Help, bad start on weekend!
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Help, bad start on weekend!
I'm on the verge on giving up right now! I had really made an effort on cooking and planning a nice evening for my family. Turns out almost everyone's in a bad mood and children start complaining on the food, dessert, everything. Just feel like crap right now, I left the house for a walk. Weekends are so hard and right now I just feel like "what's the point" in even trying to do this sobriety thing.
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Verona! That sounds very stressful, indeed. You did a great thing by leaving the house and going for a walk so that you could think. Especially since you could have taken the easy way out and just picked up a drink. I'm proud of you! You can do it, I know you can. When you first posted a few days ago I felt a connection with you. We both had many years of sobriety (you 8 and me 4) before relapsing. I look forward to your posts. Please don't give up!
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Hey Verona! I'm SO GLAD you came here first before giving up. It shows you're putting some thought into this and using SR for what it's here for. Support in tough times.
My kids NEVER like what I make for them. Even if they loved it the day before. They're just (pain in the neck) kids and aren't doing it on purpose. I used to romanticize how things should be. I still do. Planning careful meals and trying to make sure everything turned out just right. And then it always blows up in my face. I feel angry that I'm not appreciated. That my kids said "yuck". I feel guilty that I'm feeling angry and discontent. Vicious circle, actually.
Vent away here. Walk to your heart's content to cool off. It isn't worth drinking over. It never is. Even if you have to go sit in the bathroom with the door closed for some quiet time, just hang in there. And keep us posted.
My kids NEVER like what I make for them. Even if they loved it the day before. They're just (pain in the neck) kids and aren't doing it on purpose. I used to romanticize how things should be. I still do. Planning careful meals and trying to make sure everything turned out just right. And then it always blows up in my face. I feel angry that I'm not appreciated. That my kids said "yuck". I feel guilty that I'm feeling angry and discontent. Vicious circle, actually.
Vent away here. Walk to your heart's content to cool off. It isn't worth drinking over. It never is. Even if you have to go sit in the bathroom with the door closed for some quiet time, just hang in there. And keep us posted.
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Hang in there Verona. You just hit a rough patch. It will smooth out soon...Ride it out. They never warned us about what turd birds kids can be! At least I didn't get the warning. Hope to hear from you more...
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Hey Verona- Like others have said, the best thing you did was get out and go for a walk, then post here.
Don't let this incident ruin the progress you've made. You will move through this and be happy you did!
Hang in!
Don't let this incident ruin the progress you've made. You will move through this and be happy you did!
Hang in!
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You will be facing many, many weekends. They all won't be this horrible. Sure, you feel like throwing in the towel. That's just what your addiction wants, and it is making you sensitive to all that is happening around you. But if you want horrible, think how horrible you will feel Monday if you drink this weekend. And then you will just have to face the next weekend feeling the same way. Best to soldier on through, sober, and wait for things to get better...
...cause they will!
...cause they will!
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I would go for a walk too.....right to the restaurant that you would like to have dinner at. Relax and have a nice meal. Being home take-out for the family and ignore any complaints about it. Run yourself a nice bath. Hang in there!
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Because things will be a 1000 times worse that's why x
You done the right thing giving yourself a time out i had days like this every now and then i don't have the best day or people just annoy me the point is they pass and watching them pass while sober is the best move - drinking solves nothing deep down i know you know this x
Enjoy the breather & the walk have a little sprint get that tension out I'm just back from a run it's so therapeutic
You done the right thing giving yourself a time out i had days like this every now and then i don't have the best day or people just annoy me the point is they pass and watching them pass while sober is the best move - drinking solves nothing deep down i know you know this x
Enjoy the breather & the walk have a little sprint get that tension out I'm just back from a run it's so therapeutic
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Sorry your having a rough time. I was prepared to do ANYTHING but drink in the early days. For example if I was in your shoes, I may have food delivered to get everyone fed and hole up in my room or my office for the entire weekend. Anything but drink.
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I made it through sober! Thanks to each and every one of you! Your replies helped me through this. I went for a long walk, bought my favorite soda and candy, everything had settled when I came back home and the rest of the evening went fine. I don't know if I reacted this strongly because I've only been sober for one week, it just felt like the end of the world when nothing went according to my lovely plan :-) I know I tend to take things too personally sometimes, guess I have to work on that... Yay, now I'm going to bed sober! Hope all of you have a great sober weekend!
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Originally Posted by Verona 
I made it through sober! Thanks to each and every one of you! Your replies helped me through this. I went for a long walk, bought my favorite soda and candy, everything had settled when I came back home and the rest of the evening went fine. I don't know if I reacted this strongly because I've only been sober for one week, it just felt like the end of the world when nothing went according to my lovely plan :-) I know I tend to take things too personally sometimes, guess I have to work on that... Yay, now I'm going to bed sober! Hope all of you have a great sober weekend!
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Originally Posted by Verona
I made it through sober! Thanks to each and every one of you! Your replies helped me through this. I went for a long walk, bought my favorite soda and candy, everything had settled when I came back home and the rest of the evening went fine. I don't know if I reacted this strongly because I've only been sober for one week, it just felt like the end of the world when nothing went according to my lovely plan :-) I know I tend to take things too personally sometimes, guess I have to work on that... Yay, now I'm going to bed sober! Hope all of you have a great sober weekend!
ya know, the reason ya had the experience could very well could be because you had plans and expected your plans to go as planned?
i can make plans, but i cant plan the outcome.
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