Feel like im going crazy..
Agree with this x100. I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship and didn't realize until a lot of damage had already been done.
How long have you guys been together? Is it possible that his mask is only just starting to slip? It can take 1-2 years before you come into direct contact with the real face of an abuser - they gotta be sweet sometimes or else why would you ever stay.
You don't deserve that treatment, whatever is going on. Being sober will definitely help you figure it out. Hugs.
How long have you guys been together? Is it possible that his mask is only just starting to slip? It can take 1-2 years before you come into direct contact with the real face of an abuser - they gotta be sweet sometimes or else why would you ever stay.
You don't deserve that treatment, whatever is going on. Being sober will definitely help you figure it out. Hugs.
He mostly treats me very well so its hard to remember the abuse when the good times happen again..
I had an abusive bf years ago & he wasnt nice all of the time..it was easy to know the answer to what to do then but when they are nice most of the time its hard..ive never stuck up for myself or done the right thing by myself at the right time...
Anyway..im day 3 down, in bed & happy to know I wont be hungover or groggy in the morning..
Thanks for your support guys its awesome..
We been together 3.5 years..his behaviour was evident after we moved in together after 2 months..i left after 11 months but came back.. I generally only see this behaviour when we have an arguement, which is not that often, maybe once a month or 2..& most likely when we have been drinking, if we havent been drinking it ends a lot faster & is less volatile..actually sometimes not..but mostly..but if drunk the esculate to the point where i promise myself I will leave in the morning cause I dont deserve this but then I dont.. I bottle up my feelings/thoughts with him & cant articulate them well to him..
He mostly treats me very well so its hard to remember the abuse when the good times happen again..
I had an abusive bf years ago & he wasnt nice all of the time..it was easy to know the answer to what to do then but when they are nice most of the time its hard..ive never stuck up for myself or done the right thing by myself at the right time...
Anyway..im day 3 down, in bed & happy to know I wont be hungover or groggy in the morning..
Thanks for your support guys its awesome..
He mostly treats me very well so its hard to remember the abuse when the good times happen again..
I had an abusive bf years ago & he wasnt nice all of the time..it was easy to know the answer to what to do then but when they are nice most of the time its hard..ive never stuck up for myself or done the right thing by myself at the right time...
Anyway..im day 3 down, in bed & happy to know I wont be hungover or groggy in the morning..
Thanks for your support guys its awesome..
Getting sober and the clarity that will bring will help you figure out what is really going on and what/if you're willing to put up with those moments. Day 3 is a great accomplishment. Keep going and taking care of yourself. x
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