SoberNunn

Today is my 36th birthday and I'm hungover and depressed. I drank nearly 3 bottles of wine yesterday after having a tough day with my son (he has autism). I'm so fearful of the future. I've been a daily binge drinker for more than a decade and am sure I've done irreversible damage to my health. Has anyone been able to walk away from this life without health problems? I need to be around a long time for my son and I need to be sober

Kcey

Happy birthday chicken - I can't say anything about health problems but the less you drink the better and you know that already.
Do you get respite or specialist help with your son .
Do you get support from family and friends - it's better to get all the help you can rather than self medicating.
Hope you have a better day today and don't beat yourself up just dust yourself down, drink plenty of water eat well (it's your birthday) and carry on
Best wishes

alyn528

Happy Birthday!!
As an Momma of an child who has Autism I know your worries trust me my son he will be going into high school and ever since he was in grade school I always feared him being in high school and it's stressful the fact you have that need to protect your baby from anything and everything. Kids are so cruel these days but I put the blame onto the parents.

I know the worry that's upon your shoulders I can relate to that. I'm always here if you want to vent, talk or anything it's nice when you find another Mom that has an child with Autism.

Kcey

Also, being fearful all the time means your missing out on all the good times if you can learn to enjoy the moment and let go of the fear life will seem better.
Having a child with autism is very worrying and support plans have to be put in place.
Do that then relax a bit and don't let the fear overwhelm you, I bet your doing a fabulous job believe in yourself now.

Kcey

Kids can be cruel but they can be kind too.
In my experience the younger kids love the differences in other kids, it's the older they get the more they want to conform And hang around others that conform to what teenagers consider "normal " teenage behaviour.
Teenagers with autism can isolate themselves the world can seem a very scary place, teenage support groups can help them chat to others with the same worries.
Also the spectrum is so vast it's a very individual thing.
Look after yourself

Dee74

Hi SoberNunn

I can guarantee that the earlier you quit the better off your health will be

Obviously drinkings not good for you or your son.

do you belong to any autism support groups, or is there someone to help you carry the load a little?

D

SoberNunn

Thank you everyone for your kindness. I'm feeling pretty pathetic at the moment as I want to quit so badly but keep relapsing every few days. My parents are very supportive but my husband works very long hours so I do feel lonely in this journey as a special needs parents. We do a lot of early intervention (therapy). My son has just started school and his meltdowns and behaviours have been quite intense as he transitions to the demands of the classroom.

Kcey

Every thing seems 10 times worse with a hangover.
Tomorrow will be better

SoberNunn

Thanks kcey. ��

PhoenixJ

Health problems need to be seen too. I saw a doctor to work out what was what. At the same time I stopped drinking to stop stuff getting worse. It takes time. I walked away from drinking. I had to work on my the health with my doctor.
Support to you. PJ

Dee74

Ps Happy Birthday - hope you feel a little better later.

D

Done4today

Hello SoberNunn,

Many have walked away without or minimal health problems. But you need to stop drinking, see a dr to get a baseline, then follow their directions to give you the best chance at full recovery.

I am praying for you and your family.

Nic233

Hope you feel better soon.. I know I got extreme anxiety when I was hung over.. Doesn't help when you're feeling overwhelmed..

My youngest Son has autism and is now 15.. it was very pronounced and obvious when he was younger as he had some learning difficulties and both vocal and physical tics. I was terrified for what the future would hold but he is in mainstream class, just scored 91% on a maths test, has friends and appears "normal" in behaviour and mannerisms these days.
My Son is high functioning but is like a completely different kid to when he was in primary school. It's stressful being a Parent and can be even more so with a special needs child. Hopefully you take some time to nurture yourself too, and have faith that all will be ok with your Son.
I was a daily wine drinker and have been sober 7.5 weeks this time round. I have so much more energy and can see a brighter future without alcohol in it..

Sending you love and strength to get through this xx

Anna

Happy Birthday! As others have said, the best thing and the only thing you can do now is to stop now. Hopefully your health will be fine, but continued drinking is guaranteed to make things worse. Do you have family members who can help with your son when you become upset?

gregknight

It gets easier once you can get past the first week of sobriety. Until then, you are still detoxing and your body wants to stop that. Your mind is stressed beyond belief and anxiety is off the charts. I once went literally, a week without sleep during a bad detox period. You have to just not drink though as that will only delay the pain and make it worse. If you need medical help, don't hesitate to get it. You will need help to stay sober. People can call it what they want, but alcoholism, like any disease, cannot be fought alone. You must seek help and have a long term plan for sobriety. A prayer and best wishes from me.

bethshebas

so you're at day one

again

yep I get it.

BTW Happy Birthday

Aquafina

At 32 I highly desire to see my son grow up. Hes 9 and an absolute soldier of positivity. He's the only thing keeping me alive.

I cant imagine raising an autistic child. I hope you can love him.

tomls

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SOBERNUNN!!!!!

thomas11

The feelings you have right now will pass in a few days which often opens us up for another drinking session. I think it is critical to think the whole thing through so in a few days when these current feelings have passed and you feel like drinking, you've prepared yourself to not cave in. We've all had to do it, and its not easy but can be done.

SoberNunn

Thank you to everyone who has replied to this thread. Your responses mean so much to me at this time. Day 2 today. Freaked out this morning as my urine was orange. I'm hoping it's just dehydration. Also had pins and needles in my foot last night but other than that I'm feeling ok. My doctor gave me some diazepam. She gave me 10x 2 mg tablets. I hope that's enough to to get me through.