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Originally Posted by Frickaflip233 
Hi Newhope
I can always find a dozen or more reasons not to do what I need to do to get sober, when I'm obsessed and under the control of my addiction.
You've been talking about inpatient for quite a while. I challenge your belief that you can do this without some kind of major intervention....otherwise you would have already. And sounds like your loved ones want you to go. Out of state maybe because they don't want you to be able to easily leave early?
Money. Maybe do some honest calculations on how much money you've spent on booze, and will continue to spend if you keep drinking. Not to mention the emotional cost on those around you. Sounds like your husband has come to terms with the money aspect. And insurance should cover some of the cost if you have it. AND negotiate with the rehab. Don't just accept their costs at face value.
Pets? I'm assuming your hub can take care of them.
As with any program in recovery, you get out of it what you put in. There is no magic cure. I've been to multiple rehabs, left early, played my ego/victim game. I was a nightmare. This last rehab I was desperate and WILLING. I did what I was told and I had a great experience. I stopped fighting and thinking I could do this MY way. MY way involves drinking.
Good luck.
I can always find a dozen or more reasons not to do what I need to do to get sober, when I'm obsessed and under the control of my addiction.
You've been talking about inpatient for quite a while. I challenge your belief that you can do this without some kind of major intervention....otherwise you would have already. And sounds like your loved ones want you to go. Out of state maybe because they don't want you to be able to easily leave early?
Money. Maybe do some honest calculations on how much money you've spent on booze, and will continue to spend if you keep drinking. Not to mention the emotional cost on those around you. Sounds like your husband has come to terms with the money aspect. And insurance should cover some of the cost if you have it. AND negotiate with the rehab. Don't just accept their costs at face value.
Pets? I'm assuming your hub can take care of them.
As with any program in recovery, you get out of it what you put in. There is no magic cure. I've been to multiple rehabs, left early, played my ego/victim game. I was a nightmare. This last rehab I was desperate and WILLING. I did what I was told and I had a great experience. I stopped fighting and thinking I could do this MY way. MY way involves drinking.
Good luck.
My insurance is covering everything so that part of his fiduciary concerns are unwarranted.
Also, I am going out of state because from what me and my aunt researched, it was best facility I could afford with my insurance plan.
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Originally Posted by heartcore
Everyone gets very scared before they show up. Some people get so scared that they try to do their crazy "last-binge" & actually OD before they can get there. It is terrifying to consider that it might actually work & you might never ever use or drink again.
Like the night before a wedding.
So being scared is absolutely normal. It doesn't mean you shouldn't go.
Like the night before a wedding.
So being scared is absolutely normal. It doesn't mean you shouldn't go.
I also wanted to let you know that your post gave me comfort and it reminds me why I need to stay close to SR before I leave so I don't binge again.
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Originally Posted by August252015
Do you want to quit drinking? More than anything else?
AA can do it, lots of programs can do it, and inpatient can get you started - all based on YOU deciding to quit.
Good luck.
AA can do it, lots of programs can do it, and inpatient can get you started - all based on YOU deciding to quit.
Good luck.
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Originally Posted by Algorithm
You are 100% correct there, especially if you drink again soon after rehab, as many do. Discuss this with your family, and make sure that they understand this possibility. They may expect something to work on you and fix the alcohol problem, much like antibiotics might cure an infection. This may be why they are pushing for in-patient.
It doesn't work that way.
An Addict's Most Vulnerable Time is Right After Treatment
It doesn't work that way.
An Addict's Most Vulnerable Time is Right After Treatment
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I think you want to quit - you've been here too long to be here just to keep other people happy 
I think you're terrified tho of being sober and I think everyone here knows how that feels.
It's a leap of faith...but it's one that's been made by many of us and we all not only survived we thrived
why not let yourself go and give this a chance?
D
I think you're terrified tho of being sober and I think everyone here knows how that feels.
It's a leap of faith...but it's one that's been made by many of us and we all not only survived we thrived
why not let yourself go and give this a chance?
