Back to recovery
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2016
Posts: 10
Back to recovery
This is day one for me. I feel pretty awful but also hopeful and relieved that this nightmare is over at last, if I want it to be. Remembering that I have had a long period of being sober in the past is helpful for me, I want to get back to that sense of peace and happiness that I had, without drinking or using. If I can get and stay sober once then I can do it again. I'm going to focus on that. But maybe I under estimate what it takes. Big change is needed. When I started again I didn't pretend I could handle it, I knew full well that I couldn't. I think I wanted to punish myself in some way. Things went down hill fast and here I am again, right back at the bottom. I want to forgive myself and get better. I fear that the more times you fail the harder it gets, because I gave in time and time again, my brain has become wired to give up. But I know these are just negative thoughts brought about by the trap, I need to replace with positive ones. I'm going to focus on self-forgiveness and not getting drunk or high today.
I'm on day 1 again too
The anxiety feels terrible, I am always worried about my health, wondering the damage to my body, especially my liver. I can't believe I use to drink like this (binge) for so many years almost every day. I never want to live like that again!
Just commit to another 24 hours, we will not drink today!
Just commit to another 24 hours, we will not drink today!
I'm with FreeOwl, why do you think you drank again? In my experience it's painful to really dig deep and figure it out but it can help to identify what needs to change.
I've had to change so, so much. From small things like eating sweets on the way home to avoid the temptation of the 7 off licenses I walk past (7 in one small road?! Completely unnecessary haha), to going to meetings every other day whether I feel like it or not, to selling my whole gaming computer setup because as much as I think I love it, I just liked the comfort of getting drunk and gaming for hours mindlessly.
Change is hard, but doing things differently can help keep us sober :-)
I've had to change so, so much. From small things like eating sweets on the way home to avoid the temptation of the 7 off licenses I walk past (7 in one small road?! Completely unnecessary haha), to going to meetings every other day whether I feel like it or not, to selling my whole gaming computer setup because as much as I think I love it, I just liked the comfort of getting drunk and gaming for hours mindlessly.
Change is hard, but doing things differently can help keep us sober :-)
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2016
Posts: 10
I started in the middle of an exam period, after feeling stressed and that I was a failure, ironically I ended up getting top marks but at the time I was beating myself up about what I couldn't do. I had difficulties with someone at work and generally making me feel small and useless. I also did something bad a few months ago that I feel really guilty about. The usual loneliness and social anxiety, trying to find a job and dealing with rejection letters, struggling with money .... none of these things were resolved in any way by drink or drugs, it just makes everything worse. I wasn't thinking logically at the time. I hope that posting here helps me to see that.
I started in the middle of an exam period, after feeling stressed and that I was a failure, ironically I ended up getting top marks but at the time I was beating myself up about what I couldn't do. I had difficulties with someone at work and generally making me feel small and useless. I also did something bad a few months ago that I feel really guilty about. The usual loneliness and social anxiety, trying to find a job and dealing with rejection letters, struggling with money .... none of these things were resolved in any way by drink or drugs, it just makes everything worse. I wasn't thinking logically at the time. I hope that posting here helps me to see that.
Still sober and feeling better. Allowing myself to rest today, read and work on my recovery plan. I hope you have a great day without alcohol! And many more days.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2016
Posts: 10
I slipped up again last night and had a drink. Not to excess. No excuses I know, but this was an unusual situation in that I went to visit my mum after telling her that I got a distinction in my masters degree, she had a few friends around. She'd already bought me a bottle of beer to celebrate. I refused it but she gave me a funny look. Was I supposed to say "by the way i'm also an alcoholic and drug addict" in front of all her friends?
How am I going to handle this with family in the future? Well, last time I had a long stretch of sober time I just told them I was going to the gym a lot and so not drinking at the moment, which worked fine, they quickly got used to me not drinking and stopped offering me drinks. I am actually joining a gym on Monday and looking forward to that. I will be sure to mention it to them.
I'm not going to dwell on it too much. I think the temptation will be increased today but I will resist the urge. I'd had a really good day 2, already beginning to feel a lot calmer and to see a better life without drinking or using. I'm not going to drink or use today.
