Not a good New Year with Husband
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Not a good New Year with Husband
We are both alcoholics but he bought blow tonight. I asked him, because he's done it before this year. He was honest but hesitant.
I don't do that. But he still asked if I wanted some of course I said no, alcohol is enough of a problem. He was gone before 12 and it's almost 2:30. I think he might have a problem with that too. Opinions?
I'm not going into my sobriety dealing with that.
I'm sure he won't tell me anymore. So maybe trust is gone.
I don't do that. But he still asked if I wanted some of course I said no, alcohol is enough of a problem. He was gone before 12 and it's almost 2:30. I think he might have a problem with that too. Opinions?
I'm not going into my sobriety dealing with that.
I'm sure he won't tell me anymore. So maybe trust is gone.
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I'm sorry that you're dealing with that, Marissa. I have no experience with that, so I don't have any words of wisdom. I just want you to know that someone cares about the tough situation that places you in. Sobriety for us alcoholics is tough enough without a wrench being thrown into the mix.
I hope you both get things figured out and it all works out in the end.
I hope you both get things figured out and it all works out in the end.
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I'm sorry Marissa, I know things have been bumpy lately. Focus on what you can control, which is you and your sobriety, try to take things one day at a time. Sending you lots of virtual hugs.
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I controlled throwing his clothes out. Then watched him stumble into the house and threaten me. Hopefully he has another perspective when he wakes up. Meanwhile I'm on my last drink, which I thought would be pleasant for New Year's, but it's not. I can't even get a buzz for the adrenaline. Damn it!!!
I'm cooking a good NY dinner and AA on Monday. He can "Kiss My Ass".. :-)
I'm cooking a good NY dinner and AA on Monday. He can "Kiss My Ass".. :-)
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Delilah.. I guess I'm a control freak. But I just wanted a few moments for NY's and he wasn't here and was just across the street. It just made me mad he couldn't give me a few minutes. I finally went across the street at 2 am to get him. I stayed an hour (we like our neighbors) just talking. But he still didn't come home until 4 am.. No girls there just guys. But I felt abandoned and he didn't even tell me he was going over there.
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I hope you focus on yourself and your recovery. It takes a lot of energy to get sober and recover and I'm glad you're ready to start the journey. Maybe your husband will follow your example, maybe not. But, either way, you will be better off.
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