Notices

I don't know how it came to this.

Old 05-19-2017, 08:41 AM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: May 2017
Location: Arizona
Posts: 7
I don't know how it came to this.

I joined this site today. I'm hungover, as I am every morning. And every morning I ask myself why do I do this. This morning I cried instead of just rubbing my dizzy head and crawling back in bed. There's a bottle of wine in the fridge and I'm trying to get the courage to dump it down the drain. I don't want it but I'm scared I'll need it later.
Jay81 is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 08:44 AM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: May 2017
Posts: 5
Originally Posted by Jay81 View Post
I joined this site today. I'm hungover, as I am every morning. And every morning I ask myself why do I do this. This morning I cried instead of just rubbing my dizzy head and crawling back in bed. There's a bottle of wine in the fridge and I'm trying to get the courage to dump it down the drain. I don't want it but I'm scared I'll need it later.
Today is my 1st time here too. Drank all the wine yesterday but Im scared that familiar bottle will be there later. 😣
Time2change4me is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 08:44 AM
  # 3 (permalink)  
Member
 
FreeOwl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 8,637
Originally Posted by Jay81 View Post
I joined this site today. I'm hungover, as I am every morning. And every morning I ask myself why do I do this. This morning I cried instead of just rubbing my dizzy head and crawling back in bed. There's a bottle of wine in the fridge and I'm trying to get the courage to dump it down the drain. I don't want it but I'm scared I'll need it later.
it matters a lot less how it came to this than what you do now.

when I got to that place, what I did was pour out the rest of the booze and get to the next available AA meeting.....

I admitted I was powerless over alcohol, my life had become unmanageable, and I chose out loud to myself - SOBRIETY.

Then I got down to business.

You don't have to do this anymore. It's up to you.
FreeOwl is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 08:45 AM
  # 4 (permalink)  
Member
 
SoberLeigh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,775
Welcome to SR, Jay; so glad you found us.

You never, ever have to feel this way again!!!

There is an exponentially better to live.

Stay close; we are here for you.
SoberLeigh is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 08:47 AM
  # 5 (permalink)  
Member
 
fini's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: canada
Posts: 7,241
And every morning I ask myself why do I do this.

welcome, Jay81 and Time2change4me.

i asked myself that a gazillion times...and kept doing it.

when i changed the question to "what am i gonna do to stop doing this?" , i started moving in a better direction.
fini is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 08:50 AM
  # 6 (permalink)  
I could see peace instead of this
 
Bird615's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Canada, eh
Posts: 2,360
Welcome to SR, both of you!

You're with people now who understand and who have been there and have found a way to get out.

This place is great for finding information and support to help you do that, too. It takes some effort and some work to get and stay sober, but neither of you have to live that way anymore if you don't want to.
Bird615 is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 08:51 AM
  # 7 (permalink)  
Guest
 
Join Date: Apr 2017
Location: UK
Posts: 2,256
Hello Jay, pour the wine away. You're not going to need it later. Start reading threads on here and post as soon as you start thinking about drinking. Take it one day at a time. One minute at a time if necessary. You can do this
kenton is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:00 AM
  # 8 (permalink)  
Member
 
MrPL's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2016
Posts: 1,025
Hi Jay - the first and most important step is realising you don't need the bottle. You drink by choice, not by need, it s now time to choose something else.

P
MrPL is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:09 AM
  # 9 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: May 2017
Location: Arizona
Posts: 7
I started down this horrid path 2 years ago. When I expressed to my loved ones that I think I might have a problem, it was always met with "Well don't drink then." or "I'm sure you're fine, you don't day drink." But I'm not fine. I'm tired, I'm tired of the anxiety I have every morning when I try to piece the night before back together. What did I say/do? Did my husband have to pick me up off of the floor again? How did I get this bruise? I dumped the bottle.
Jay81 is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:11 AM
  # 10 (permalink)  
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,673
Welcome to the family. You'll find lots of support here.
least is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:11 AM
  # 11 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: May 2017
Posts: 5
Originally Posted by Jay81 View Post
I started down this horrid path 2 years ago. When I expressed to my loved ones that I think I might have a problem, it was always met with "Well don't drink then." or "I'm sure you're fine, you don't day drink." But I'm not fine. I'm tired, I'm tired of the anxiety I have every morning when I try to piece the night before back together. What did I say/do? Did my husband have to pick me up off of the floor again? How did I get this bruise? I dumped the bottle.
Funny. My husband says that I dont have a problem. Yet, I know I do.
Time2change4me is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:15 AM
  # 12 (permalink)  
Maladaptive
 
