I am DONE
LoveHateMerlot
Join Date: Mar 2017
Location: Texas
Posts: 68
I really feel you OnlyLoveToday....last night I became drunk, mean and jealous wife to my husband. Drinking has formed a wedge in our marriage in the past because of this, I pushed him farther and farther away, but the more I fight this battle, and he now has more of an understanding how hard it is for me to stop, my husband and I are closer than ever. That doesn't mean I can get drunk and mean and expect him to love me again in the morning...but I focus on the hurt I caused him to help me stay away from that wine glass. I screwed up last night, I woke up ashamed and full of guilt and reminded myself who I become when I do drink. Instead of asking for my husband's forgiveness this morning, I sat down in front of him and asked if he was okay to talk. I told him my deepest fears come out when I am drinking, and instead I should learn how to communicate my fears when I am sober. That is usually what happens....I don't tell him what makes me angry, but when I drink it ends up pouring out of my mouth like toxic vomit. Any way, sending love and support to you. We can fight this fight! I will not drink with you :-)
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Originally Posted by LoveHateMerlot 
I really feel you OnlyLoveToday....last night I became drunk, mean and jealous wife to my husband. Drinking has formed a wedge in our marriage in the past because of this, I pushed him farther and farther away, but the more I fight this battle, and he now has more of an understanding how hard it is for me to stop, my husband and I are closer than ever. That doesn't mean I can get drunk and mean and expect him to love me again in the morning...but I focus on the hurt I caused him to help me stay away from that wine glass. I screwed up last night, I woke up ashamed and full of guilt and reminded myself who I become when I do drink. Instead of asking for my husband's forgiveness this morning, I sat down in front of him and asked if he was okay to talk. I told him my deepest fears come out when I am drinking, and instead I should learn how to communicate my fears when I am sober. That is usually what happens....I don't tell him what makes me angry, but when I drink it ends up pouring out of my mouth like toxic vomit. Any way, sending love and support to you. We can fight this fight! I will not drink with you :-)
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Join Date: Mar 2017
Location: Fairfield County, CT
Posts: 110
I finally had the sit down talk with my husband this morning. Enough is enough for me. I'm tired of the excuses I make for drinking, i.e. Work stress, sick mom, etc. drinking for me is making everything so much worse. I'm with you guys 100%.
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Originally Posted by Eastcoaster20
I finally had the sit down talk with my husband this morning. Enough is enough for me. I'm tired of the excuses I make for drinking, i.e. Work stress, sick mom, etc. drinking for me is making everything so much worse. I'm with you guys 100%.
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