Lost and scared
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Lost and scared
Here i go again...trying to stop drinking for what seems like the millionth time. I have all the faith and strength for about 3 days or so and fall back. This time I haven't been able to make it through day one. Been drinking all my life and I am 58. But the past few years have gotten worse. Where is my strength? I am so ashamed and weary. Looking for some answers and some help.
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I know that each time I failed, it got harder to stop the next time. It was very scary. Please try not to feel ashamed. Alcoholism is not a character defect. You can stop and you can get through Day 1. Take it an hour or a minute at a time. Get rid of alcohol in your house, don't buy more, make a recovery plan, keep yourself busy. You can do this!
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
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Hi Pattik...welcome to SR!
If you truly want to quit, you've come to the right place.
I drank for nearly 30 years before I stopped for good. That was 7+ years ago. We ALL start with Day 1, but you've gotta want it. We CAN and DO recover!
If you truly want to quit, you've come to the right place.
I drank for nearly 30 years before I stopped for good. That was 7+ years ago. We ALL start with Day 1, but you've gotta want it. We CAN and DO recover!
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Join Date: Oct 2016
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Thank you. I have gotten all the alcohol out of the house and making this day 1. I have talked to my son and he wants to help so much but this is really all up to me. And you are right. It has gotten harder and harder to stop for any length of time. I am determined not to have to start over again
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It's so good to meet you, Patti. Being here really helped me - I never felt alone after I joined SR.
I was older too when I admitted I could no longer predict what would happen when I drank. It had been fun for a long time - but something was different. I had grown dependent on it & needed it to get through the day. It felt so good to get free of it. You can do it.
I was older too when I admitted I could no longer predict what would happen when I drank. It had been fun for a long time - but something was different. I had grown dependent on it & needed it to get through the day. It felt so good to get free of it. You can do it.
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Hevyn
Thank you I just keep lying to myself that I can drink and be okay this time. And I know how stupid that is...even when I am stopping to buy a bottle of wine. I have done that and cried while opening it and drinking. How dumb is that? I am just so out of control I am scared. It has to stop today
Thank you I just keep lying to myself that I can drink and be okay this time. And I know how stupid that is...even when I am stopping to buy a bottle of wine. I have done that and cried while opening it and drinking. How dumb is that? I am just so out of control I am scared. It has to stop today
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Join Date: Feb 2016
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Hi Pattik! Welcome to SR 
It's never too late and you're in the right place.
Have you ever thought of implementing or working a program for yourself?
Trying to quit on our own is very hard for most of us.
Read lots of stickies around here, you'll find tons of info, resources and support here. You can do this. Have some faith in yourself, it can and will get better if you take that first step.
It's never too late and you're in the right place.
Have you ever thought of implementing or working a program for yourself?
Trying to quit on our own is very hard for most of us.
Read lots of stickies around here, you'll find tons of info, resources and support here. You can do this. Have some faith in yourself, it can and will get better if you take that first step.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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Welcome Patti
take a look around, read as mauch as you like and ask questions. You'll find a lot of methods at play here
Why not join our October support thread?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-2-a-3.html
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take a look around, read as mauch as you like and ask questions. You'll find a lot of methods at play here
Why not join our October support thread?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...art-2-a-3.html
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Originally Posted by Delizadee 
Hi Pattik! Welcome to SR
It's never too late and you're in the right place.
Have you ever thought of implementing or working a program for yourself?
Trying to quit on our own is very hard for most of us.
Read lots of stickies around here, you'll find tons of info, resources and support here. You can do this. Have some faith in yourself, it can and will get better if you take that first step.
It's never too late and you're in the right place.
Have you ever thought of implementing or working a program for yourself?
Trying to quit on our own is very hard for most of us.
Read lots of stickies around here, you'll find tons of info, resources and support here. You can do this. Have some faith in yourself, it can and will get better if you take that first step.
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Welcome Pattik,
You can do this! My biggest hurdle was getting past day 3 too with cravings. I'm on day 6 today and it's gotten a lot better. Don't get overwhelmed by thinking of the future, deal with it day by day. Join the 24 hour club and hold yourself accountable for 24 hours at a time and you'll be surprised how quickly the days add up.
You can do this! My biggest hurdle was getting past day 3 too with cravings. I'm on day 6 today and it's gotten a lot better. Don't get overwhelmed by thinking of the future, deal with it day by day. Join the 24 hour club and hold yourself accountable for 24 hours at a time and you'll be surprised how quickly the days add up.
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Originally Posted by IHaveFaith2016
Welcome Pattik,
You can do this! My biggest hurdle was getting past day 3 too with cravings. I'm on day 6 today and it's gotten a lot better. Don't get overwhelmed by thinking of the future, deal with it day by day. Join the 24 hour club and hold yourself accountable for 24 hours at a time and you'll be surprised how quickly the days add up.
You can do this! My biggest hurdle was getting past day 3 too with cravings. I'm on day 6 today and it's gotten a lot better. Don't get overwhelmed by thinking of the future, deal with it day by day. Join the 24 hour club and hold yourself accountable for 24 hours at a time and you'll be surprised how quickly the days add up.
Congratulations on day 6! I am wondering how I will handle the stress without having that calming glass of wine but then I know I won't stop there. It is a vicious cycle
Thank you for the encouragement!
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Welcome PattiK. I am pretty new here too. This is a great place and without it I don't know if I would have made it through my first days/weeks. If I wasn't working or sleeping I was on here reading, reading, reading.
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Originally Posted by Quincy
Welcome PattiK. I am pretty new here too. This is a great place and without it I don't know if I would have made it through my first days/weeks. If I wasn't working or sleeping I was on here reading, reading, reading.
It is keeping my mind from going too crazy but my eyes are getting too blurry lol
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