Weekenders Thread 18-20th August. It's time to join the grown-ups!
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TGIF! While walking the dogs this morning I looked at my husbands happy face and had a glimmer of an urge, just thought how much fun we have had partien... Quickly came back to reality... still feel that anxiety in my chest and this is where I get caught up in the obsession of drinking thinking... Totally catches me off guard and then it's all I can think about. But I'm half way to my 90 day goal... This is usually when I fall off the ole' wagon. However, things are going really well with productivity related to our business. Things just feel right in the universe... That's why I get so frustrated when the drinking thoughts surface. F*$# that... I must carry on. Meanwhile, I've got my Rocky Horror Music Station on gearing up for tonight's midnight showing.
saoutchik
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Bali sounds amazing MLF51, this is what sobriety can bring us.
Hang in there sunshine72, remember morning after.
This won't mean much to most of you but a tv entertainer called Bruce Forsyth died today aged 89. He was not really my cup of tea but here in the UK he was ubiquitous (Strictly Come Dancing) and had been around for ever, it kinda makes me feel mortal.
Hang in there sunshine72, remember morning after.
This won't mean much to most of you but a tv entertainer called Bruce Forsyth died today aged 89. He was not really my cup of tea but here in the UK he was ubiquitous (Strictly Come Dancing) and had been around for ever, it kinda makes me feel mortal.
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Originally Posted by saoutchik 
This won't mean much to most of you but a tv entertainer called Bruce Forsyth died today aged 89. He was not really my cup of tea but here in the UK he was ubiquitous (Strictly Come Dancing) and had been around for ever, it kinda makes me feel mortal.
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I'm not in great form today. The highlight of the day was my best work friend - the registrar - bought me a coffee.
My "companion" will be going home for a holiday next weekend for 5 weeks. He told me a few weeks ago that he might like to travel sometime and asked me to go along too.
A few nights ago I told him I would miss him. He said if he didn't come back I would be sad for a short while and then I would meet someone else. He also said don't miss him too much and don't think about the future too much as he does not know for sure where he is going to be in 2018 or 2019. He told me I meant a lot to him and he would never ever forget me no matter what.
Granted he had had a couple of drinks when he said the above but the whole thing has left me with a pain in my head. What was the last year for if he could just walk away so easily? If he thought I could move on so easily?
I just feel like I have been used and I have heard all of that nonsense before about "don't expect too much" and it is all a pile of garbage.
My "companion" will be going home for a holiday next weekend for 5 weeks. He told me a few weeks ago that he might like to travel sometime and asked me to go along too.
A few nights ago I told him I would miss him. He said if he didn't come back I would be sad for a short while and then I would meet someone else. He also said don't miss him too much and don't think about the future too much as he does not know for sure where he is going to be in 2018 or 2019. He told me I meant a lot to him and he would never ever forget me no matter what.
Granted he had had a couple of drinks when he said the above but the whole thing has left me with a pain in my head. What was the last year for if he could just walk away so easily? If he thought I could move on so easily?
I just feel like I have been used and I have heard all of that nonsense before about "don't expect too much" and it is all a pile of garbage.
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Well in one breath he was saying the above and in the next he was saying he would be back beginning of October and asking what I would like as a gift as my birthday is mid October.
I'm just very confused. I don't really know what's going on
I'm just very confused. I don't really know what's going on
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I'm so sorry Tetra, guys can really suck sometimes! It's like they do it for the attention, then once they get it they fall off the face of the earth. (No offense to any guys here....it's just a sore spot for me!) I hope you can make some time to focus on YOU! 
MLD that trip sounds amazing! I'll have to share the idea with the March 2016 class....we've been brainstorming on how we can all meet up sometime
Hope everyone is having an awesome Friday ~ Have fun at the show tonight, Sunshine!
MLD that trip sounds amazing! I'll have to share the idea with the March 2016 class....we've been brainstorming on how we can all meet up sometime
Hope everyone is having an awesome Friday ~ Have fun at the show tonight, Sunshine!
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I am in! I enjoyed the intro and found it helpful.
I have had a roller coaster of a week. Many ups and some downs. Tomorrow I am going to a cook out at my MIL's...bringing a strawberry trifle! Excited for that part. lol.
MLD- I hope you have a wonderful vacation. You sure deserve it!
