Trying to get sober (again)
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On a positive note, I did feel a lot better after not downing a bunch of alcohol last night so that has me pretty motivated to get and STAY sober. I forgot how nice it is to not wake up feeling like ****. The important thing I have to remember and was never able to get is that I have to KNOW that I'm never going to be able to drink in "moderation". That thought is so depressing- it's seriously like grief. Please tell me I'm not the only person who's felt that way?
hns,
3 years and then relapse. Wow. You were so clean. Probably mentally really solid I imaging.
Were/are you taking any meds?
What made you decide to pick up again?
I am asking because I am at 25 months and feeling better than ever, but I don't ever want to drink again.
I go to AA sometimes, but since I have made it this long wout AA, I don't feel the need to go all in. Some of the guys come across kind of cultish. It scares me.
But AA is better than relapsing.
Thanks.
3 years and then relapse. Wow. You were so clean. Probably mentally really solid I imaging.
Were/are you taking any meds?
What made you decide to pick up again?
I am asking because I am at 25 months and feeling better than ever, but I don't ever want to drink again.
I go to AA sometimes, but since I have made it this long wout AA, I don't feel the need to go all in. Some of the guys come across kind of cultish. It scares me.
But AA is better than relapsing.
Thanks.
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Hi Hns! My story sounds so similar to yours. What got me to quit was a liver scare. My liver hurt so much and after I was diagnosed with an enlarged and severe fatty liver, I finally decided I needed to stop to save my life. I think I really didn't care about myself. I was doing it because my kids need their mom. I was a night time drinker. I drank every night after everyone went to bed so no one saw. The next morning I was up early and at work so I was a high functioning alcoholic. High functioning but always tired and sick. (Which I would keep to myself as to not give my secret away.) What a way to live!!! The way I got through the first days was just to go to bed early. That was my drinking time so I would be asleep during my craving time. Sleep was no problem as I suffered from extreme fatigue during that time. I went through a period where I thought I had gotten through the worst, but I have recently been struggling. It's day 69 for me. It's no picnic, but my liver is pain free!!! I am so very proud of myself every morning when I get up and mark off another day. I was NEVER proud of myself when I was drinking. In fact, I disliked myself immensely and now I can say that I do like myself. Trust me, if can do this, so can you. Nothing in life that is worth anything is easy. Do it for your kids if not for yourself. I have posted many times here when I've felt down and the wonderful people here lift me back up. Please keep coming here. It has saved me and I know I won't drink tonight. ❤❤❤
hns - I definitely went through a grieving period where I felt rather sorry for myself & resentful. I knew in my heart I could never have just a few - I had known it for years. I had made such a mess of my life I didn't dare risk it ever again - and after a while I was just so relieved to have things going smoothly & to be free. I knew I could never live that reckless life again. Being sane and sober became the new drinking for me.
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hns,
3 years and then relapse. Wow. You were so clean. Probably mentally really solid I imaging.
Were/are you taking any meds?
What made you decide to pick up again?
I am asking because I am at 25 months and feeling better than ever, but I don't ever want to drink again.
I go to AA sometimes, but since I have made it this long wout AA, I don't feel the need to go all in. Some of the guys come across kind of cultish. It scares me.
But AA is better than relapsing.
Thanks.
3 years and then relapse. Wow. You were so clean. Probably mentally really solid I imaging.
Were/are you taking any meds?
What made you decide to pick up again?
I am asking because I am at 25 months and feeling better than ever, but I don't ever want to drink again.
I go to AA sometimes, but since I have made it this long wout AA, I don't feel the need to go all in. Some of the guys come across kind of cultish. It scares me.
But AA is better than relapsing.
Thanks.
The craving and mental obsession hit me SO hard and out of nowhere. It's like the whiskey in the milk story. Pretty soon I had a glass of champagne in my hand and it was like I wasn't even totally conscious of what I was doing. I just knew I wanted to drink. Of course this lead to drinks at the hotel bar, which lead to going to a club... which lead to about 2 months of drinking until I was able to sober up again.
In hindsight, I wasn't going to many meetings-maybe once a week if that. I also feel like I wasn't truly dealing with my fears, being honest with my sponsor about them. I can tell you though that as much pain as I THOUGHT I was in at that moment, the subsequent relapses have been so much more painful. And the hardest part is that once you relapse after having substantial amount of time, it doesn't seem like a big deal to start over again at 30 days, 60 days, exc.
I really hope this helps. I would just say stay in the middle of the boat (whatever that is for you), be honest with the people closest to you, remember that we will always drink over a resentment or a strong fear if it's not dealt with.
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Hevyn, you're totally right. I do remember that feeling of freedom and it just not being worth messing that up. I'll get back there. Thanks for the reminder- I need to hear those things. Hiding drinking is so tiresome! I'm so ready to be free of that.
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