How am I going to handle this with family in the future? Well, last time I had a long stretch of sober time I just told them I was going to the gym a lot and so not drinking at the moment, which worked fine, they quickly got used to me not drinking and stopped offering me drinks. I am actually joining a gym on Monday and looking forward to that. I will be sure to mention it to them.
I'm not going to dwell on it too much. I think the temptation will be increased today but I will resist the urge. I'd had a really good day 2, already beginning to feel a lot calmer and to see a better life without drinking or using. I'm not going to drink or use today.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: US
Posts: 5,095
I'm glad you're recommitting.
I guess ya just should have said no thank you. My family knows I'm an alcoholic so that makes it very easy. I don't worry if they are judging me. They judge me far more when I'm drunk!
I guess ya just should have said no thank you. My family knows I'm an alcoholic so that makes it very easy. I don't worry if they are judging me. They judge me far more when I'm drunk!
There are two things that come to mind: tell your mom before there is a next time. Basically: plan ahead for these situations.
Second, change your habits and find new routines. You said "big change is needed". Quitting substance abuse is often followed by repairing and rebuilding one's mental health and studying emotional "baggage". But, that happens after you've sobered up. For now, try going to the library after work or going for a walk to change up your routine. Just don't drink.
Keep posting and ready SR that will help you.
Second, change your habits and find new routines. You said "big change is needed". Quitting substance abuse is often followed by repairing and rebuilding one's mental health and studying emotional "baggage". But, that happens after you've sobered up. For now, try going to the library after work or going for a walk to change up your routine. Just don't drink.
Keep posting and ready SR that will help you.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2016
Posts: 10
Yeah, I've mentioned today that I've started going to gym, watching my diet and cutting out drinking, my family respect that so there won't be a next time. You're right it is best to have a plan, I hadn't really considered that aspect of things, as most of my drinking was done alone.
I know it is a slippery slope and I don't want to go back to where I was at. From another perspective it cemented the need to stay sober in my mind. Earlier that day I felt so much calmer even though it was only day 2, I'd slept much better and was feeling hopeful. Just one drink and I could feel all of that progress slipping away and I hated it. I got nothing out of it in return. So yeah, I regret it but I think it has made me more determined.
I know it is a slippery slope and I don't want to go back to where I was at. From another perspective it cemented the need to stay sober in my mind. Earlier that day I felt so much calmer even though it was only day 2, I'd slept much better and was feeling hopeful. Just one drink and I could feel all of that progress slipping away and I hated it. I got nothing out of it in return. So yeah, I regret it but I think it has made me more determined.
I refused it but she gave me a funny look
Was I supposed to say "by the way i'm also an alcoholic and drug addict" in front of all her friends?
I definitely think a plan can help us in those ambush moments. Be prepared
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
D
Member
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Upstate NY, USA
Posts: 141
Just LIE and say your stomach hurts....ANYTHING IS BETTER THAN DRINKING....I'm sure you lied to her plenty of times about drinking, you can do it now....for a good cause. WHATEVER IT TAKES, MAN!
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Nov 2016
Posts: 10
I'm putting it behind me now. Back on day 2 and feeling good and determined,
This is day one for me. I feel pretty awful but also hopeful and relieved that this nightmare is over at last, if I want it to be. Remembering that I have had a long period of being sober in the past is helpful for me, I want to get back to that sense of peace and happiness that I had, without drinking or using. If I can get and stay sober once then I can do it again. I'm going to focus on that. But maybe I under estimate what it takes. Big change is needed. When I started again I didn't pretend I could handle it, I knew full well that I couldn't. I think I wanted to punish myself in some way. Things went down hill fast and here I am again, right back at the bottom. I want to forgive myself and get better. I fear that the more times you fail the harder it gets, because I gave in time and time again, my brain has become wired to give up. But I know these are just negative thoughts brought about by the trap, I need to replace with positive ones. I'm going to focus on self-forgiveness and not getting drunk or high today.
It's less daunting than it feels.
Just choose sobriety, and then act in small daily ways to support and honor that choice.
Before you know it, you will be surrounded by Big Change that happened gradually as you made small daily choices and changesture.
You can do it.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)