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Old 08-03-2017, 01:00 PM
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This interesting, Chilledice. I would never laugh at your thoughts - it really sounds pretty miserable. So you've just now gotten assessed - and it seems a bit overwhelming right now that you're really going to have to put some work into this. But you don't really even know what that entails yet. I realize that your thoughts are probably telling you to jump ahead in time so you can just get started - just try to tell yourself that you'll get to start learning soon. Take some deep breaths - maybe try to meditate a bit? There are lots of guided meditation apps available out there - There's a simple one called Calm I like for a quick time-out. Might help you get through those thoughts a little better. Just a suggestion. The CBT will be great if you keep at it.
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This interesting, Chilledice. I would never laugh at your thoughts - it really sounds pretty miserable. So you've just now gotten assessed - and it seems a bit overwhelming right now that you're really going to have to put some work into this. But you don't really even know what that entails yet. I realize that your thoughts are probably telling you to jump ahead in time so you can just get started - just try to tell yourself that you'll get to start learning soon. Take some deep breaths - maybe try to meditate a bit? There are lots of guided meditation apps available out there - There's a simple one called Calm I like for a quick time-out. Might help you get through those thoughts a little better. Just a suggestion. The CBT will be great if you keep at it.
Yeah it is a rather torturous existence for me right now, I wasnt always THIS bad tho just last few months its gotten way outta hand!

I do breathing routines but it doesn't help too much, just holding on at moment.
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Old 08-03-2017, 01:28 PM
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This might sound shallow but in the two weeks you have until the 17th it might be worth getting some fiendishly complex electonic game or perhaps start reading Game of Thrones, anything really that would take you outside your own headspace for a while. Sort of giving yourself a break from your own thoughts.

Also stuff like jogging can help put things in perspective sometines, I found this out by accident when I was on a mission to lose weight.
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Old 08-03-2017, 01:31 PM
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Originally Posted by saoutchik View Post
This might sound shallow but in the two weeks you have until the 17th it might be worth getting some fiendishly complex electonic game or perhaps start reading Game of Thrones, anything really that would take you outside your own headspace for a while. Sort of giving yourself a break from your own thoughts.

Also stuff like jogging can help put things in perspective sometines, I found this out by accident when I was on a mission to lose weight.
Lol im actually on xbox right now, yes 31 and im on xbox and I don't care lol
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nobody thinks your bulls8ttingor laughing at you,chilled-thats another thought made up in your mind.
it hasnt gotten bad until 6 months ago- great!! thats a sign that this CAN be reversed.

instead of playing xbox, why not get on the WW and start learning what CBT is and how to apply it?
IF you want it to stop, you will care about being on xbox when you can be starting the solution NOW.
nothing against gaming, but cmon,man! when do you want to start getting mentally healthy??
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Old 08-03-2017, 02:02 PM
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Originally Posted by tomsteve View Post
nobody thinks your bulls8ttingor laughing at you,chilled-thats another thought made up in your mind.
it hasnt gotten bad until 6 months ago- great!! thats a sign that this CAN be reversed.

instead of playing xbox, why not get on the WW and start learning what CBT is and how to apply it?
IF you want it to stop, you will care about being on xbox when you can be starting the solution NOW.
nothing against gaming, but cmon,man! when do you want to start getting mentally healthy??
I hear ya brother! But what's WW?
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was supposed to be WWW
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Old 08-03-2017, 02:11 PM
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I get irrational thoughts too:
Time is constant, never stops and I can't stop it. Every minute that passes is one minute my kids and myself are closer to dying and there's nothing I can do.

I can't make plans with people for anything because that will mean I'll get some sort of sickness that day and can't go. (like i'm cursing myself)

So irrational, but so real in my mind.
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Old 08-03-2017, 02:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Jezzi View Post
I get irrational thoughts too:
Time is constant, never stops and I can't stop it. Every minute that passes is one minute my kids and myself are closer to dying and there's nothing I can do.

I can't make plans with people for anything because that will mean I'll get some sort of sickness that day and can't go. (like i'm cursing myself)

So irrational, but so real in my mind.
Im not alone then not that im happy about your suffering!

How do u deal with these thoughts?
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Originally Posted by tomsteve View Post
was supposed to be WWW
Ive been looking on the web and they all say to pretty much ignore the thought and dont fight it! Which im trying to do.
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I distract myself the best I can. Go for a walk, call a friend, play a game. Sometimes I'll sit through the thoughts and just breathe in and out slowly telling myself it's not rational. It seems like the more I do that the less frequently they come. It's miserable sitting through it, but once it subsides it's like a win.
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I keep asking myself where God is in all of this, I have cried out to Him over and over again and begged and begged Him but NOTHING!

Never thought id say this but im losing my faith.
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Originally Posted by Chilledice View Post
Ive been looking on the web and they all say to pretty much ignore the thought and dont fight it! Which im trying to do.
huh, we must be lookin up different things because i read a crapton of actions with CBT
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huh, we must be lookin up different things because i read a crapton of actions with CBT
You did? Can you help point me in the right direction please because I cant find much myself
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I keep asking myself where God is in all of this, I have cried out to Him over and over again and begged and begged Him but NOTHING!

Never thought id say this but im losing my faith.
gods been there. he aint gonna come down and do the work for you.
he guided you to this site.
he found you a therapist.

faith without works is dead
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Originally Posted by Chilledice View Post
You did? Can you help point me in the right direction please because I cant find much myself
search Cognitive behavioral therapy techniques
About 31,700,000 results
you can even add, "for OCD" at the end of the search.
About 564,000 results
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Originally Posted by tomsteve View Post
search Cognitive behavioral therapy techniques
About 31,700,000 results
you can even add, "for OCD" at the end of the search.
About 564,000 results

I just found one now.

Reading about the cycle of thoughts and then the anxiety response etc
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Originally Posted by tomsteve View Post
gods been there. he aint gonna come down and do the work for you.
he guided you to this site.
he found you a therapist.

faith without works is dead
Fair point I guess.
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Old 08-03-2017, 03:41 PM
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Boy, talk about the fellowship in recovery
at its best. Folks helping folks right here
on SR. Guiding, suggesting, caring, understanding,
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Keep asking for what you need, where
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