Fear of failure or fear of success???
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This is a good thread. Pretty valid for me as well. I think fear of success is very real in my alcoholic mind. My goodness, what if things don't go to heck on me?! What if they actually work out? What will I have to worry or complain about? How will I deal with success? I won't have any more excuses! Granted, recovery has helped me clean up a lot of my thinking, there is still a long way to go. Beginning to think maybe I'm just more comfortable with things NOT working out the way I'd like. Who knows..
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Originally Posted by BlownOne 
This is a good thread. Pretty valid for me as well. I think fear of success is very real in my alcoholic mind. My goodness, what if things don't go to heck on me?! What if they actually work out? What will I have to worry or complain about? How will I deal with success? I won't have any more excuses! Granted, recovery has helped me clean up a lot of my thinking, there is still a long way to go. Beginning to think maybe I'm just more comfortable with things NOT working out the way I'd like. Who knows..
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Originally Posted by joandmelandhan
Hi Pippo! Your revelation has got me doing quite a bit of thinking. Fear of success vs fear of failure. Hmmmm...... I think for me it's as basic as I don't even know what success is any more. The more sober days I have the more I realise that I can never "succeed" at recovery as it's a lifelong lifestyle change (terrifying currently but - you know the one - OTAAT). Plus now that I feel like I'm entering a very raw phase. Life on life's terms and I'm utterly exposed. A bit like having to live life naked whilst everyone else is fully clothed (that's the best way I can describe it). So my successes are little teeny weeny ones. Baby steps if you like. That'll do me for now.
I suspect having an inbuilt saboteur is contributing to how you feel and yes I get it. You've recognised it and I think having little eureka moments like that on our journey can only help.
Underlying anxiety, depression etc are an issue for many alcoholics and a big part of why we turn to the bottle in the first place. Well that was how it started for me. Self medication quickly turning into dependency turning into addiction......
I personally think it's a great idea that you are isolating one area of your life and taking action in a very practical way. Very brave too I might add!
Take care sweetheart you know you're one of my SR "idols" !!!
I suspect having an inbuilt saboteur is contributing to how you feel and yes I get it. You've recognised it and I think having little eureka moments like that on our journey can only help.
Underlying anxiety, depression etc are an issue for many alcoholics and a big part of why we turn to the bottle in the first place. Well that was how it started for me. Self medication quickly turning into dependency turning into addiction......
I personally think it's a great idea that you are isolating one area of your life and taking action in a very practical way. Very brave too I might add!
Take care sweetheart you know you're one of my SR "idols" !!!
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Originally Posted by Jules714
Thanks.
Felt good to recognize it, so thank you!
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Felt good to recognize it, so thank you!
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Originally Posted by Anna
Good job, Pippo!
ETA - I am only now noticing your tagline. Kindred spirits.
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