bhudsontuck

I can't stop. I hate myself.

Mattq2

Bhudson,
If I can stop you can stop. I think you just haven't found the right method that works for you. What steps are you taking. It's all about commitment to your plan my friend. How can we help?

Anna

Yes, you can, for sure. What have you tried? There are other things you can add to your plan. You must not give up hope because this disease is relentless.

Delilah1

You can definitely stop, start by putting down any alcohol you have right now. What are your plans tonight?

least

You can stop, you just haven't done it yet. You have to want to be sober more than you want to drink.

OscarDoes

Hang in there. You can do this.

columbus

If I

(and so, so many others) can stop

so can you.

PhoenixJ

I am a loser too. A lot of people here are losers. That is why we are here. I hate myself some days. I turn hate into anger into acceptance into action. If you know a thing, you can change a thing.

Verdantia

You can, Bhudson. I thought I was a hopeless case. I despised myself. I thought I was the worst person alive. I was wrong. I was in the grip of a debilitating illness. Fight for your life against this relentless disease. You can beat it. Sober Recovery is a wonderful place to find help and encouragement. Wishing you hope and strength.

bluedog97

I'm a loser too. Got 99 problems but alcohol no longer one. At least if I stay sober today. You can too.

Dee74

I don't think any of us are losers...that's drinkin' thinkin'

I had to clear my house of booze and then basically put myaelf under house arrest to get a day one, but I did it.

Did you decide to talk to your husband?

Chances are he knows if you're drinking rum bhudsontuck - it's not a subtle odour..

D.

BruceSA

Hello, Bhudson.

As D says, you're not a loser. None of us are.

The only thing you've got to lose is the alcohol.

Follow the advice here - it's solid and it works.

Best wishes,
Bruce.

Berrybean

You know, you're not a loser. You're probably just an alcoholic. But that won't mean it's impossible to stop drinking. Just that you're going to need true acceptance of how unmanageable alcohol makes your life; how much it screws up relationships (with ourselves for a start off, and making us fearful of being honest with others - that's 2 fairly fundamental relationship crisis points right there!); that moderation is not going to work; and a good sobriety plan to help you learn new and better ways of dealing with life's ups and downs and s**t-bombs, without reaching for a drink.

Most of us had multiple failed attempts at sorting our drinking out before we finally got sober. I had loads of attempts at moderating for example. And short-term stopping to 'reset' my drinking (by the way, that does NOT work lol. Completely counterproductive in fact).

Where are you at so far? If you tell us what you have already tried, perhaps we can make more useful suggestions to help out a bit.

Take care.
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB

Meraviglioso

You are not a loser, you are an alcoholic, two different things. You need to get sober to see yourself in a different light, how are you going to do that? What have you tried so far? What can you try?

Aquafina

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vvvX5QM4z3Y

Wholesome

I'm a loser when I drink too. My actions when I'm drinking aren't consistent with my values when I'm sober. Good news is that we can change and do better.

BruceSA

Thanks Aquafina.

Great song, brings back such memories!

B.

Ultramarathoner

Failure (or losing) is an event, not a person. I'm the wrong person to tell you how to do it- yet I firmly believe all are able to achieve sobriety.

Kcey

I can do it you know- if I can you can
At least you know you need to stop that as a good place to start
Now just put that in to practice and stop drinking

graciepearl

Don't hate yourself, hate the alcohol