Advice on Quitting Alcohol - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Go Back   SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information >
Register Blogs FAQ Members List Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read





Reply
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 02-23-2017, 08:19 PM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58

Advice on Quitting Alcohol


Hello. My name is Gabriel. I came across this site yesterday. But the truth of the matter is I have been trying to find a good community for a while to help me quit alcohol and I hope sober recovery can help me.

I have been struggling with alcohol addiction for many years...probably 10 years of serious drinking most days of the week. I have been drinking to get drunk since I was an early teenager, however. I drink both beer and hard alcohol to get drunk and black out most days. This whole routine leads to fights with my wife, so I end up sneaking drinks. She knows I am drinking though because I always act like a fool. I'll always say things I regret, make a mess of the kitchen, call old friends, drop dishes and break them, wake up with strange bruises, and have no recollection of the night in the morning. I manage to go to work though, but hung over with anxiety, regret, a headache and vowing to quit that night. But I always manage to restart. The urge is too powerful.

My family has a strong history of alcohol abuse. My Dad died early and we are sure alcohol was a contributing factor. My younger brother died at 32 years from cirrhosis and a GI bleed. So sad...

I have to quit. I am in my early forties and do not want to die from alcohol the way my family has. I want to get along with my wife and want to be a good role model for my son. If I continue on this path, it is only a matter of time before I hit bottom. For the past few years I have quit on and off. My longest stent was for five months which was over a year ago. I planned to quit for the new year but there was always a reason to keep drinking, friends, family visit, birthday, etc. I am tired of this cycle. I am on day 4 now without alcohol today. I'm not drinking tonight. I dumped most of the alcohol down the drain. I've never had withdrawal symptoms. I would just like some advice on quitting alcohol for good. I am determined this time. I am doing the usual things like eating dinner early and eating sweets if needed. I'm drinking lots of water and have been going to the gym. These things have helped with the urges. Thank you and any advice would be appreciated.

Gabriel
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to Gabriel1 For This Useful Post:
Delilah1 (02-23-2017), least (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), MelindaFlowers (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-23-2017), TheRuralJuror (02-23-2017), thomas11 (02-24-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 08:22 PM   #2 (permalink)
Member
 
badger257's Avatar
 

Join Date: Sep 2015
Location: Madison, WI
Posts: 793
Hi Gabriel. It sounds like you are truly ready to be done. Welcome! Come join us is the Class of February 2017. Great support here!
badger257 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to badger257 For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-23-2017), Delilah1 (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 08:26 PM   #3 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 80,651
Blog Entries: 32
Welcome to the family. Congrats on four days sober. That's a good start.

I hope our support can help you get and stay sober for good.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 08:35 PM   #4 (permalink)
Guest
 

Join Date: Dec 2015
Posts: 928
Welcome! You've found a great site with a lot of support.
bluedog97 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to bluedog97 For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 08:44 PM   #5 (permalink)
quat
 

Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: terra (mostly)firma
Posts: 4,493
I found SR when I was sick of the cycle and had to quit, too. I was actually even sick of being sick of the cycle if that makes any sense , and it just might.
My first time here I saw mention of AVRT/RR , there are really great threads on these ideas here on SR in the Secular Connections forum. Those ideas really resonated with me, I recommend checking them out.
Wish you well and hope to see you around, and congratulations, you have quit, don't start again , ever.
Come back often, read, post , ask, and come back often
dwtbd is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to dwtbd For This Useful Post:
Algorithm (02-23-2017), Dee74 (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-23-2017), Tatsy (02-24-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 08:46 PM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 
soberandhonest's Avatar
 

Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: Northwest U.S.
Posts: 757
Hi Gabriel. Welcome to SR! This is a good place to get support and information.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Gabriel1 View Post
If I continue on this path, it is only a matter of time before I hit bottom.
Gabriel
I just want to say that this statement is true, but it misses the point a bit. If you keep going, all that you are doing - literally every single day - is making your bottom lower. If you accept that you have a serious problem with alcohol, are willing to change, and take actions to recover, your bottom does not need to be any lower. Make a choice to jump off this elevator. There are lots of folks here to support you.