I have had a roller coaster of a week. Many ups and some downs. Tomorrow I am going to a cook out at my MIL's...bringing a strawberry trifle! Excited for that part. lol.
MLD- I hope you have a wonderful vacation. You sure deserve it!
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Morning all,
First time I've been on this thread. only on day 6 but weekends are the most difficult for me.
Sorry to hear of your struggles Tetra, I agree focusing on you and looking after you is the best thing.
MLD-have a great trip
Happy sober saturday all.
First time I've been on this thread. only on day 6 but weekends are the most difficult for me.
Sorry to hear of your struggles Tetra, I agree focusing on you and looking after you is the best thing.
MLD-have a great trip
Happy sober saturday all.
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Count me in! Thanks for the excellent opener Sao.
For me, when I became sober, the amount of backlog "adult" problems that I needed to deal with, became overwhelming. Without ever really knowing how to confront tough issues sober, led to depression at times. And shock at my selfishness of leaving it all to others.
I guess we all try to make it better this time around.
For me, when I became sober, the amount of backlog "adult" problems that I needed to deal with, became overwhelming. Without ever really knowing how to confront tough issues sober, led to depression at times. And shock at my selfishness of leaving it all to others.
I guess we all try to make it better this time around.
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Originally Posted by saoutchik
18 is the age at which you legally become an adult in Britain. You are deemed responsible for your own actions and can vote, and sign legal documents etc.
We are also obliged to make decisions, most being straightforward and not particularly consequential but some are and require a good decision to be made.
In such circumstances the best decisions are made by finding out all the information you can, comparing or weighing up all the pros and cons and often making a decision knowing there is no easy answer or perfect solution to a problem but there are certainly good and bad choices.
As drunks of course we cannot do any of the above. We are 2nd class citizens devoid of self awareness and any rational decision making ability. We are the overgrown children, not allowed near the wheel of a car. We may need to be taken home by a responsible adult (or escorted somewhere else by a uniformed one!)
We do not participate in intelligent conversation and are best kept away from naked flames, sharp objects, anything fragile.
It is all pretty humiliating but that is just another of the many pernicious things alcohol does to us - turning us into vulnerable adult babies.
Being a grown-up means understanding that life is not just about seeking gratification - the easy escape route offered by booze is a lie - nor is being an adult one long barrel of laughs but there is plenty of pleasure, enjoyment and fun to be had as an adult, it's just that first you gotta be one. Reality is never as good as you hope or as bad as you fear. It took me 54 years to realise this.
This weekend put on your big boy or big girl pants, do what you're supposed to do and enjoy the rest of the weekend and let those remaining big kids have all the drama to themselves.
We are also obliged to make decisions, most being straightforward and not particularly consequential but some are and require a good decision to be made.
In such circumstances the best decisions are made by finding out all the information you can, comparing or weighing up all the pros and cons and often making a decision knowing there is no easy answer or perfect solution to a problem but there are certainly good and bad choices.
As drunks of course we cannot do any of the above. We are 2nd class citizens devoid of self awareness and any rational decision making ability. We are the overgrown children, not allowed near the wheel of a car. We may need to be taken home by a responsible adult (or escorted somewhere else by a uniformed one!)
We do not participate in intelligent conversation and are best kept away from naked flames, sharp objects, anything fragile.
It is all pretty humiliating but that is just another of the many pernicious things alcohol does to us - turning us into vulnerable adult babies.
Being a grown-up means understanding that life is not just about seeking gratification - the easy escape route offered by booze is a lie - nor is being an adult one long barrel of laughs but there is plenty of pleasure, enjoyment and fun to be had as an adult, it's just that first you gotta be one. Reality is never as good as you hope or as bad as you fear. It took me 54 years to realise this.
This weekend put on your big boy or big girl pants, do what you're supposed to do and enjoy the rest of the weekend and let those remaining big kids have all the drama to themselves.
Thank you so much! Ready to tackle this weekend and, concur day 8 and move onto day 9! I'm 55, yep, time to grow up now.
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Welcome to Weekenders Wrandi1, MammaK,ReadyAtLast and FieldReport. Great to see new faces going sober.
I have had better Saturday mornings, called into work at 6am due to staff sickness - being the suspicious type I am wondering what sort of sickness.
I have had better Saturday mornings, called into work at 6am due to staff sickness - being the suspicious type I am wondering what sort of sickness.
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