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Originally Posted by Zebra1275
As someone else mentioned, you joined this forum in 2009, the same year as me.
If I was still struggling 8 years later, my wife wouldn't tell me to go to inpatient rehab. She would be long gone.
It sounds like you family is ready for you to take drastic action. They may not have said anything, but they might be at the "end of their rope" with you.
Stop trying to find "an easier, softer way."
If I was still struggling 8 years later, my wife wouldn't tell me to go to inpatient rehab. She would be long gone.
It sounds like you family is ready for you to take drastic action. They may not have said anything, but they might be at the "end of their rope" with you.
Stop trying to find "an easier, softer way."
Also, my brothers still binge drink and my father is a meth addict. I always felt one shouldn't throw stones yet he have them thrown at them.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
I think you want to quit - you've been here too long to be here just to keep other people happy
I think you're terrified tho of being sober and I think everyone here knows how that feels.
It's a leap of faith...but it's one that's been made by many of us and we all not only survived we thrived
why not let yourself go and give this a chance?
D
I think you're terrified tho of being sober and I think everyone here knows how that feels.
It's a leap of faith...but it's one that's been made by many of us and we all not only survived we thrived
why not let yourself go and give this a chance?
D
Thank you for the vote of confidence.
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Originally Posted by newhope01
I so hard heartedly disagree. I feel so sorry for you that you think otherwise.
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So, I just confirmed my appointment for this Friday at 12PM. Thanks to Heartcore I talked them down 2000$ so I appreciate your advice.
Im scared as hell but I really have to ask myself what is the worse thing that could happen? So far the only outcome seems to be one that is positive.
So thanks again for the kindness and your time.
Im scared as hell but I really have to ask myself what is the worse thing that could happen? So far the only outcome seems to be one that is positive.
So thanks again for the kindness and your time.
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I'm glad you have a date, that should help you to feel a little more settled. If you are worried about your husband taking care of your cats is it possible to board them, or leave them with another family member?
You can do this, and I promise sobriety is worth it!!!
You can do this, and I promise sobriety is worth it!!!
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Originally Posted by Delilah1
I'm glad you have a date, that should help you to feel a little more settled. If you are worried about your husband taking care of your cats is it possible to board them, or leave them with another family member?
You can do this, and I promise sobriety is worth it!!!
You can do this, and I promise sobriety is worth it!!!
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You made a great choice, and I'm really glad your cats will be taken care of.
Do think deeply about not doing this for others, but doing it for you.
Your hopes, dreams, and just daily life can be so much richer sober.
I was really terrified of life without alcohol too when I first quit,
but now, I have (amazingly) built a sober life that is so much
happier and better I never want to go back to drinking again.
Please keep us updated newhope
Do think deeply about not doing this for others, but doing it for you.
Your hopes, dreams, and just daily life can be so much richer sober.
I was really terrified of life without alcohol too when I first quit,
but now, I have (amazingly) built a sober life that is so much
happier and better I never want to go back to drinking again.
Please keep us updated newhope
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Still terrified and I think it's partly due to the fact that I am not doing it for myself and so I feel I will fail.
It's kind of like in the back of my mind I can hear that nasty AV whispering, "don't worry you can drink when you get out."
Yeah, that'd be a smart move
It's kind of like in the back of my mind I can hear that nasty AV whispering, "don't worry you can drink when you get out."
Yeah, that'd be a smart move
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You will be different after.
You don't have to worry now, because your reasons, your understandings, & your intentions will be new.
I will think about you tomorrow & send you good energy!
All you need to carry in is some willingness. We just never know what is about to happen next...
You don't have to worry now, because your reasons, your understandings, & your intentions will be new.
I will think about you tomorrow & send you good energy!
All you need to carry in is some willingness. We just never know what is about to happen next...
