Dyl71

Hi Folks,

I have posted anything for awhile. I lost my mother on September 23, 2016, after she lost a five year battle to kidney failure and exacerbated COPD.

I knew it was coming. We all did. This past year, she spent more in the hospital ward than at home. During her last week, they could even give her dialysis. She had no food, nor was she given any of her medications. Just Morphine. We basically watched her pass away slowly over the week.

I'm still heartbroken. When I moved back to Canada from Chicago in 2010 - she was just starting dialysis. I'm glad to say that I saw her almost everyday for the last 6 or so years.

She understood that I was an alcoholic, and she supported me in my quest to stop drinking for good by anyways necessary.

I quit for a few months in 2014 before relapsing. I tried again on July 27, 2015 and I've been sober ever since. I'll be coming up to my sixteenth month of sobriety in a few weeks.

I'm glad I was sober during the last year and a half of her life, and I was glad she was so understanding about my drinking problem, although she herself never drank or did drugs. I'm still grappling with the fact that she was only 70 when she died, with no bad habits.

I would like to honor my mothers memory, and I have no desire to drink even more so than ever before. SR has really helped me with this......and so did my mom. God rest her soul.

Anna

Oh, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. How wonderful that she was able to support you and that you were sober and present for her. I know she would be very proud to know that you are getting through this sober.

Meraviglioso

I am so sorry about the loss of your mother, my deepest condolences to you. As Anna said, she would be proud of you. We are here for you if you need us.

Ruby2

I'm sorry that you lost your mother. It's great that you were there to support her at the end, just as she loved and supported you on your journey to sobriety. To keep learning about yourself and growing is a great way to honor her.

Maudcat

I am sorry for your loss, Dyl71. It's good that you were present for her last years. It will mean the world to you going forward. Peace.

Pattik57

So sorry for your loss. What a tribute to her and what a wonderful son you are. You're in everyone's thoughts

Dyl71

On the Bright side of things, the Cubs won the World Series last night - and I was able to fulfil one of my mom's bucket list items - I took her to Wrigley field to see the Cubs play in 2007. She was elated sitting in that majestic old park that afternoon. We even topped it off by going to Giordano's for deep-dish pizza afterwards.

Memories of my mom.......I guess I'm probably going to have a million flashbacks of good days from the past.

SoberLeigh

I am so sorry to learn of the passing of your mother, dyl. As a mother, I know that she must have been so comforted and at peace not only by your presence in her time of extraordinary need but, also, by the knowledge that you had stopped drinking.

Congratulations on your sobriety and for being such a good son to your mother.

Polaroid

I'm sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine losing a parent.

Stay strong, Dyl, stay sober. That's without a doubt what your mother wants.

emme99

So sorry to hear about the loss of your mom Dyl. You are in my thoughts.

Sober'sBest

My Mom passed the same way; peacefully with IV morphine.

We knew her next breath would be in Heaven with our savior friend and family.

I wonder if newcomers there get a 'birthday' party; receiving their true eternal reward.

Although years have passed, I never felt depressing grief endorphins on my wonderful parents passing; just warmth.

I look forward to my own passing, and eternal joy.

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MidnightRider

Sorry for your loss.... It is so tough. I lost my Mom last year.

I appreciate what you are saying and find it very touching.

Honor our Mothers by living clean lives....

Thank you for posting and hang in there ... It get's easier and it is a good feeling knowing our Mom's are watching over us.

Delilah1

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.

flguy1

Hey Man - Very sorry to hear about your mother and I wish you peace.

Delizadee

I am so sorry about your loss
What great gifts you've given your mother, and good for you for keeping strength during such a difficult time. My thoughts are with you too.

MissPerfumado

I'm so sorry Dyl71. I'm so glad you spent time with her in the last few years and that the last year and a half were sober ones. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for the reminder to all of us to value our sobriety and cherish our loved ones.

Hevyn

Dyl, I'm sorry for the pain you've experienced through losing your mom. Very proud of you for staying sober throughout this sad time. Prayers for you and your dear mom are going up.

Dee74

I'm very sorry for your loss.

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MeSoSober

Adding my condolences to everyone else's. What a blessing that last long stretch of sober time with your mom was. Your post is a lovely tribute to her, as is your sobriety. Wishing you peace.