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Old 08-05-2017, 08:48 AM
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I spent too many yrs worrying about others opinions

NOW I would scream from the rooftops that I am an alcoholic, at the end of the day let them judge and talk away if they want, its me fighting for my life, for my childrens future, for my family, they are number one NOT all these people on the outside, what they think of me is none of my business, I understand that some dont want people to know and I get it, but now for me I dont give a rats behind, pardon the expression, no one should have to hide a problem NEVER
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My AA sponsor had a good analogy. Imagine you have a hoola-hoop around you, everything inside it is your problem, everything outside it (including people's opinions) has nothing to do with you. I, myself, try not worry about others opinions of me but try not to give opinions on much else (including opinions of other people) outside of my own behaviour because it doesn't help me
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Ive heard that in AA before as well, makes sense
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its me fighting for my life, for my childrens future, for my family
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With willingness and an openmind you
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grow and mature in recovery.

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What other people think of me is none of my business

I heard that somewhere but not sure where.
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Originally Posted by Chilledice View Post
What other people think of me is none of my business

I heard that somewhere but not sure where.
^^^^^^^^
This exactly
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Tried googling it Chilledice but cant find anything, I remember either reading it or hearing it somewhere, going to bug me now haha
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Old 08-05-2017, 01:15 PM
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Tried googling it Chilledice but cant find anything, I remember either reading it or hearing it somewhere, going to bug me now haha
lol i am JUST THE SAME! it goes round in my head until i get the answer haha.... I will find the answer no worries
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Good on you, dont forget to tell me haha
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Old 08-05-2017, 01:20 PM
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I've read it on here a few times. maybe that's it.

another one is....they aren't paying any rent to live in my head.
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lol i am JUST THE SAME! it goes round in my head until i get the answer haha.... I will find the answer no worries
I think it might have been this that I posted a few weeks ago...
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Its come to me, when I was on facebook, it was in a quote
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Markinny I like that quote very good
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i used to have a serious problem with what others' thought of me- to the point that when i went to the store, i would look at the ground. i was certain people were lookin at me and thinkin,'theres that f-up."

when brought up to my sponsor, he suggested i got to walmart, sit down somewhere and people watch. do it for at least 10 minutes.
so i did. sat at the end of an isle in the shoe dept.
sat there watchin everyone walkin by and shopping.
then went to my sponsors.
he asked,"howd it go?"
"i was able to do it and not puke."
'how many people did you see?"
" probably 50-75."
"and how many did you make eye contact with?"
" i think about 5?"
"thats how important you are to other people."
HUH!!
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Old 08-05-2017, 01:30 PM
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i used to have a serious problem with what others' thought of me- to the point that when i went to the store, i would look at the ground. i was certain people were lookin at me and thinkin,'theres that f-up."

when brought up to my sponsor, he suggested i got to walmart, sit down somewhere and people watch. do it for at least 10 minutes.
so i did. sat at the end of an isle in the shoe dept.
sat there watchin everyone walkin by and shopping.
then went to my sponsors.
he asked,"howd it go?"
"i was able to do it and not puke."
'how many people did you see?"
" probably 50-75."
"and how many did you make eye contact with?"
" i think about 5?"
"thats how important you are to other people."
HUH!!
an egomaniac with an inferiority complex.
All in the mind

I think a lot of us have it at some point in our lives to varying degrees and it sux.
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yes I used to worry about it too, not anymore now
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Originally Posted by Chilledice View Post
All in the mind

I think a lot of us have it at some point in our lives to varying degrees and it sux.
but theres a solution, which is awesome.
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