LadyEngineer

Hi all. Today is my 6th day sober. I'm struggling.

My partner, once again, has gone on a tangent. These tangents include leaving and texting me novel-long texts about what I do wrong, what I don't give to him, how I'm slighting him. Ive been home all day alone with my 7 year old.

I'd planned ahead, made a big day out of today so I wouldn't want to drink, but he cancelled the plans at last minute and now I'm stuck here...

My son is leaving in a half hour and I'll be alone without a car. I'm dying for a drink. I'm upset with the stress my partner has caused. The things he's said to me. The way he's judged me. Alone and desperately trying to do something else other than think about vodka.

This is so hard.

BrandNewLife

I'm sorry you're struggling. Those expressions from your partner must be awfully stressful to deal with. Have you tried responding with something like "I will not let you speak to me this way. If there's something you want to discuss we can do it calmly together later?" Does he live with you?

BrandNewLife

Can you take a cab or something to get a pedicure? A cup of coffee? You should take advantage of your alone time to pamper yourself. Maybe that's just a nice bath and trashy tv?

Jimmy58

Hello Lady Engineer,
Six days is awesome. You are in a tough situation. Please dont give into the craving, it will pass. Drinking wont help only make matters worse.

Anna

Six days sober is great.

Verbal abuse is abuse and I hope you decide to make boundaries for yourself that do not include abuse. No one deserves to be treated like that.

tomls

Great job on 6 days!Can you maybe get a ride to a meeting? You need to take care of your self and your child first. Your sobriety has to be the most important thing cause without it things will be a lot worse!

CreativeThinker

6 days in is when I began to obsess about not drinking...really tough stuff! What helped me was to get out of my head by: taking a walk, eating something yummy, journaling, taking a shower and getting into something comfy, watch a long movie, get into a good book. By doing something/anything you should be able to divert your attention until its time to go to bed.

You can do this LadyE! Don't listen to your AV!!! Tomorrow you will be so grateful that you hit 1 week!

SimplyFree

Saturday's were my weak days, but staying busy is key, and thinking about how wonderful tomorrow morning will feel. Also you want that #7 day! Day 1 is the worst. Being without a car is perfect! It allows you to go for a walk! Everything about a walk is positive. It will refresh you mood, your mind and your body! Takes away that stuck feeling. Enjoy some you time!

BrandNewLife

Hi LadyE - how are you doing today?

LadyEngineer

Hi all. I did it. 7 days sober. Thanks for all the advice.

Dee74

Congrats on your week LE.

I've no doubt that your addiction is challenging for you and your partner as well, but like Anna said tho verbal abuse is still abuse, and by text makes it no better.

I hope you and your partner can talk things out?

D

CreativeThinker

D122y

Work out at home. Run in place, jumping jacks, burpees, push ups, sit ups.

Get in shape and feel a real physical torture. The booze mentally messes us up.

The physical sets us right.

Also go to an AA meeting. They help.

Thanks.

Delilah1

Hello,

Happy to hear you made it through your first week. I agree with Dee and Anna about the verbal abuse, never okay, and can escalate to physical at times.

Ice36

LadyE

Sounds like he wants you to fail. Continued drinking only give him something else to use for CONTROL.

It's your life and should be YOUR control. In any event these are tough situations and the vodka is only temporary relief, if even that. Maybe it will only make more resentments, but one thing for sure it will just keep any that are present health and strong.

Don't do it(drinking) . Maybe tomorrow you can make it your day: alone or with friends doing things YOU enjoy.

In any case and in every case don't put up with abuse.

Please make it more than six days. Ice.