sydneyyoung0813

I am 14 I have had a very rough past my parents have broken up my mom got with this older man who later raped me then my mom turned into a alcoholic when she would get drunk I would have to take care of my 10 yr old brother and my mom who at the time acted like a 7 yr old this was a responsibility that no 8 yr old should have to do this went on for around 5 yrs she finally realized it and promised me that she would stop and that she would not drink so that her and I's relationship would get better after around 3 months she relapsed on Christmas Eve then tried to lie to me saying that she wasn't drunk then she got better and was sober for around 6 months u

Dee74

Hi and welcome Sydney
That's so much for a 14 yo old to deal with - I'm sorry.

Have you got any responsible adults you can confide in - your dad, other family, friends, teacher, doctors?

D

venuscat

Dearest Sydney ~ we are here for you love. This is so much to deal with.
You do not have to do it alone....you have friends here who care about you. ♥

SoberLeigh

Welcome to SR, sydneyyoung.

I am so very, very sorry for all that brings you here.

I hope that you can find a responsible adult in whom you can confide. As Dee mentioned, a teacher, a school guidance counsellor, a doctor could be very good sources of support in real life.

We are here for you, too.

least

Welcome to the family. I hope you have a trusted adult you can talk to.

Kris47

Hi Sydney,

A Big ole hug for you.
I hope your mother gets the help she needs which in turn will help you. Good for you on reaching out. Maybe speak with a priest, counselor or minister or get to an Alanon or Alateen meeting in your area. Never give up hope. You can have a better life.

Try calling AA for help in finding the support you need. You are welcome here, too!

SoberLeigh

Thinking of you, sydneyyoung.

Anna

I'm very sorry for your situation. These following links are specifically for teens dealing with alcoholism within their family:

Teen forum for friends and family
:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/for-alateen

Family Teens Group - Support For Teens Affected by Alcoholism or Addiction within the Family.

Miracles In Progress Family Teens Group - For Teens whose lives are adversely effected by Alcoholism within the Family.

soberclover

I'm glad you found this supportive sight I also hope that you can find a trusted adult that can help you find some face-to-face support. You sound like a very resilient and wonderful person who has been through a lot. It is ok to take the time to take care of yourself too -

blueberry2015

Im sorry to hear this my lovely. As Dee said Alateen can help you x x

Sasha4

I'm sorry too.
You are entitled to a happy, carefree, loving childhood.
You should not have to deal with this.

Parents are never perfect and we do sometimes make mistakes.
But that is no excuse to repeat the pattern of behaviour like your mum is doing.

I agree with everyone else that has posted about you getting help and support to understand alcoholism and how to deal with this.

Does anyone else know what your are dealing with?
School? Grandparents, aunts etc?
I can understand if you are scared to share what is happening.

Do you have any ways of dealing with her when she is drunk?
For example, do you leave the house, or keep out of her way?

Please keep coming here and always know that we care and understand.

I really wish you the best xx

SoberLeigh

Thinking of you, sydneyyoung.

SoberLeigh

Thinking of you, sydneyyoung. Hope you are doing well.

PhoenixJ

Sydney- addiction sucks. What has happened to you sucks. Support to you. Lots of VERY good ideas- talk to someone you trust. You are not a bad person. You are not alone. Keep posting. All my support and tears- PJ.