Gemini1967

And it scares me! I'm on day 82... And I'm worrying because Im not finding hard right now. Does anyone else go through these fears?

least

I think it's supposed to get easier, the longer you're sober. Just maintain vigilance and always keep sobriety as your first priority.

Congrats on nearly three months sober!

biminiblue

I didn't find it hard when I first quit, I was miserable drinking at the end.

I was ready.

It's been three and a half years for me, and there were a few times in that first year that I started the bargaining in my head - but I quickly reminded myself I don't drink and the urges passed.

I hope you never have difficulty! That's pretty awesome. But - what would you do if you do have a situation when it seems okay to have one or two?

Gemini1967

I have had hard times; they pop up so I eat chocolate or ice cream!. When tempted I simply 'play it out'. I think about where my last drink took me and it reminds me where I could go again. And that is not a place I want to ever be again.

Gemini1967

Thank you! Ive had moments that were pretty rough!

Zebra1275

It's gets easier with the passage of time.

I can remember when I measured my sobriety in hours.

Now I measure it in years (I don't do the daily count thing).

axeman5971

When it gets easier, work just a little harder to stay the course and preserve it.

All the relapsed I hear about in treatment are the folks who decided they were better and lapsed in their recovery - stopping AA, not reading, giving up the steps.

Please stay the course!

Outonthetiles

I think it does get easier with time as our sober muscles develop. On the other hand, it's critical to remain vigilant because it's easy to relapse, even after years of sobriety.

Bishy

I agree with Least 100% - it does get easier but remain vigilant at all times and remember always that your sobriety comes FIRST! Well done on 82 clean days thus far!

August252015

Fear, no- a little anxiety, at times. That has lessened as my sober time increases . I have to keep concentrating on my program (AA) and being grateful for what I have, which is a pretty awesome life in sobriety. Gratitude and service keep me in check - my faith is critical.

Are you working a program?

chiquen81

Posts like this give me hope! I am at 47 days and I haven't had cravings at all which is scary to me. The only thing that I have changed is that I am actively involved in AA. The fact that I have no physical cravings is very scary to me, but those around just say to be thankful and grateful that the cravings have been "lifted" (maybe by a higher power, or whatever...i'm only on step 1 and i have no idea what is going on lol)

Maybe we should be less scared and fearful and just be grateful? I think fear is a big component of alcoholism.

Gemini1967

hi! Yes, I am active in AA. It helps

dwtbd

Here's what I think I figured out. It does seem to get 'easier', but that is a consequence of realizing that the AV was a big fat liar for all those times IT said quitting is so hard !

thomas11

That's wonderful. But remain vigilant, at the least suspecting time it will attack. I just had it happen and it taught me that I must maintain a bullet proof attitude towards alcohol or it will wiggle its way in.

dwtbd

" I will never drink again, and I will never change my mind" can't get more bullet proof than that
The AV can attack all IT wants, but there is literally no wiggle room.

Dee74

Hi Genmini - things got easier for me around 90 days - I don't think it necessarily means you're becoming complacent or anything like that

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