.
Why not? - because I had work and my daughter to care for.
I was stopping drinking as life continued.
My plan was keeping busy.
When my daughter was asleep, I got busy. I tackled all the things I had put off. I did things I never normally did on a night time as my pattern was after the bedtime routine slump on the sofa in the front of the TV with booze and not move.
So the TV was turned off, the sofa was out of bounds and I never had alcohol in the house.
I never had much faith in myself, but 1 day, turned into a week. A week into a month, the 6 months, then a year.
I never got too far ahead of myself.
If someone asked 'so will you not drink at christmas...my birthday....on the all inclusive holiday we have booked...?' my answer was always I am not sure, I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
I never did drink though.
I also stopped reaching for a drink whenever the slightest thing went wrong.
In the past a slight upset would come along and that was it. I blew it up into a massive, painful crisis thatI could only cope with by having a drinking.
This might be a puncture in my tyre. Frosty words with a family member. A missed promotion at work.
I also did not know how to celebrate anything without drinking.
I know all too well, that this applies to 90% of the population in the UK which does not help.
However they may toast a celebration with 1 drink.
I would end up having 4 bottles.
I had no off switch!
I had to remember and remind myself that for me drink was not a reward. It never brought me happiness or fun. It brought me self loathing and anxiety.
If you want something, you can have it.
Persevere. Trust yourself. Have some faith in yourself.
If stopping drinking is a mistake for you, you can always start drinking again.
However I think that you won't when you experience the peace of mind that I have been rewarded with.
I wish you the best.
Staying up drinking will not turn round being tired.
I have 5 years and I will have 6 years in Feb 2018. I have a young daughter.
If stopping drinking was easy, places like here and AA would not exist.
Many of us, me included, decided enough was enough and no more, then stopped for a bottle of wine on the way home from work.
Or caved in to pressure when out with friends.
Or had a bad day and decided to have 1 glass which would then turn into 2 bottles of wine.
For me now, not drinking is not hard.
It is a way of life.
I won't lie and say the first days, weeks and months were easy, but they were not really hard, they were just different.
I was not laying on the floor screaming for a drink or pacing the house.
But...it did take some effort.
I had to plan - just like Dee always talks about.
My plan was not sophisticated.
I did not meditate or levitate!!
I did not read scripture in a candle lit room for hours!!
I did not pray for hours on end.
Why not? - because I had work and my daughter to care for.
I was stopping drinking as life continued.
My plan was keeping busy.
When my daughter was asleep, I got busy. I tackled all the things I had put off. I did things I never normally did on a night time as my pattern was after the bedtime routine slump on the sofa in the front of the TV with booze and not move.
So the TV was turned off, the sofa was out of bounds and I never had alcohol in the house.
I never had much faith in myself, but 1 day, turned into a week. A week into a month, the 6 months, then a year.
I never got too far ahead of myself.
If someone asked 'so will you not drink at christmas...my birthday....on the all inclusive holiday we have booked...?' my answer was always I am not sure, I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
I never did drink though.
I also stopped reaching for a drink whenever the slightest thing went wrong.
In the past a slight upset would come along and that was it. I blew it up into a massive, painful crisis thatI could only cope with by having a drinking.
This might be a puncture in my tyre. Frosty words with a family member. A missed promotion at work.
I also did not know how to celebrate anything without drinking.
I know all too well, that this applies to 90% of the population in the UK which does not help.
However they may toast a celebration with 1 drink.
I would end up having 4 bottles.
I had no off switch!
I had to remember and remind myself that for me drink was not a reward. It never brought me happiness or fun. It brought me self loathing and anxiety.
If you want something, you can have it.
Persevere. Trust yourself. Have some faith in yourself.
If stopping drinking is a mistake for you, you can always start drinking again.
However I think that you won't when you experience the peace of mind that I have been rewarded with.
I wish you the best.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,200
You have not let anyone down Mt2, by posting here and being accountable you have not let yourself down either.
I watched a documentary about the Wright Brothers the other day. It took them more than one go before they got the Kitty Hawk airborne. I don't suppose many of quit the 1st time we tried. I know I didn't.
It is hard but you can see for yourself that you can do it because you were doing it.
Good luck!
Edit: I forgot - 54 when I got sober.
I watched a documentary about the Wright Brothers the other day. It took them more than one go before they got the Kitty Hawk airborne. I don't suppose many of quit the 1st time we tried. I know I didn't.
It is hard but you can see for yourself that you can do it because you were doing it.
Good luck!
Edit: I forgot - 54 when I got sober.
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Posts: 666
Mto2, I'm so sorry for your setback, but you can't get righ back on track. Look how many people are cheering you on. Build up a plan for how you can stop this next time. Think of all the good things you've gained, the special times with your kids, the good sleep, the healing of your body, the better health and life you are building for yourself.
Don't despair. It's not "too late" for anyone. There is always a better day!
Don't despair. It's not "too late" for anyone. There is always a better day!
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Join Date: Dec 2014
Posts: 2,966
I've had more 'well that didn't work' times than I can even count! Hang in there, take care of yourself and start again. I'm glad you came right back here. I had a one night 'slip' a couple months ago,after 7mo and felt pathetic(not saying you are). I came back on here the first thing the next day and started again. I'm back to 2 months without a drop. Keep your head up and tweak your plan as needed.
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Posts: 666
Saw an unfortunate typo and wanted to fix it:
Obviously instead: you "CAN" get right back on track!
Hope today is better. Let us know how you are!
Obviously instead: you "CAN" get right back on track!
Hope today is better. Let us know how you are!
Originally Posted by tealily
Mto2, I'm so sorry for your setback, but you can't get righ back on track. Look how many people are cheering you on. Build up a plan for how you can stop this next time. Think of all the good things you've gained, the special times with your kids, the good sleep, the healing of your body, the better health and life you are building for yourself.
Don't despair. It's not "too late" for anyone. There is always a better day!
Don't despair. It's not "too late" for anyone. There is always a better day!
Member
Join Date: Jul 2017
Location: UK
Posts: 322
Mummy22, I havent been coming here as much as I did the first couple of weeks so just seeing this now... so sad to read that you have been having a hard time. You have been a fantastic support to many of us here and we will do the same for you. You can so do this, keep posting, ask for help when you need it. We've got you x
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