Day 5 - Porn as a trigger (no adult content and wisdom appreciated)
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Originally Posted by MelbourneHelp 
However, porn in itself is not really an issue, is it?
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At the beginning stages I think all triggers should be avoided and shut down...
Maybe this beginning stage is the first 90 days, first six months or a year? ... I am not sure, I think it comes down to the person and the strength level of the trigger...
This could mean avoiding drinking friends, drinking places or even drinking activities...
For me, triggers include certain types of music or certain movies.... There were some movies I just loved watching drunk....
I even have drinking emotions... I cant allow myself to feel too high and mighty about anything.... That leads me to drinking...
So I am avoiding all of this... I am on day 15...
Anything that gets you thinking about "why not having a drink or two" or "lets get messed up now" will be something to dial out of your life for now...
And your sobriety may lead you to better past times anyway... Be open to it....
You are not your thoughts or actions; those can change and you will still be you... Just you with different thoughts and actions...
Maybe this beginning stage is the first 90 days, first six months or a year? ... I am not sure, I think it comes down to the person and the strength level of the trigger...
This could mean avoiding drinking friends, drinking places or even drinking activities...
For me, triggers include certain types of music or certain movies.... There were some movies I just loved watching drunk....
I even have drinking emotions... I cant allow myself to feel too high and mighty about anything.... That leads me to drinking...
So I am avoiding all of this... I am on day 15...
Anything that gets you thinking about "why not having a drink or two" or "lets get messed up now" will be something to dial out of your life for now...
And your sobriety may lead you to better past times anyway... Be open to it....
You are not your thoughts or actions; those can change and you will still be you... Just you with different thoughts and actions...
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New studies are coming out all the time that are strongly suggesting pornography is addicting, just like drug and or alcohol. It effects the brain the same way. There is a dopamine spike in the brain just like when we use or drink. I won't speak to the moral issue cuz that's not my business, but science is seeing more and more hard biological evidence to point to porn being potentially very addicting.
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It isn't what or how much.......it's the WHY? that counts.
I knew an alcoholic who drank four times a year.
I met a woman who said she could get addicted to staring at doorknobs if she had to.
Laugh if you will, but its' rarely the activity itself that is harmful, it's why you are engaged in the activity.
I knew an alcoholic who drank four times a year.
I met a woman who said she could get addicted to staring at doorknobs if she had to.
Laugh if you will, but its' rarely the activity itself that is harmful, it's why you are engaged in the activity.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
When I get tired or overwhelmed or triggers start to appear (family, finances etc) there is a cycle that I move into which shifts into watching porn online.
couple things here.....you are "using" porn as an escape when things get overwhelming, instead of just dealing with whatever it is that is bugging you. escapism IS a problem for addicts.
you are concerned because often the porn watching leads to drinking or to the desire to drink. as such, if you do not WANT to drink, it's best to shut down any activity that will take you there. stop riding that bus.
thirdly, the sooner you start taking the TRIGGER label OFF of stuff, the easier time you will have. cuz what ARE triggers really? things we used as an EXCUSE to drink.
couple things here.....you are "using" porn as an escape when things get overwhelming, instead of just dealing with whatever it is that is bugging you. escapism IS a problem for addicts.
you are concerned because often the porn watching leads to drinking or to the desire to drink. as such, if you do not WANT to drink, it's best to shut down any activity that will take you there. stop riding that bus.
thirdly, the sooner you start taking the TRIGGER label OFF of stuff, the easier time you will have. cuz what ARE triggers really? things we used as an EXCUSE to drink.
Thank you. This really resonated: escapism IS a problem for addicts.
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