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Old 07-16-2017, 07:07 AM
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37 days today

Clean and sober.
I just spent a week with my family on vacation. My family does nothing without alcohol. I seriously thought about not going. I was afraid to put myself in that situation for 7 days.
My first night was horrible. Apparently there has been lots of talk, behind my back, about my not drinking having to do with something illegal, or being brainwashed by someone, blah, blah, blah.
It hurt so much to find that out, especially when I explained to the same members of my family, over Father's Day week-end, that I was making changes and one of them was to stop drinking.
I almost left and drove the 9 hours home, that very evening on that first night of vacation. Instead I slept on it and prayed and woke up to tell everyone in the morning, that I stopped drinking because I wanted to, I was making changes, attempting to be healthier and NOT because I was brainwashed or because something illegal happened.
I told them under no certain circumstances was I going to explain why I quit anymore.
I set healthy boundaries with them and it was never mentioned again.
I know they will talk amongst themselves. I was the partier, the case a beer drinker who brought the fun to the event. Naturally it would seem odd that I had chosen to quit.
But now it is on them and I no longer need to explain anything to them.
This is MY life and MY story.
I wound up having a blast. I enjoyed every moment and was living every moment. I remember everything, lol, and never wasted time wondering how much beer we needed, if we had enough for the evening, did we need more ice, where did I put my beer, how bad would I feel in the morning.
I managed to make it through 7 days watching 8 adults drink, get drunk, argue once they were and I never picked up.
37 days has passed so quickly. But not without tears or anger or regrets or feeling of being left out, but 37 days has also come with euphoria, a huge sense of peace and happiness, clear mindedness, and no chaos.
37 days days clean and sober!
Have a happy sober Sunday SR!!
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Old 07-16-2017, 07:17 AM
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Congratulations on 37 days FL. Glad that you have taken control of your story. Here's to many sober chapters to come!
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Old 07-16-2017, 08:01 AM
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Sometimes the people around you, even family, need to be put in their place when it concerns personal matters. You owe them no explanation. Keep doing what you need to do for you.

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Old 07-16-2017, 08:38 AM
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Wow! Great ..Good for you.

Ya.. I have had similar situations with "the family" although not long vacations.

Yep.. I was the party guy and the one that usually got wasted. But never in a bad way. So naturally when I quit... The "gang" of drinkers at family gatherings was like "what's up" and asking me why and was I serious? They could not believe I was quitting.

I too have had to "explain" that I was done with drinking (to family) on several occasions through the past year.

BUT thankfully and finally now, they "get it" that I am serious and not drinking anymore. So now things are a bit more normal.. I just hang out with my cold drink and swig it just like they do theirs.
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So happy you took control of that situation and stayed on your path not drinking! That has to feel fantastic!!! Great work ....
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Unexpected speed bumps on the road to recovery. Glad to see you navigated them.
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Wow FeelingLOst 37days !!!!

I remember a few weeks back you being worried about what you would tell your family about you not drinking and what to say. Seems to me you managed to find the right words. Hope your feeling good about yourself you should be.
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I probably would have went with the brainwash explanation and then to entertain myself all week I would purposely act a little strange just to build on their suspicion.

Congratulations on getting through the week of holidays! That's a huge trigger time for me too.
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Congratulations on your 37 days of sobriety! You making the decision to stay on the trip and move through a difficult experience shows your commitment to your recovery. I've learned that waiting out a thought, and not reacting immediately to a difficult situation makes a huge difference in the outcome. I'm glad you enjoyed your vacation. Wishing you many more sober days to come!
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Feeling,

That is just great! So glad you stuck it out and enjoyed yourself. Way to go on speaking up, standing your ground and being clear. You sound super strong and determined.

I too recently had a family vacation without alcohol and I know just what you mean, about enjoying it sober and without regrets. Keep up the great work!!

37 days is awesome.
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37 days is awesome! Good on you for putting sobriety first and standing your ground.
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congratulations on 37 days
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Congratulations!

I'm 3 days behind you. I'm lucky, no one pressures me to drink.
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Great post. I have similar issues with my family and have in the past let them become my problem. Very helpful, thanks.
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