Coping With Fear and Disappointment - Weekender 10-13 November
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Morning,
Good luck at work Soberandhealthy. , I can only echo what Dee said, if you are nice to people they will move on pretty quickly. You are not a crazy person, just an addicted one like we all are but you don't have to stay that way Soberandhealthy. The thought of going without alcohol seems positively frightening to people like us but that is just the voice of your addiction, the reality is so different. I hear the pain alcohol is causing you and really hope you can stop hurting yourself starting today.
CajunPrincess you must tell your doctor and ask for a scan, the chances are that there is nothing wrong is overwhelming. Explain your family history and I am sure they will understand
Good luck at work Soberandhealthy. , I can only echo what Dee said, if you are nice to people they will move on pretty quickly. You are not a crazy person, just an addicted one like we all are but you don't have to stay that way Soberandhealthy. The thought of going without alcohol seems positively frightening to people like us but that is just the voice of your addiction, the reality is so different. I hear the pain alcohol is causing you and really hope you can stop hurting yourself starting today.
CajunPrincess you must tell your doctor and ask for a scan, the chances are that there is nothing wrong is overwhelming. Explain your family history and I am sure they will understand
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When working as a registered nurse I heard the story going around the hospital about a junior doctor who was assisting a specialist who had almost finished closing up a patient when a bowel smell wafted around the operating theatre. He got worried the patient had a perforated bowel- so reopened that patient and closely examined each section of bowel which was a time consuming process. There were no perforations.
The junior doctor had farted and was too embarrassed to say anything.
Hoping everybody are safe and sane and sober.
The junior doctor had farted and was too embarrassed to say anything.
Hoping everybody are safe and sane and sober.
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Originally Posted by Soberandhealthy 
Well I have no other options thank you Dee
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Thank you guys I'm so mortified I didn't sleep last night and getting because I'm supposed to be in pretty early I am so embarrassed I want to die to stop dealing with this mess I feel this will never stop. I have been in and out of embarrassing situations because of my drinking so much I'm emotional tired and feel I can't go on
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Hi, weekenders.
Fear and disappointment ... Both follow me like multiple shadows.
I spent the weekend in a bout of severe depression.
And now I am facing a huge fear of making a call. My boss told me to contact a person who is the head of a department in the government agency. And I have to set up a meeting with him because I need information from him. The guy is so out of my league. I am totally terrify how not to screw up this call and make him interested in meeting me.
I dont know why telephone calls are some kind of horror story for me.
Anyway, hope everyone has a good start of the week. Whatever fears are - they are better dealt with when sober.
See you all)
Fear and disappointment ... Both follow me like multiple shadows.
I spent the weekend in a bout of severe depression.
And now I am facing a huge fear of making a call. My boss told me to contact a person who is the head of a department in the government agency. And I have to set up a meeting with him because I need information from him. The guy is so out of my league. I am totally terrify how not to screw up this call and make him interested in meeting me.
I dont know why telephone calls are some kind of horror story for me.
Anyway, hope everyone has a good start of the week. Whatever fears are - they are better dealt with when sober.
See you all)
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Congratulations from me, too, Lunar!
MB, I feel your pain in dreading making phonecalls! Especially important business ones where something serious is riding on them.
Over the years I've learned to do better with them. I still dislike having to deal with them--I wish I could close my eyes and make them go away--but with practice and repetition I have come to feel more competent.
Can you write down a little speech for yourself to get through the initial introduction? That will help a lot!
MB, I feel your pain in dreading making phonecalls! Especially important business ones where something serious is riding on them.
Over the years I've learned to do better with them. I still dislike having to deal with them--I wish I could close my eyes and make them go away--but with practice and repetition I have come to feel more competent.
Can you write down a little speech for yourself to get through the initial introduction? That will help a lot!
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Well, I made that call. Action against fear. It wasnt scary. The gentleman was adequate and agreed to meet. Another knockdown for the fear.
Thank you weekenders)
Thank you weekenders)
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Gilmer we probably posted at the same time. I actually did this - wrote a detailed script including introducing myself and my topic. And prepared materials I may need to refer to. It did help a lot.
Thank you!
Thank you!
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SAH, as I said to someone else about a doctor visit, the anticipation is worse than the actual moment by moment living through the event.
You will survive. You will be relieved once the initial entry into the workplace is over. Then you'll be able to deal,
You will survive. You will be relieved once the initial entry into the workplace is over. Then you'll be able to deal,
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Thank you I'm here and I want to hide underneath my desk people keep looking at me a bit weird or just plain not talking I'm so mortified and embarrassed 😩 I don't want to drink ever again and I want this day to be over already
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