Trying to find day one once again
Hi Asix,
Sorry you're struggling. I see you've had success in the past at getting sober...3 yrs is outstanding! If you've been able to find sobriety in the past, you can do it again! You can get back what you had by simply not drinking today.
As I'm sure you already know, having a plan and making changes is the key to digging ourselves out for good. Trust me, I've relapsed too many times to count. What I realized is that I never really had a solid plan for my recovery, hence the relapses.
One of the tools I use is regular exercise. It not only helps me to stay on track, but I feel less anxiety and depression. I don't always feel like working out...but as soon as I'm out the door, my attitude changes and I'm off. Not once have I finished a long powerwalk and wished I hadn't done it. Everyone has their own tools, but I noticed in one of your previous posts that you mentioned that you wanted to start working out again. Just do it Asix...you will feel so much better!
Did you go to AA the last time you found sobriety? What worked before? Think of what worked, what didn't work and move forward with your plan. I know you can do this if you put everything you've got into it!
Big hugs!
Sorry you're struggling. I see you've had success in the past at getting sober...3 yrs is outstanding! If you've been able to find sobriety in the past, you can do it again! You can get back what you had by simply not drinking today.
As I'm sure you already know, having a plan and making changes is the key to digging ourselves out for good. Trust me, I've relapsed too many times to count. What I realized is that I never really had a solid plan for my recovery, hence the relapses.
One of the tools I use is regular exercise. It not only helps me to stay on track, but I feel less anxiety and depression. I don't always feel like working out...but as soon as I'm out the door, my attitude changes and I'm off. Not once have I finished a long powerwalk and wished I hadn't done it. Everyone has their own tools, but I noticed in one of your previous posts that you mentioned that you wanted to start working out again. Just do it Asix...you will feel so much better!
Did you go to AA the last time you found sobriety? What worked before? Think of what worked, what didn't work and move forward with your plan. I know you can do this if you put everything you've got into it!
Big hugs!
I got my day one by not having any booze in the house and not buying anymore, six.
It's not easy but it is achievable.
If you need more support, would you consider an AA meeting or something?
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It's not easy but it is achievable.
If you need more support, would you consider an AA meeting or something?
D
I spent a lot of time on here in the beginning. I also planned out my evenings when I normally would have been drinking. I went for walks, to the gym, took bubble baths, read both recovery and non-recovery books.
It really does get easier as time passes. Join the May of 2017 class, and join us on the 24 hour thread, both will lend lots of support.
You can do this, start with tonight.
❤Delilah
It really does get easier as time passes. Join the May of 2017 class, and join us on the 24 hour thread, both will lend lots of support.
You can do this, start with tonight.
❤Delilah
Emptied my house of booze, bought knitting needles and watched a lot of cerebral movies. The movies I had kept putting off because I was too drunk to even understand the description on th e DVD box. Then the next day a meeting and a repeat of the previous day. Eventually I realized I suck at knitting and picked up an adult coloring book. Now at five years I'm hooked on those books and have different ones depending on my mood. Five years later life is good and I'm considering trying to start knitting again.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
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Maybe not look for day one to happen, when it does it will and all the others will follow. Maybe change your perspective to the last one.
Confront the AV head on, put the drink down and walk away, declare the last drink the Last One, ever, No Matter What.
Learning about AVRT( great threads here on SR in the Secular Connections forum about it) and making a Big Plan gave me the perspective to stop trying for periods of sobriety and instead Quit, for good, the whole enchilada, one fell swoop, no half measures. Twenty four hours after making the decision to Never drink again , and not change my mind, was my day one.Before making that decision and for years before it, there were days when I didn't drink here and there and of course there would have been , I was leaving the door open to future drinking by not making a BP .You can do it.
Confront the AV head on, put the drink down and walk away, declare the last drink the Last One, ever, No Matter What.
Learning about AVRT( great threads here on SR in the Secular Connections forum about it) and making a Big Plan gave me the perspective to stop trying for periods of sobriety and instead Quit, for good, the whole enchilada, one fell swoop, no half measures. Twenty four hours after making the decision to Never drink again , and not change my mind, was my day one.Before making that decision and for years before it, there were days when I didn't drink here and there and of course there would have been , I was leaving the door open to future drinking by not making a BP .You can do it.
Hey pal,
Your user name has me thinking. A six string nut, like the string nut on a guitar. That tiny little piece of bone can withstand and adapt to so much pressure, so much movement, so much change, so much constant vibration. And without it, the guitar is just a hunk of wood and strings. If a little piece of carved bone can handle that, think of what we can handle as sober humans. And just as the string nut makes beautiful music possible, think of what we can create when we are sober and committed to our purpose.
I understand all too well how tough finding that last day 1 can be. But it can be done. I know that there are so many of us here who would say the same thing. And sobriety is only impossible if you keep drinking. Can you put down the bottle for today? If so, then you can do it for tomorrow as well. If not, what do you need to put that bottle down? If you need help, it's there. You just need to reach out.
Your user name has me thinking. A six string nut, like the string nut on a guitar. That tiny little piece of bone can withstand and adapt to so much pressure, so much movement, so much change, so much constant vibration. And without it, the guitar is just a hunk of wood and strings. If a little piece of carved bone can handle that, think of what we can handle as sober humans. And just as the string nut makes beautiful music possible, think of what we can create when we are sober and committed to our purpose.
I understand all too well how tough finding that last day 1 can be. But it can be done. I know that there are so many of us here who would say the same thing. And sobriety is only impossible if you keep drinking. Can you put down the bottle for today? If so, then you can do it for tomorrow as well. If not, what do you need to put that bottle down? If you need help, it's there. You just need to reach out.
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Hampshire UK
Posts: 162
Hi - I spent all of the last two weeks trying to get to Day 1 again. Now on Day 2 so at least I have begun.
If you need it - take a few days to get your mind in the right place - essentially, you need to be really fed up with your life of drinking. Take a look at your drinking life, a really good look - is that you? is that what you want?
If you need it - take a few days to get your mind in the right place - essentially, you need to be really fed up with your life of drinking. Take a look at your drinking life, a really good look - is that you? is that what you want?
Six? How you doin?
I lost a lot of Tuedays man - a lot of weeks, months and even years.
I lost a lot of good things too.
I don't want to lose any thing or anymore of whatever years I have left.
Let that crazy train roll on without you, brother
whaddya say?
D
I lost a lot of Tuedays man - a lot of weeks, months and even years.
I lost a lot of good things too.
I don't want to lose any thing or anymore of whatever years I have left.
Let that crazy train roll on without you, brother
whaddya say?
D
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