Horrid experience on facebook
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII 
yeah, you might have overreacted there just a smidge......trust me, closing your account is the best thing you could do!!! as an online forum one is exposed to the views of others, and FB doesn't have the same rules or wonderful mods/admins that SR does to keep things civil.
what are some ways you can bring yourself back down a few rungs on the stress ladder??
what are some ways you can bring yourself back down a few rungs on the stress ladder??
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Originally Posted by Gilmer
I'm sorry you were hurt, Chilledice.
Different people are deeply sensitive about a million different things.
When it comes to issues I know are controversial, I ask myself, "Would I be willing to risk persecution for my opinion? Is it that important to me?"
If not, I don't offer it.
PS--I'm another one who stays off of Facebook!
Some people get a big thrill out of picking fights (it's easy when you're anonymous)!
Different people are deeply sensitive about a million different things.
When it comes to issues I know are controversial, I ask myself, "Would I be willing to risk persecution for my opinion? Is it that important to me?"
If not, I don't offer it.
PS--I'm another one who stays off of Facebook!
Some people get a big thrill out of picking fights (it's easy when you're anonymous)!
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When most people get a flat tire, they call a road repair facility. I call suicide hotline!
As an alcoholic I am prone to extremism. Something was either the best or the worst - no real middle ground what so ever. It took me a pretty good time period, but today if something bothers me that much I have the tools to understand why without letting my emotions run wild.I am learning emotional sobriety - it took the pain you're experiencing today to get to that point though.
All that said, I am in the deleted my FakeBook account camp as well.
Nothing to drink over
As an alcoholic I am prone to extremism. Something was either the best or the worst - no real middle ground what so ever. It took me a pretty good time period, but today if something bothers me that much I have the tools to understand why without letting my emotions run wild.I am learning emotional sobriety - it took the pain you're experiencing today to get to that point though.
All that said, I am in the deleted my FakeBook account camp as well.
Nothing to drink over
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Originally Posted by Chilledice
Sorry guys I feel a bit silly now, it's iust the state of mind im in right now.
I didn't know where else to turn, I use this place as a venting tool and therapist office, hope that's ok.
I didn't know where else to turn, I use this place as a venting tool and therapist office, hope that's ok.
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
This is exactly what SR is here for, no reason to feel silly at all. Sharing our experiences and struggles is what recovery is all about.
And hey, I didn't drink :-D ...before the bottle would be the first thing id go and grab, something has changed in me!
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No matter how horrid it was, it's just words on a screen. How could it have been so bad that you were forced to shut down your account? Who did they tell these things about you to? An employer? A family member? Why is it such a threat to your reputation? Furthermore deleting your account doesn't delete THEIR comments. No need to shut out all of your other fb friends.
Never argue with strangers on public posts. Otherwise, fb is nice.
Never argue with strangers on public posts. Otherwise, fb is nice.
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Originally Posted by BrendaChenowyth
No matter how horrid it was, it's just words on a screen. How could it have been so bad that you were forced to shut down your account? Who did they tell these things about you to? An employer? A family member? Why is it such a threat to your reputation? Furthermore deleting your account doesn't delete THEIR comments. No need to shut out all of your other fb friends.
Never argue with strangers on public posts. Otherwise, fb is nice.
Never argue with strangers on public posts. Otherwise, fb is nice.
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Originally Posted by Fly N Buy
When most people get a flat tire, they call a road repair facility. I call suicide hotline!
As an alcoholic I am prone to extremism. Something was either the best or the worst - no real middle ground what so ever. It took me a pretty good time period, but today if something bothers me that much I have the tools to understand why without letting my emotions run wild.I am learning emotional sobriety - it took the pain you're experiencing today to get to that point though.
All that said, I am in the deleted my FakeBook account camp as well.
Nothing to drink over
As an alcoholic I am prone to extremism. Something was either the best or the worst - no real middle ground what so ever. It took me a pretty good time period, but today if something bothers me that much I have the tools to understand why without letting my emotions run wild.I am learning emotional sobriety - it took the pain you're experiencing today to get to that point though.
All that said, I am in the deleted my FakeBook account camp as well.
Nothing to drink over
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Originally Posted by BrendaChenowyth
No matter how horrid it was, it's just words on a screen. How could it have been so bad that you were forced to shut down your account? Who did they tell these things about you to? An employer? A family member? Why is it such a threat to your reputation? Furthermore deleting your account doesn't delete THEIR comments. No need to shut out all of your other fb friends.
Never argue with strangers on public posts. Otherwise, fb is nice.
Never argue with strangers on public posts. Otherwise, fb is nice.
I just ALWAYS think of the worst.
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David Pollay may suggest situations like these call for one to recognize the "Law of the Garbage Truck":
The Law of the Garbage Truck: "Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. . . . And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally . . . move on."
While I prefer to think that "some" not "many" resemble garbage trucks, I think the analogy is strong.
The Law of the Garbage Truck: "Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. . . . And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally . . . move on."
While I prefer to think that "some" not "many" resemble garbage trucks, I think the analogy is strong.
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Originally Posted by Ultramarathoner
The Law of the Garbage Truck: "Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. . . . And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally . . . move on."
You gotta cool tattoo as well bro.
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Originally Posted by Chilledice
I build things up in my head, I can't help it right now. It's difficult fir me at times to recognise reality from unreality.
I just ALWAYS think of the worst.
I just ALWAYS think of the worst.
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Originally Posted by Gilmer
That's the beauty of SR: like-minded, kindly, objective people are here to rein us in when we start veering off into excessive territory.
Im amazed I didnt drink and totally excited about it.
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Chilledice, don't feel bad about coming here and posting. We are here for just this reason. We don't want you to turn to alcohol when you're upset. You did great. You came here for support and closed down your account. Very positive!
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Originally Posted by Anna
Chilledice, don't feel bad about coming here and posting. We are here for just this reason. We don't want you to turn to alcohol when you're upset. You did great. You came here for support and closed down your account. Very positive!
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