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Hello all,
I'm new here and just recently decided to reach out for help dealing with alcoholism. I could tell I had a problem because I was drinking in the morning sometimes and going on 3-4 day benders. It was starting to effect my work life but most importantly it was starting to effect my personal life with my girlfriend. She's dealt with alcoholics and addicts before in her life and was not happy when she found out I was sneaking drinks at home or lying about the amount I had drank. Ultimately I'm doing this for my health but I also am worried she won't stay in a relationship with an alcoholic.
I'm new here and just recently decided to reach out for help dealing with alcoholism. I could tell I had a problem because I was drinking in the morning sometimes and going on 3-4 day benders. It was starting to effect my work life but most importantly it was starting to effect my personal life with my girlfriend. She's dealt with alcoholics and addicts before in her life and was not happy when she found out I was sneaking drinks at home or lying about the amount I had drank. Ultimately I'm doing this for my health but I also am worried she won't stay in a relationship with an alcoholic.
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Welcome and I'm glad you decided to stop drinking. It's good that you are motivated by your girlfriend, but ultimately this will be something you need to do for yourself. I hope you keep reading and posting because you will find lots of support here.
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Welcome! You came to the right place. Tons of support and wisdom here.
There are some good posts you may like to read to get you started:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...at-we-did.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...k-up-site.html
Also, we have a class for every month that is all people who got sober that month. If you'd like come join us in the class of Jan 2017! It's a good place to get support from people in the same beginning phases of recoveryhttp://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-thread.html:
There are some good posts you may like to read to get you started:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...at-we-did.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...k-up-site.html
Also, we have a class for every month that is all people who got sober that month. If you'd like come join us in the class of Jan 2017! It's a good place to get support from people in the same beginning phases of recoveryhttp://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-thread.html:
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Welcome CAP215.
Every suggestion above, plus the benefit of complete anonymity is that you can be completely honest. I found that being able to post absolutely everything that was worrying me or just needed to be said (typed) without any worry of recrimination or judgement really helped.
Every suggestion above, plus the benefit of complete anonymity is that you can be completely honest. I found that being able to post absolutely everything that was worrying me or just needed to be said (typed) without any worry of recrimination or judgement really helped.
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Welcome.. I'm still new and learning my way but, also tried to quit for a GF in the past..It doesn't work. You will need to want to get sober for yourself. My current relationship is in 'limbo'.. She still drinks,but that's not my problem. I had to realize my problem was/is me. I can not be concerned with other's, as I have no control of their happiness. At this point in my journey I have to put my sobriety first among everything.
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I 100% agree with you dontremember. This is a decision to fix me for something I'm doing, she was more or less the catalyst to seek help from others with experience. Do you have any issues with being around her while she drinks? I've stopped for multiple two week stints and don't get bothered or feel overwhelming urges to drink when others drink around me I just can't control myself when I start. I didn't know if it was frowned upon to continue spending time at social interactions where alcohol is being consumed?
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Cap, sometimes it's easier when you're first getting sober to remove all temptation. Some people have a harder time being around alcohol and staying sober than others, we're all different.
That being said, I also know people who have gotten sober while bar-tending full time, so it can be done. I think if you can avoid situations with alcohol for the first month or so it can be helpful, but it has to be faced eventually, that's just the world we live in.
That being said, I also know people who have gotten sober while bar-tending full time, so it can be done. I think if you can avoid situations with alcohol for the first month or so it can be helpful, but it has to be faced eventually, that's just the world we live in.
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Nice to meet you Cap! You're in the right place for sure and I think your main reason for quitting is great. The extras in terms of better health and mental calmness are just icing on the cake. 
Post and read up often, there is great insight and experience here.
Post and read up often, there is great insight and experience here.
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