Shitzupuppy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2017
Location: East coast, USA
Posts: 558
Mine says I look skinny today, yeah, that's why I shop in the plus sizes.
What do they know! Lol
Shitzupuppy is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:18 AM
  # 13 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: May 2017
Location: Arizona
Posts: 7
My husband used to say the same thing, Time. Now my husband just says "Tequila or wine?" He doesn't drink. My addiction has become his habit, I suppose. How terrible is that?
Jay81 is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:27 AM
  # 14 (permalink)  
Member
 
gregknight's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: Rupert ID
Posts: 469
Welcome, Jay and Time2change! I think it's evident how we all came to this. The question is only, what are you going to do about it? I can tell you, there is never a "right" time to stop drinking when you get to this, except right now. There is no, "just one more drink" for us.
gregknight is offline  
Old 05-19-2017, 09:43 PM
  # 15 (permalink)  
Member
 
Delilah1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: California
Posts: 13,021
Hello,

Welcome Jay and Time2Change. Glad you are both here. It really does get easier with time, and this site is a wonderful support!!!
Delilah1 is offline  
Old 05-20-2017, 08:11 AM
  # 16 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 3,777
Originally Posted by Jay81 View Post
I started down this horrid path 2 years ago. When I expressed to my loved ones that I think I might have a problem, it was always met with "Well don't drink then." or "I'm sure you're fine, you don't day drink." But I'm not fine. I'm tired, I'm tired of the anxiety I have every morning when I try to piece the night before back together. What did I say/do? Did my husband have to pick me up off of the floor again? How did I get this bruise? I dumped the bottle.
I can relate to this 100%. Every day I was hungover. Every day I was quitting and by the end of the day, I was drunk. I had a problem. A big ******* problem. Anxiety was monumental. Depression was creeping in. I just could not understand how I had gotten so messed up and I was scared I was going to die. I drank knowing full well that I had alcoholism.

The steps I took to gain some footing in sobriety:
I logged onto this site and posted.

I did not buy any wine.

We made changes in the home where there is no alcohol allowed from Sunday to Thursday. Friday and Saturdays are for my SO to drink and that is only after all chores and business has been taken care of.

I made the decision to stop abusing myself and started to recognize that I was worthy of a life that did not include pain everyday.

I checked into the 24 hour thread.

I ate dinner when I came home.

I took a bath or shower to get rid of the day

I watched a show or two on Netflix and went to bed.

I still do all of these things and it has given me 2 months of alcohol free living.

You are capable and can free yourself. Its one day at a time. Take action and move forward. Soon enough, with a new set of rituals, you will experience a healthier version of you.
Mizzuno is offline  
Old 05-20-2017, 08:18 AM
  # 17 (permalink)  
Member
 
Tynesider22's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2017
Location: Tyne and Wear, UK
Posts: 1,538
Welcome friends.

I joined yesterday as well, today is my day 1 as I was sadly 3 pints down when I joined. I'd just got sick of being drunk and penniless, plus my health is completely shot.

Best of luck in your forthcoming journey.
Tynesider22 is offline  
Old 05-20-2017, 08:56 AM
  # 18 (permalink)  
Member
 
fini's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: canada
Posts: 7,241
welcome, Tynesider.
fini is offline  
Old 05-20-2017, 09:09 AM
  # 19 (permalink)  
Friendly Folk
 
ChloeRose63's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
Posts: 21,642
Welcome to all the newbies. There is so much support here for you all and someone is "listening" 24/7 so post anytime and anything you need to get out in the open. We have all been where you are so we know pretty much what you are going thru. Hope you all say close!♡CR
ChloeRose63 is offline  
Old 05-20-2017, 02:07 PM
  # 20 (permalink)  
Member
 
Verdantia's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: St.Petersburg, FL.
Posts: 1,077
Welcome Jay, Tynesider and Time2! This is a wonderful for support, fellowship and advice. Good that you dumped the bottle, Jay. Stick close by here, read and post often. Someone is always here to help. Best wishes-you can do this!
Verdantia is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:00 AM.