Rock bottom and cant see a way out...
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Originally Posted by 1stepup 
Hi all, not sure if Im welcome here anymore, Ive had so many attempts to stay sober and failed time after time, a relationship that was abusive towards me ended in April and Ive drank most of the time ever since. I met her in AA and everything was great for first 2 months but after that she admitted she wasn't alcoholic and encouraged me to drink, which I did but since then I needed the drink to stay in relationship, it turned very abusive towards me and she once tried to drown me in a bath and then punched me in the face the day before I was due to start a new job. As a man its hard to admit all this but its the fuel that keeps me drinking, want to stop as I have two beautiful daughters that want their daddy back.... help. please.....
Private message me if you would like my personal advice for detox. I am sorry that happened to you.
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Thanks everyone for your support, I've been burying my head in the sand, numbing myself with alcohol but know deep down to recover from the relationship I need to get through those first tough weeks and recover. The hard part is, she's found someone else 2 weeks after we split and text saying she's happier than ever with this new guy, talk about kicking me when I'm down!
My family and friends are relieved I'm out of it but I feel so lonely and down that its a real struggle to stay sober, she smoked and offered me one in November and I'm hooked on them now too, got to the age of 36 without smoking and now I'm on about 15 a day.
My family and friends are relieved I'm out of it but I feel so lonely and down that its a real struggle to stay sober, she smoked and offered me one in November and I'm hooked on them now too, got to the age of 36 without smoking and now I'm on about 15 a day.
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1stepup
I have had so many day ones and failures I also have hesitated to come back on the site out of the fear of embarrassment and rejection.
Never once was I treated with anything but kindness and support.
I actually think that type of thinking is part of the disease or the alcoholic voice that runs rampant in or alcoholic brains.
I don't know you but I am sure you would welcome and support anyone who came here looking for help no matter how many failures they had.
Welcome back.
I have had so many day ones and failures I also have hesitated to come back on the site out of the fear of embarrassment and rejection.
Never once was I treated with anything but kindness and support.
I actually think that type of thinking is part of the disease or the alcoholic voice that runs rampant in or alcoholic brains.
I don't know you but I am sure you would welcome and support anyone who came here looking for help no matter how many failures they had.
Welcome back.
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I understand the loss of a relationship. Its hard. Its saddening.
She was physically abusive and tried to drown you though. There should be relief in the fact that you will no longer suffer from her abuse.
Good work on quitting smoking. You are doing this! Give yourself some credit and know that you are taking back your life and moving forward in a positive direction.
She was physically abusive and tried to drown you though. There should be relief in the fact that you will no longer suffer from her abuse.
Good work on quitting smoking. You are doing this! Give yourself some credit and know that you are taking back your life and moving forward in a positive direction.
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Always keep coming back, always keep trying. You are doing the right thing. Most (if not all) of us failed many times before we got it right. Alcohol has a way of making us feel lower than low, especially during and at the end of a long binge, but even a few sober days under your belt can start giving a different perspective again.
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Originally Posted by 1stepup
I have tom, she messaged me off a number I didn't recognise, twisted she is, that's the hard part, Ive got to get through the withdrawal and the break up- not easy man!
the day aftermy last drunk my (by then ex) fiance told me some of the things i had done and said during a blackout drunk, then tossed me to the curb. i crushed the woman i wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
but that was the action necessary for me to get sober. that was when the pain of getting drunk had finally exceeded reality and i went to AA.
i healed. not only that, but throughmthe steps learned a whole lot about me and how to get rid of the self hate.
it wasnt easy, but worth it.
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Originally Posted by ThatWasTheOldMe
I just had to reread that. o_0
Private message me if you would like my personal advice for detox. I am sorry that happened to you.
Private message me if you would like my personal advice for detox. I am sorry that happened to you.
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