Good job so far!
soberandhonest is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to soberandhonest For This Useful Post:
Algorithm (02-23-2017), August252015 (02-24-2017), bethshebas (02-24-2017), Dee74 (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 08:52 PM   #7 (permalink)
I could see peace instead of this
 
Bird615's Avatar
 

Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Canada, eh
Posts: 2,361
Blog Entries: 11
Welcome to SR, Gabriel!
If you really want sobriety, this is a great place to get started.
__________________
"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today."
-Alcoholics Anonymous
Bird615 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Bird615 For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 09:02 PM   #8 (permalink)
Member
 
Delilah1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: California
Posts: 11,335
Hi Gabriel,

Welcome to SR!!

I stopped drinking about 14 months ago at the age of 45. I tried a few times before that, but then decided I would give moderation a try, if that pops into your head, I can save you a few years and tell you it doesn't work, at least it never did for me.

There are many avenues to recovery. My biggest support is this website, I read and post daily. The two threads that have helped me the most are the 24 hour thread and the monthly class (someone else suggested joining February of 2017)

The first few weeks were the hardest for me, more emotionally than physically. I made sure to plan alternate activities for the times I would normally spend drinking. I went to the gym, hiking, took the kids to the park, or their activities, read lots of books both recovery, and for fun. Slowly it got easier.

It is very rare that thoughts of drinking pop into my head anymore, and when they do pop in playing the tape through and thinking about how I would feel the next morning if I did drink works.

Glad you are here!
__________________
Delilah

“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”
― Ernest Hemingway

Sobriety Date: January 1, 2016
Delilah1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Delilah1 For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-23-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 09:21 PM   #9 (permalink)
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 179,242
Blog Entries: 1
Hi and welcome Gabriel
This is a great link of recovery plans and well worth a read

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html

D
__________________
Dee74 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
Mags1 (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 09:41 PM   #10 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Hello everyone. Thank you for the warm welcome and advice. It really is nice to talk with and have the support of people that have gone through this. I will catch up on the February 2017 thread and others this weekend. I had a good night and the urge to drink was not so too bad. I am looking forward to day 5 tomorrow.
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Gabriel1 For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-24-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 09:43 PM   #11 (permalink)
 
Algorithm's Avatar
 

Join Date: Sep 2016
Posts: 848
Quote:
Originally Posted by Gabriel1 View Post
I have to quit... If I continue on this path, it is only a matter of time before I hit bottom.
Why not change this from "I have to quit" to "I have quit" instead? In the past tense, instead of something that has yet to occur?

Your addiction is trying to drag this thing out, with the whole "if I continue" and "hitting bottom" business. You already know that bottom could be death, not recovery.

Are you going to continue drinking?

If you want to stop this from becoming a long, drawn out process, consider the recommendation from dwtbd.
__________________

I have full faith in your own capacity to recover, even if you do not.
Algorithm is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Algorithm For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (02-24-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017), PurpleCat (02-24-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 09:55 PM   #12 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by Algorithm View Post
Why not change this from "I have to quit" to "I have quit" instead? In the past tense, instead of something that has yet to occur?

Your addiction is trying to drag this thing out, with the whole "if I continue" and "hitting bottom" business. You already know that bottom could be death, not recovery.

Are you going to continue drinking?

If you want to stop this from becoming a long, drawn out process, consider the recommendation from dwtbd.
Thanks for advice. You are right, I have quit!
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Gabriel1 For This Useful Post:
Algorithm (02-24-2017), dwtbd (02-25-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 09:59 PM   #13 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by Delilah1 View Post
Hi Gabriel,

Welcome to SR!!

