Just a question
Blue Belt
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
Posts: 4,174
Getme,
After 3 weeks you are physically clean and your brain is feeling the lack of dopamine.
Alcohol alters production. You tell yourself you are doing great, but really you are craving like a madman.
The crave ramps up. Obsessiveness, paranoia etc.
It boils down to brain damage.
Brain Damage.
It takes a long long time for the brain to normalize.
A long long time to get out of the desire to drink when things are good, bad etc.
Exercise, interaction, doing things for folks, posting here, reading here.
Taking an active role in changing our lifestyle is a way of proven success.
Once we are good and clean (maybe a year or so) things get easier.
I don't believe there is a short cut. We must suffer to get free.
Otherwise, continual relapse. Getting worse and worse.
There is no escape once we cross the line. Once we started drinking excessively and routinely...we will always fall back to that place.
Moderation for us is not possible.
Thanks.
After 3 weeks you are physically clean and your brain is feeling the lack of dopamine.
Alcohol alters production. You tell yourself you are doing great, but really you are craving like a madman.
The crave ramps up. Obsessiveness, paranoia etc.
It boils down to brain damage.
Brain Damage.
It takes a long long time for the brain to normalize.
A long long time to get out of the desire to drink when things are good, bad etc.
Exercise, interaction, doing things for folks, posting here, reading here.
Taking an active role in changing our lifestyle is a way of proven success.
Once we are good and clean (maybe a year or so) things get easier.
I don't believe there is a short cut. We must suffer to get free.
Otherwise, continual relapse. Getting worse and worse.
There is no escape once we cross the line. Once we started drinking excessively and routinely...we will always fall back to that place.
Moderation for us is not possible.
Thanks.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,779
Maybe because you're addicted to alcohol and 'have to' have it to feel 'normal'. I agree with taking drinking completely off the table, no longer an option. Not even one. When you want to be sober more than you want to drink, then you'll stay sober. 
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,564
Hi Getme. This is a great place for questions like that - and many others. We're glad you're here.
I did that for decades. Thought all I needed was willpower to control the amounts I drank. That led me to a destroyed life and daily drinking in the end. Once I realized I couldn't touch a drop - ever - I was able to get free of it and begin to heal. You can do this. I hope you'll stay with us. It helps to share thoughts with those who understand what you're going through.
I did that for decades. Thought all I needed was willpower to control the amounts I drank. That led me to a destroyed life and daily drinking in the end. Once I realized I couldn't touch a drop - ever - I was able to get free of it and begin to heal. You can do this. I hope you'll stay with us. It helps to share thoughts with those who understand what you're going through.
Member
Join Date: May 2012
Location: canada
Posts: 7,242
that happened to me, too, the believing that THIS time will be different.
i think it is because i somehow didn't believe my own experiences, my xperiences of having no control.
every time, after i while i doubted the evidence and was convinced that THIS time...and that is how it came aboutthat i went back repeatedly.
Not only did i not believe my own lived experience, i also clearly wanted to keep drink in my life.
i think it is because i somehow didn't believe my own experiences, my xperiences of having no control.
every time, after i while i doubted the evidence and was convinced that THIS time...and that is how it came aboutthat i went back repeatedly.
Not only did i not believe my own lived experience, i also clearly wanted to keep drink in my life.
Member
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 6,902
I think there is possibly a more important question.... "now I've realised that it's the first drink that does the damage, what can I do with this insight to improve my life?"
I would suggest fully conceding to alcoholism and resolving not to take that first drink. Ever. No excuses. No compromise. Non-negotiable.
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
I would suggest fully conceding to alcoholism and resolving not to take that first drink. Ever. No excuses. No compromise. Non-negotiable.
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,438
It took me a long time to get that it was the first drink that brings me undone - not the last.
The problems start when I introduce alcohol into my system.
Every. Time.
I finally realised, like someone here said. I may not get into trouble every time I drink, but every time I get into trouble, I've been drinking.
It's the engine that gets you, not the caboose.
Accepting that is a game changer.
D
The problems start when I introduce alcohol into my system.
Every. Time.
I finally realised, like someone here said. I may not get into trouble every time I drink, but every time I get into trouble, I've been drinking.
It's the engine that gets you, not the caboose.
Accepting that is a game changer.
D
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