hoping for a guide

Old 06-06-2017, 01:54 PM
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hoping for a guide

hi, hope its ok if i ask for help?
I'm 54 years old , been addicted to alcohol since 16 i think? It made me feel confident and extrovert..(im a socially shy person) made me feel i fitted in at an early age...
Alcohol became acceptable in my social group and whilst growing up.. then i began training in a medical career , we all drank as students to relieve the stress ... i had also a part time job whilst training to supplement my student grant... guess where i was ...yes in a pub.... there i met and married my first husband after 3 months , following my mum who had done the same, years after my dad died.. i believed in her romantic story i think .. i think also i wanted to belong to someone and have a family .. alcohol was still a constant undertone throughout parties etc ... when my two gorgeous children were young my husband could'nt cope with the stress .. and had a fling with my sons godmother and my best son was 9 months old ..we ended up moving abroad to "save" the family as my "friend" was in my medical team family .. but it obviously wasn't going to be..i ended back here bringing back my children and starting again with nothing as a single mum.. desperately seeking the perfect family and coped with you guessed it wine..i drifted into another marriage with someone i trusted but found out later he was a liar and a cheater .. so im alone again , my children have grown up and im so proud if them ..but now lonely and sadly my only friend is alcohol..i dont want it to be but it is...its always there and i work then i can sleep after a while with it helping me and which takes me into the next day..i have had to move closer to work so also im isolated , i have only my children and my sister in the world ... i put my smile on and then evening comes ..
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Old 06-06-2017, 07:31 PM
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welcome, beme, and good for you that you're reaching out.

you say you are addicted to alcohol, and have been so all your adult life. seems safe to say, then, that alcohol is definitely NOT your friend, though i know it can feel like that.

hope you will stick around and look around and find your way.
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Old 06-06-2017, 07:37 PM
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You're not alone here. Many have been through similar things. Funny how time shoots by. You can recover.
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Old 06-06-2017, 07:51 PM
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The short version of how i recovered: I tried or had tried on me a number of things medical, psychological, geographical, and noe of it worked.

Then one day I rang AA and spent an afternoon with a recovered alcoholic. This person explained alcoholism and the AA soution, but more importantly, understood me. He had been me, in effect, and found a way out. I read a book, followed some simple suggestions, and never drank again. Happily sober would be an understatement.
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Old 06-06-2017, 09:54 PM
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Hi and welcome beme

You;'ll find a lot of support understanding and friendship here - real friendship not the false friendship of alcohol.

SR helped me change my life - I know we can hep you change yours too.

Read around, post as much as you like, ask questions - see what other peopel are doing to stay sober, find a way that make sense to you... and go for it
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Old 06-07-2017, 02:59 AM
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Welcome to SR beme,

Well done for reaching out, I'm really glad you found your way here, it sounds like you've been through a lot.

You'll great fantastic support and advice here. Good luck to you on your journey :-)
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