I stopped drinking about 14 months ago at the age of 45. I tried a few times before that, but then decided I would give moderation a try, if that pops into your head, I can save you a few years and tell you it doesn't work, at least it never did for me.

There are many avenues to recovery. My biggest support is this website, I read and post daily. The two threads that have helped me the most are the 24 hour thread and the monthly class (someone else suggested joining February of 2017)

The first few weeks were the hardest for me, more emotionally than physically. I made sure to plan alternate activities for the times I would normally spend drinking. I went to the gym, hiking, took the kids to the park, or their activities, read lots of books both recovery, and for fun. Slowly it got easier.

It is very rare that thoughts of drinking pop into my head anymore, and when they do pop in playing the tape through and thinking about how I would feel the next morning if I did drink works.

Glad you are here!
Thank you Delilah. You are very kind. I hope it gets easier with time. I plan on staying busy!
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Gabriel1 For This Useful Post:
Mags1 (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 10:00 PM   #14 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by Madbird View Post
Welcome to SR, Gabriel!
If you really want sobriety, this is a great place to get started.
Thank you Madbird. I believe this place will really help me.
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Gabriel1 For This Useful Post:
Mags1 (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 10:03 PM   #15 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by soberandhonest View Post
Hi Gabriel. Welcome to SR! This is a good place to get support and information.



I just want to say that this statement is true, but it misses the point a bit. If you keep going, all that you are doing - literally every single day - is making your bottom lower. If you accept that you have a serious problem with alcohol, are willing to change, and take actions to recover, your bottom does not need to be any lower. Make a choice to jump off this elevator. There are lots of folks here to support you.

Good job so far!
Hi. You are right. I am done with alcohol. I'm not going any further down...I'm going to look up.
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Gabriel1 For This Useful Post:
Mags1 (02-23-2017), soberandhonest (02-24-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 10:05 PM   #16 (permalink)
Member
 
Mags1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 11,577
Blog Entries: 1
Hi Gabriel, and welcome to SR .

I found this site a lifeline.

I wasn't sure what the Recovery was about but once I'd decided I don't drink anymore then I had to learn to live without it. So some great advice from like minded people.

I'm sure you'll find help and support here.
__________________
Sober Date Twentieth of July 2013

What day is it today?”asked Pooh.
“It’s today.” squeaked Piglet.
“My favourite day.” said Pooh
. ❤️

Mags1 is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 02-23-2017, 10:05 PM   #17 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by dwtbd View Post
I found SR when I was sick of the cycle and had to quit, too. I was actually even sick of being sick of the cycle if that makes any sense , and it just might.
My first time here I saw mention of AVRT/RR , there are really great threads on these ideas here on SR in the Secular Connections forum. Those ideas really resonated with me, I recommend checking them out.
Wish you well and hope to see you around, and congratulations, you have quit, don't start again , ever.
Come back often, read, post , ask, and come back often
Hi. Thank you for the advice. I will check out the threads. I plan to stick around.
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Gabriel1 For This Useful Post:
dwtbd (02-25-2017), Mags1 (02-23-2017)
Old 02-23-2017, 10:07 PM   #18 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by bluedog97 View Post
Welcome! You've found a great site with a lot of support.
Thank you Bluedog. I'm looking forward to the support and exploring new threads.
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-23-2017, 10:08 PM   #19 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by least View Post
Welcome to the family. Congrats on four days sober. That's a good start.

I hope our support can help you get and stay sober for good.
Thank you. I'm looking forward to everyone's support. Great place.
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-23-2017, 10:10 PM   #20 (permalink)
Member
 
Gabriel1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: NY
Posts: 58
Quote:
Originally Posted by badger257 View Post
Hi Gabriel. It sounds like you are truly ready to be done. Welcome! Come join us is the Class of February 2017. Great support here!
Hi Badger. Thanks for the welcome. I'll check out class of February 2017.
Gabriel1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:15 AM.