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Go with willingness. Willing to do whatever
it takes, following suggestions, keeping an
openmind to healthy, positive options, listening,
learning, absorbing and applying all this helpful,
useful knowledge that they will teach you about
your addiction and program of recovery to
help you remain sober one day at a time.
After today, you never have to go back to
that insanity, that rollercoaster ride of ups
and downs that come with drinking.
Ask for patience in quiet prayer that you
allow all that toxic, poisonous substance
that has be running thru your entire body
to leave so that you can begin the healing
process.
Everything you will go thru beginning today
will become that solid healthy foundation to
live your life upon from today forward.
I entered rehab via a family intervention
and after a 2 week instay rehab hospital,
I made the decision to want to stay for the
entire 28 days instead of going to an halfway
house miles away from my little family.
They told me that I wasn't ready to live
at home with just 2 weeks sober and that
I would certainly drink again. When they
told me that, I felt sure that they were not
lieing to me and that I needed more teaching
about my addiction and its affects on me
and those around me.
I did stay and completed a 6 week aftercare
outpatiant aftercare program before I was
released. That was 26 yrs ago.
I have remained on my recovery path,
journey for a many one days sober at
a time to get me where I am today. I
learned what I needed to learn and
continued to remain teachable thru
out the yrs, achieving health, happiness
and honesty in all my affairs.
I have never let go of that lifeline of
having others just like me to grab a
hold of, to reach out to, to have support
for that has helped me remain sober
thruout the yrs.
Ive never wanted to go out again and
test the waters of my addiction because
I had had enough of my own misery to
have it returned back to me.
All I have to do is read or listen to many
who have gone back out thinking they
could do some control drinking or using,
that they were cured, to only return later
to let me know that NO it hasn't changed
and they actually picked up right back where
they left off at. So NOTHING changed.
Yes, you can remain sober today on out
with the help and guidance of many who
have remained sober and found success living
their lives incorporating tools and knowledge
taught to them to achieve some awesome
rewards and promises as written in the Big
Book of AA.
Stay strong. Be responsible. You can do this.
it takes, following suggestions, keeping an
openmind to healthy, positive options, listening,
learning, absorbing and applying all this helpful,
useful knowledge that they will teach you about
your addiction and program of recovery to
help you remain sober one day at a time.
After today, you never have to go back to
that insanity, that rollercoaster ride of ups
and downs that come with drinking.
Ask for patience in quiet prayer that you
allow all that toxic, poisonous substance
that has be running thru your entire body
to leave so that you can begin the healing
process.
Everything you will go thru beginning today
will become that solid healthy foundation to
live your life upon from today forward.
I entered rehab via a family intervention
and after a 2 week instay rehab hospital,
I made the decision to want to stay for the
entire 28 days instead of going to an halfway
house miles away from my little family.
They told me that I wasn't ready to live
at home with just 2 weeks sober and that
I would certainly drink again. When they
told me that, I felt sure that they were not
lieing to me and that I needed more teaching
about my addiction and its affects on me
and those around me.
I did stay and completed a 6 week aftercare
outpatiant aftercare program before I was
released. That was 26 yrs ago.
I have remained on my recovery path,
journey for a many one days sober at
a time to get me where I am today. I
learned what I needed to learn and
continued to remain teachable thru
out the yrs, achieving health, happiness
and honesty in all my affairs.
I have never let go of that lifeline of
having others just like me to grab a
hold of, to reach out to, to have support
for that has helped me remain sober
thruout the yrs.
Ive never wanted to go out again and
test the waters of my addiction because
I had had enough of my own misery to
have it returned back to me.
All I have to do is read or listen to many
who have gone back out thinking they
could do some control drinking or using,
that they were cured, to only return later
to let me know that NO it hasn't changed
and they actually picked up right back where
they left off at. So NOTHING changed.
Yes, you can remain sober today on out
with the help and guidance of many who
have remained sober and found success living
their lives incorporating tools and knowledge
taught to them to achieve some awesome
rewards and promises as written in the Big
Book of AA.
Stay strong. Be responsible. You can do this.
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