Stewy84

Drunk again. Fallen out with friends and miss my girlfriend, she hasn't called, says it all

Anna

Stewy, you won't be able to make things better until you stop drinking. Then you can look with clarity, and make decisions about what to do.

oakleaf82

Come on now. If you want to change you have to try something different.

ScottFromWI

Not much we can do to help if you keep it up stewy. Is this a new GF or the same one you split up with a while back? Drinking is going to make thigns much worse on that front....why not give yourself a chance?

Outonthetiles

Get rid of the "girlfriends" and work on yourself for a year.
BTW, we've ALL been through the broken heart situation. You're not the only one. Welcome to the rodeo, cowboy. Now knock off the pity party and stop drinking.

Angie247

I drank a lot during the end of a relationship and all it caused was more grief. I had to put down the bottle because the life I wanted could not begin if I was drunk and not clear headed. I know it's hard, and that you're hurting and I'm sorry bout that. Alcohol is a depressant and will only make how you're feeling worse. You deserve a great life without that poison.

Forward12

Have you looked into AA meetings or perhaps rehab? Or do you just want to keep wasting your life away on booze?

SoberLeigh

Trust us, Stewy. Pour out the poison.

Drinking will not improve the situation.

Give yourself a chance at a better life. Do whatever it takes to get sober.

We are here for you.

MsCooterBrown

Nothing will change as long as you continue on down this path of yours. I have also learned (about myself) that I didn't attract the people I would normally like to spend time with in my drunken state. Tended to feed off of that behavior. Much better living the sober life. Give it a try Stewy!

Dee74

Stewy are you hoping news of your drunkeness somehow gets back to her and she'll call?

I used to do things like that.

She/They never called.

Don't waste a decade getting drunk like I did.

It made it immeasurably harder for me to move on because I never dealt with anything. Not One Singe thing.

all I did was wallow in self pity..

You may be living in your parents house again but you're not a child Stewy.. Your folks don't need this either.

Time to grab the reins.

Posting here after you start drinking is not a recovery plan.

D

Stewy84

Donated the remaining beers to a friend, cleared my room of empty cans. This relapse is over, gonna sit and map out my plan. Girlfriend not called, she's not going to, there was a reason I left home and it wasn't working

SparkleKitty

Good start, stewy. Letting go is never easy, but sometimes it's absolutely necessary. Sending you strength and courage to keep doing the next right thing.

Stewy84

I didn't realise how bad my connection with alcohol is, I've got to at least try to stay sober

August252015

IME, I had to choose to get sober. Trying couldn't be an option.

Good luck.

tomsteve

stewy, sobriety and recovery isn't something that's tried unless youre planning on drinking again.
its something that done. there is action required.
do you want to get sober?
are you willing to go to any lengths to recover?

grayghost1965

I'm reminded of the most futile quote I've ever heard - "I'm going to try and make an effort" - that's the most foolish thing I've ever heard. As Yoda said, "Do or not; there is no try" Sounds like you made the right first step in "donating" the beers. Build on each small success and you'll see a miracle.

Stewy84

Sorry guys it was an unfortunate term for me to use. Instead of at least trying, I'm going to be doing.

I'm sad about being away from my girlfriend, things weren't great but I do miss her

Dee74

Like I said to someone else today Stewy when we lose someone we can have a tendency to fear we'll never have that kind of relationship again.

I guarantee you can and you will - and if you work on your recovery it'll be an amazingly better experience next time around for you and your new partner, whoever she might be.

You mentioned before that you stopped drinking but never really got to grips with the void in you and you were trying to fill it with other kinds of stuff.

I started to progress when I stopped trying to fill my void and started instead on healing it.

Nows the time to do that, & let the light in on that underlying stuff - and the first thing to do there is not drink anymore.

You can do this.

D

MrMcTell

Good man. Everyone here is pulling for you.

Stewy84

In bed, day 1 done, cheers for helping me pull through guys, means an awful lot