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Old 08-23-2017, 03:18 PM
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Some really great advice here Mumyto2.

I don't think it's ever too late to change, and it's definitely never too late to get into recovery

Many of us stumbled a time or two - but you can get up dust yourself off and get back on the right road - maybe it's worth adding a few things to what you do for your recovery , like making a recovery plan this time?

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...very-plan.html

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Old 08-23-2017, 03:22 PM
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hang in there mummy to 2.
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Old 08-23-2017, 03:27 PM
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There are going to be people, places
and things that will put us to the test
every single day. They, it, whatever
force is out there will try to ruffle our
feathers and it is up to us in recovery
to arm ourselves with a strong recovery
program and help us, teach us ways to
avoid them, work pass them.

I am tested often, yet I know I cant
allow those people, places or things
to come any where's near me or mess
with what ive worked so hard to establish
for myself and well being.

My recovery foundation is made
up of tools to help ward off negativity,
misunderstanding, and lots of other
things that stand in the way of my
usefulness to others, my serenity,
peace of mind etc.

I learned that I cant control people,
places or things in this universe and
that folks are entitled to speak their
mind if they want. That they can feel
any way they want because it is none
of my business.

Normally if I don't agree with people,
places or things around me, I have to
simply walk away or remove myself
from the situation.

I don't know if any thing ive shared
helps or not, but hope this finds you
well and ready to conquer that demon
of addiction.

Support and understanding is on
your side. Stay strong and sober.
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Old 08-23-2017, 03:28 PM
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Originally Posted by 2ndhandrose View Post
Mummy, a tough spot is just a tough spot. Not a reason to give up
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Old 08-23-2017, 03:50 PM
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For you...this got me through many of those early months...

Mummy was a Secret Drinker: The Obstacle Course
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Old 08-23-2017, 04:49 PM
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Oh no, what happened? How ru??!!
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Old 08-23-2017, 04:54 PM
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Mummy, please don't give up. You CAN do this. We are all here for you!
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Old 08-23-2017, 05:04 PM
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I cant read all your comments but thanks, I have tried all me life to be the people pleaser, didn't want to be that person,just ended up there, I have never hurt anyone in my life apart from meself, when people say kids etc, I did everthing in my power not to hurt my kids, I just always chose to hurt myself, I protected my kids with all my being, some dont understand, when I got drunk they were at friends, when I got mad they were at friends, not always did I protect them but I did my best, to make sure I wasn't a total **** up, they are and will always be my world
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Old 08-23-2017, 05:22 PM
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Mummy, early recovery was like a rollercoaster for me. I had to learn new ways to deal with stress and life's challenges.

Tomorrow is a new day. Dust yourself off, pick yourself up, and start again.

Life is all about lessons. We learn and move forward.

You can do this!
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Old 08-23-2017, 05:29 PM
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Sorry to hear so much pain and what seems to be something especially disheartening in your life. ETOH however, is not medication but rather more fuel on the fire. Take heart in the encouragement you've been to others and in the good example you've strived to set for your family.
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Old 08-23-2017, 05:41 PM
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Iam 53. 2 years ago because of booze- I literally burnt to death. Then I was wrtten off as having Korsakof's. Then my family abandoned me- for a time I was homeless. I have major depression and PTSD from the burns. I am sober and safe. Yes you can do it. Yes- you can. Go to a meeting, talk to a priest, go to a women's health clinic, see a doc, a counsellor, post here until your fingers bleed. Yes you can do it. There is hope. You posted here- that means you want to heal.
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Old 08-23-2017, 05:46 PM
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The worst thing for me, is letting down all those people that thought hey here is someone whose positive, do u know what, ive screwed up but I am not beaten YET, thanks for u know, ive just got to keep at it, I am so so tired x
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Old 08-23-2017, 06:18 PM
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You haven't let anyone here down - in fact, it's inspiring to see you come back to talk over what happened, Mummy. I drank 30 yrs. & am sober almost 10. I was sure I'd never do it - and I had some stumbles - but I made it. There's no doubt you can too. Get some rest - then let's give it another go.
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Old 08-23-2017, 06:19 PM
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SR has a birthday calendar; http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/calendar.php

Here's a sampling of today's bdays - notice anything? There are many friends here who are over 40, over 50, over 60 and over 70 and beyond. I have 3 years and fall into this grouping. Late is when they throw the dirt over us..........

Happy Birthdays;
Little Missy, fancygrl23, queenstaff, NO?, mrhooked, kowaj, klausman, wmc500 (69), hector (62), Ineed2know, Bubblegum (56), limitsgone (55), Angelgrl (54), thejaxun5 (54), chrastka (54), ihelpkids (52), khut3 (52), george1966 (51), sh777au (50), itsgreen (50), U24LIFE (46), HigherPower (45), ccp (44), aeh (44), simplysusan (44), GypsyAngel, nyandfl23 (43),

Alcohol doesn't discriminate, nor does sobriety. Many of us found help in outside programs and meetings. I could not boot strap sobriety. My experience is don't not drink alone.

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Old 08-23-2017, 06:37 PM
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Mummy: There are times when it is really evident, just through their writing, support of others, and warmth, that a particular person on this forum is a good and decent human being. That is you. Stay close to SR.
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Old 08-23-2017, 07:23 PM
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Hang in there. I suffer from people pleasing too. My children did not escape the pain of my drinking, but there is redemption and healing to be had if it is sought.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;
who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails
while daring greatly,
so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls
who neither know victory nor defeat."
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You are worthy of love, kindness, empathy and support... don't rob yourself of that. Keep getting back up. No matter how many times you fall.
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Old 08-23-2017, 07:52 PM
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It's never to late to do the right thing!
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Old 08-23-2017, 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Mummyto2 View Post
The worst thing for me, is letting down all those people that thought hey here is someone whose positive, do u know what, ive screwed up but I am not beaten YET, thanks for u know, ive just got to keep at it, I am so so tired x
Mummy if I felt let down every time someone drank again I'd be an unhappy man and I probably would not have lasted a week here on SR.

I'll celebrate your triumphs with you - but your struggles or your mistakes can't stop me or my journey, or hurt my recovery ... and thats the same for everyone here.

If you need help ask for it - that why we're here

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Old 08-24-2017, 01:02 AM
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Mummy, I always liked reading your topics and posts. A slip is all it is and it's just the alcohol telling you to give up. Don't listen to it, you can get better. We are all here for you.
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